KARMA? or a SIGN?

[huntesmom2013]

my son is 8 months. his father didn't want to be in our lives, he cheated from day 1 but i didn't catch him until our son was 1 month old. I filed for sole custody with him having NO visitation (long story but he had gotten into lots of trouble with the law) and i was granted it.. Me and his father stopped talking. He ended up going to jail. I served him in jail with papers for my sons name change. Which i was granted again by a judge. However, when he was served it had my address and he started writing me letter everyday. He got out 2 days ago and I went to see him with our son. I know it was horrible. It was drama within my family when I mentioned it. I am doing so good. I went to beauty school before and now I am taking 13 units at the college here. Which is over full time, I am being a single mom all by myself and giving my son a great life. He's been so many places and he's 8 months. I know when I talked to his father when he got out he was just the same... a liar. Its just soo hard to get over him and NOT call him (he doesn't have my number. i call from a blocked #). Anyways, I got back home. I got a bottled water. I put it in my diaper bag where my cell phone was. The water opened and BROKE my entire phone which no longer works. I swear it was karma.. or perhaps a sign that i shouldn't call him and just move on with my life.. i dunno... how does anyone get over an ex that you have a child with. sorry for the rant

 

[moomin_troll]

You've gone through so much to get him out of your sons life, why contact and go see him?
It's unfair not only to him, you but your son in the long run.
I say you have made your choice, so you should stick to it and not contact him.
The getting over him will take time, but you will get there when you aren't just hurting yourself talking to him

 

[Kayley]

It is hard, its really hard - the best way I dealt with it was by venting (sometimes I used facebook which was a REALLY BAD idea) so mostly I wrote emails that I never sent. It helped me.
Now I don't think about my ex AS MUCH but I do still some days, but at the end of the night when I go to bed I feel proud of myself that I went another day without contacting him at all.
Each day gets a little easier and you need to concentrate on doing things for yourself and your son! Spoil yourself any way you can occasionally - do something you wouldn't have been able to do before. I thought big and went to Thailand for 3 weeks by myself and it helped me immensley, but you don't have to do things as big as that!! Just a night out with friends will be a start!
Don't be alone and don't over think!!#
Big hugs xx

 

[Rhio92]

Take it as a sign. You don't need him. Your son deserves better than him. Stay well away xxx