Just relax? Yeah Right!

[Globetrecker]

Is it just me or does the phrase: "don't worry honey, you'll get pregnant as soon as you stop trying" either drive you nuts or not make logical sense? I'd love to just not worry but ladies, what medically you HAVE to have sex before/during ovulation so in my mind, we really can't just not worry about it! I'd hate to stop trying and then miss critical days of egg meeting sperm!

Anyone else out there wonder how the whole "just relax" thing really works? Especially if you're already seeing that you're ovulating?

 

[ForeverYoung]

Is it just me or does the phrase: "don't worry honey, you'll get pregnant as soon as you stop trying" either drive you nuts or not make logical sense? I'd love to just not worry but ladies, what medically you HAVE to have sex before/during ovulation so in my mind, we really can't just not worry about it! I'd hate to stop trying and then miss critical days of egg meeting sperm!

Anyone else out there wonder how the whole "just relax" thing really works? Especially if you're already seeing that you're ovulating?

Today was the very first day I got a positive ovulation test. And honestly, this month I haven't been thinking about conceiving at all, or looking for ovulation symptoms or anything. I had decided that I wanted to wait awhile.

I went through 2 months of not being able to get a positive opk. I pretty much figured out I was testing too soon. Now, I can't wait for dh to get off work so I can jump his bones and steal his baby gravy.

I think relaxing helps a lot.

 

[LilMissCheer]

My sis was trying for well over a year, had every ovulation kit, monitor etc you could shake a stick at. She also suffered three m/c.

The doc told her to chuck everything away and not think about it for a while and she fell pregnant almost immediately

 

[Globetrecker]

I love these stories! So what does everyone attribute it to? If you're ovulating and releasing an egg and timing intercourse, I wonder why "relaxing and forgetting about it" makes it work out? Anyone have any thoughts? This is fascinating.

 

[Waitin4astork]

The cycle I got my BFP was probably the most unlikely. Although I had armed myself with almost everything possible to conceive, I was getting stressed as to why I hadn't conceived plus the actual days around ovulation, I was having the worst time at work and my stress levels were really high. I was convinced I was out that cycle because of all the stress I was under so it IS possible to conceive when not being completely relaxed too

Good luck!

 

[DancingDiva]

Hi ya

I totally understand what your saying as i dont know how many times I have heard that saying, it is easy for someone who is not going through this to turn around and say things like that to you however they really dont know how we are feeling or what we are thinking and sometimes statements like that dont help.

I have also heard alot of stories about when people relax and dont think about it that it does work and they do get the result they wanted however I really cant see me relaxing and not thinking about it for a while yet.

Take care

 

[deafgal01]

That frustrates me- how the heck can someone relax and forget about it? I can't just forget about it. I want to get pregnant and it's harder than I realized it'd be. There are days when I am able to relax a little bit- but it's never far from my mind...

 

[DancingDiva]

Exactly when you are going through such a thing it is easy to say put it to the back of your mind or relax but when you are counting down the days to do a test or waiting for AF to appear how can you possibly forget something like that when you want a baby so badly.

 

[carine]

I can't stand that either!

I can't just "relax," I have to get blood tests, and ultrasounds, and am starting Clomid this coming cycle (DancingDiva, we may be starting on almost the same day!)...not thinking about it would not have gotten me ovulating, thus, I would never have gotten pregnant!

I know they're probably trying to be encouraging, but there's a lot more to the story and it can be very frustrating when people don't understand that sometimes it's not that easy.

 

[happythought]

I totally agree with you @ globetrecker. I cant seem to understand that either> I do understand that being relaxed helps your body do what it needs to do, but when you only have the egg for 24-32 hours a month timing is everything. Its hard to just no think about it when it consumes your every thought. I just hope that it hurries up I am going to go crazy with all this waiting!

 

[pooch]

last month i was obsessive about everything (2nd month TTC) and when i got the BFP i thought 'ha! screw all of you that said stressing out would lead to not being pregnant!'...and then i tested again two days later and it was BFN...i had a chemical.
this month i'm not even really thinking about it. i know about when i'm going to ovulate and have been taking fertileCM but other than that i'm not charting and i'm not going to be entering any symptoms after O. i'm not going to test until my AF is late because if i have another chemical i'd rather not know. as much as it sucks to hear, i think those people are right...stress doesn't lead to BFP.

 

[blubutterfly]

Hi Ladies,
It was really annoying to me when people told me to relax and then people telling me about how they fell straight away! I had been trying since september and am now fortunate to be 7 weeks pregnant. but what i would like to say the month i became pregnant, for some reason, i did not chart or use ovulation kits and only BD'd twice days before i expected to ovulate (because we were traveling and having a boozey weekend abroad when i was expecting to ovulate), but every other month i was charting everything.

Don't let it get to you when people say relax, it is frustrating tho! just keep optimistic and it could still happen when u think u havent done enough in that cycle.

Good Luck Ladies!
xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[rosababy]

It's so frustrating when people say this!! However, everyone I've talked to says the month they gave everything up (opk, temping, etc.) is the month they got preggo. So, I guess there's something to be said. Something about the hormones of being nervous and anxious messing with the sex hormones...I don't know.

With that said, my doc also said to stop temping and using opks when he prescribed me clomid. The first cycle, I ignored him. How can I give that up?! 2nd cycle now, and I haven't temped or used opks. Just bd'ing every other night from cd12-20 and hoping we catch the egg. I'm trying not to be on BnB as much (and yet here I am!) and I find that THAT helps a lot, too. Even though it's hard. I've found other things to occupy my mind.

As a friend once told me, put down the mouse and step AWAY from google.

 

[lipsty]

I *think* that I'm managing to tread a middle ground at the moment - I'm charting, BDing at the right time, etc, but I'm also feeling positive and not stressing. It's only my second cycle, though, so maybe if it doesn't happen within a few months, I might start getting stressed! For now, I'm just excited and enjoying all the BC