labour after medical management for mmc

[littleD]

Hi ladies, wasnt quite sure which forum to put this post in. Basically, my first pregnancy last year resulted in a mmc and i chose to have the medical management option. It was the most painful, awful experience of my life and i`m now pregnant again - i just wondered to those of you who have had medical management and a sucessful pregnancy how much more painful labour is than medical management.

 

[MissMaternal]

Good question hun, i would like to know this too! I went through the medical management option a week today - and mine too was the most painful experience of my life. Sorry for your loss last year Congrats on your pregnancy! Happy and healthy 9 months to you xx

 

[littleD]

I`m so sorry for your loss missmaternal, i wasnt as far on as you but i was devastated so i understand what you`re going through. It was and probably will be one of the harderst things i`ll ever have to go through but time is a great healer and you never forget, thinking of you hon xxx

 

[MissMaternal]

Thanks very much hun. It's devastating for it to happen at any stage of pregnancy. I really hope we both never have to go through it again, and that we both get the healthy happy babies we deserve How far into your pregnancy are you hun? x

 

[littleD]

I`m 11+5, ive had two early scans already and they were fine, ive got my dating next week when i should be thirteen weeks which i`m dreading as it was at the dating scan that i found out last time. Your scan picture and daughters name is beautiful xx

 

[MissMaternal]

Bet you're glad you had early scans, they must be reassuring. I'm hoping to get early scans too when i get a , because even though my loss happened later on, i know i will still be paranoid, so i'm going to push to get as many scans as i can! Good luck for your scan next week, i'm sure all will be fine (easy to say, i know.) Thank you, i love the name too x

 

[summer rain]

Hi

I have heard the pain with Medical management is much worse than a normal full term labour for some women, the bleeding can be too which is one reason my local NHS trust don't offer it. I was offered a d&c but recommended natural/expectant management; the pain was more like a pressing feeling than actual pain and with OTC medications even that subsided. I have three boys and all of them were what would be considered fast labours, my youngest was only around 1 hour and 45 minutes and that is including the first contraction which wasn't followed by another one for a good 30 mins at least, so its very intense for me but manageable. Most women do have longer labours which gradually get worse; this makes it much easier to cope and deal with the increasing pain...medical management for a miscarriage is forcing your body to expel everything very quickly and before it would normally do so (not criticising it; but this is the way it 'works')

 

[summer rain]

and miss maternal I am so sorry for your loss xx

 

[MissMaternal]

and miss maternal I am so sorry for your loss xx

Thanks hun, congrats on your pregnancy x

 

[littleD]

Thats a great help, thank you summer rain. And thank you too miss maternal, the early scans are kind of reassuring but i had them in my last pregnancy too so it was even harder when i went for the dating scan to find my little one no longer had the strength to stick around. I wish you lots of love and luck for your future pregnancies, thinking of you xx

 

[MissMaternal]

Thanks hun, wishing you all the luck in the world aswell, and thanks summer rain for the reply x

 

[Drazic<3]

Missmaternal, I am so so very sorry for your loss. I think after your 12 week, you really start to believe everything will be okay - I was told we had lost our bean much earlier on at a scan, and it's heartbreaking. But don't give up sweety. Take as much time as you need to grieve, and be kind to yourself. Your sweet angel Freya will be with you always, but I PROMISE - whilst you will never forget her, things won't always be as horrible as they feel right now. Sending

To the OP - I had medical management, but honestly found the psychological trauma worse than the pain. I hope to be having a healthy birth in a few months, and will keep you updated

 

[MissMaternal]

Missmaternal, I am so so very sorry for your loss. I think after your 12 week, you really start to believe everything will be okay - I was told we had lost our bean much earlier on at a scan, and it's heartbreaking. But don't give up sweety. Take as much time as you need to grieve, and be kind to yourself. Your sweet angel Freya will be with you always, but I PROMISE - whilst you will never forget her, things won't always be as horrible as they feel right now. Sending

To the OP - I had medical management, but honestly found the psychological trauma worse than the pain. I hope to be having a healthy birth in a few months, and will keep you updated

Thanks alot for your kind words Drazic Wishing you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy hun xx

 

[Drazic<3]

Thank you sweetheart. If you ever need someone to talk to, just PM (I see you only live up the road from me!)

 

[MissMaternal]

Thank you sweetheart. If you ever need someone to talk to, just PM (I see you only live up the road from me!)

Oh yeah so i do!! Where abouts in Norfolk are you? x

 

[Drazic<3]

I'm right on the coast, near Great Yarmouth? I went to UEA though, so very used to Norwich. Do you live actually in the city?

 

[MissMaternal]

I used to live right near the city centre yeah, but i moved to Hethersett in December

I haven't been to Great Yarmouth for a while! I used to love going to the beach and on the rides in the summer with my friends lol! x

 

[Drazic<3]

Ooo, it's nice there! When you are feeling a bit better you should arrange coming down for the day with mates. It's lush here in the sunshine at the moment, and you can just have a giggley day doing all the seaside mush! If you do, give me a shout and I'll buy you a beach cocktail (they come in a bucket, the height of class)