Labour

[Mummy to be x]

I know it's super early to be discussing labour but we are moving away this weekend, as OH has a new job and we are 3 hours away from my nearest relative, so we won't know anyone where we will be living, it's a totally new life.

So I'm in a bit of a dilemma, how will I have anyone to look after my daughter while I go into labour?! I just can't seem to think of a way around it, we all know baby's will come whenever they feel like it so we can't arrange a baby sitter for a certain day.

I will be seeing a consultant this pregnancy about my birth last time (as it was awful) and this time I could opt for a possible c-section, originaly I was against this and wanted to go into labour naturally and try my best for a perfect birth, but now I'm thinking will a c-section be my only option anyway?

I'm so stuck in what to do, any advice from you ladies would be appreciated

 

[RaspberryK]

I guess you aren't a candidate for home birth then?
Can anyone come to stay for a while?
Xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Nope, they won't even allow me on the birth centre

I suppose my mum could take a few days off work, but we don't know when I'm going to go into labour. Xx

 

[Sunseal]

Eek, this is a difficult one. Unless a member of your family are willing to come up and stay up for the weeks surrounding your due date, I'd say that a C section would probably be your best bet. Unless... I dunno really! Have you spoken to your family about it? If you're passionate about trying for a natural birth it would be a shame to go for a C section just because of logistics.

 

[FlatShoes]

Maybe you could try and get to know a babysitter/new mum friend locally between now and the birth? You could find someone registered/recommended (try local mum Facebook groups?) and do a couple of trials before the birth - would give you a chance for a few date nights too!

And then you could ask them to be on stand by for the birth?

 

[RaspberryK]

But with a c section you'll be in hospital for a few days and then basically out of action for about 6 weeks.
I don't know what to suggest unless your mum can talk to her work and explain and see if she can get holiday at short notice xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

I wonder if they would induce me for these reasons?

This really is a tricky situation x

 

[ginny83]

I think getting to know a babysitter is the best idea. Maybe explain the situation and have a few practice goes, so then if you need to contact them in the middle of the night etc its as prearranged as possible

 

[RoxieHart]

It's a difficult one! My midwife really wants me to have a home birth (considering it, not sure though, for now it'll be hospital birth) ... My plan is that my sister is coming to stay with me from about 40 weeks for 2 weeks so that if anything happens I can get myself to the hospital without having to worry about my daughter as my sister will be ready. My mum is my birthing partner, she will probably be at work so I'm guessing I'll have to go to the hospital myself and wait for her! ...

Is it not possible to ask a family member to come up to stay with you for a while? To be on call? xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

I don't like the idea of getting to know some stranger, so I don't think that will be an option for me, I think I'm going to have a chat with my new midwife and see what she says.

 

[KrissyKris22]

This is a tough situation to be in. Maybe the closer u get to ure due date someone can try and some what rearrange their schedule so they come and stay with u a few days out the week or something??

 

[Yo_Yo]

We were in the same predicament with dd2 (and this baby!)

We had my inlaws stay from 36 weeks and it worked out well. Will probably do the same thing again this time.

 

[RaspberryK]

We were in the same predicament with dd2 (and this baby!)

We had my inlaws stay from 36 weeks and it worked out well. Will probably do the same thing again this time.

Eeek a possible 5-6 weeks with the in laws staying torture xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Lol raspberry, I was thinking that too, I think it would drive me nuts x

 

[Jinga]

We are having the same issue. Right now, we live in town with my parents and my husband's brother and sister-in-law nearby, but by the time the baby is born we'll be three hours away in a new town where we don't know anyone. Our plan is to have my parents on call and have them drive up here if I start labor early. My mother-in-law wants to come help after the baby is born so we'll likely schedule her right around the due date. I wish we had better options, but I don't think I'll know anyone well enough to let them watch my son, especially since he has food allergies and asthma that require extra care.