Kinda nervous posting, RE contact any advice appriciated x

[jess_smurf]

they will not tell you to express and give it in a bottle, a lot of babies wont take it from a bottle as its tastes changes once expressed but also why should you, my baby will never have a bottle

 

[littlekitten8]

Glad the solicitor went well

 

[kelzyboo]

Thankyou, i'm happy with the result. He will be offered contact supervised by my mum so i can breastfeed and have chance to recover from c-section, if he doesn't take that then he has no case, can't turn it down when offered and get anything from the courts! xx

 

[18singlemom2b]

dont know your whole story so i can't help as much as i would like to, but if your ex is anything like mine then i understand the hesitation. the past 8 months he has been so unstable, trying to run between me and his ex and has no idea what role he wants to permanently play with our daughter that is being born soon. for the most part though, it's all negativity and he has said several times he isn't ready to be a father and could never bare the shame of telling his family about her. so if down the road he would want to be in her life i would seriously question letting him in her life so easily. i don't believe this crap about children need to know their fathers. if their fathers are drug addicts or perverts or pathalogical liars they don't need to know them, that will only screw them up. and over my dead body is fob going to let my daughter down.

 

[kelzyboo]

I don't believe it either, yes ideally all children would have a loving, caring father very much involved in their lives but unfortunately not all fathers are like that! I think its better to grow up with a devoted mother and no father at all rather than a devoted mother and a father who ruins all her hard work by letting them down constantly. I grew up without my dad, i get on well with him now but i can honestly say i thank my mother from the bottom of my heart for not letting him be involved in my growing up, he's so unreliable and would have let me down a lot. My mum never did.

We should have the right to protect our children from fathers who are a waste of oxygen and will do nothing but cause problems for them and never provide the stable life that they deserve!

I hope everything works out for you and your LO xx