Ladies, please, how do you cope??

[Becky61]

LOs going to his dads overnight for the first night overnight tomorrow and i feel sick already.

He is breastfed, so FOB is picking LO up at 4pm, then im driving over there to feed him at bedtime (6-7pm) then i leave. I will then drive back over when i get a call to say he wakes (normally 7am ish) then i will leave, and FOB will drop him off at lunchtime.

So its not like i wont see him for 24 hours. And hes only 10 mins away. But he slept inside me for 9 months, then in my room in his cot for 8 months (i was a wreck when i finally made the transitiin and put him in his own room, but quickly got used to it). We are only apart 6 hours once a week when i go to work.

I know he will be with his dad (who visits 4 times a week) but i just feel sick and nervous. How do you ladies cope.



X

 

[Orlantha]

It's a terrible feeling. It's so hard, honestly.

The best advise I got was to make plans before your LO goes away. Doesn't matter what you do, or even if you do it by yourself, but stay busy! The first time, you might just go through the motions, but don't sit around doing nothing; that's the worst you can do.

Also, have someone you know you can call when you're ready to go to bed, no matter what time, in case you're sobbing so much you can't sleep.

I lost every other weekend less than a month ago and it is so excruciatingly hard. I miss him so much, and I've seen a few changes in my LO that break my heart. I'm still BF too, and my LO goes 1-1/2 hours away!

 

[daneuse27]

I want to say kudos to you for continuing to breastfeed through the visits. Your LO will be sleeping most of the time that he's gone and it might give you a chance to catch up on sleep (if you're tired) or maybe go out with a friend, or do something to take your mind off it like a movie or a phone call with a good friend. Just try to enjoy the free time, even though I realize how hard it must be (my FOB lives too far away to help with any childcare so I have her fulltime.) I hope tomorrow goes well. Just look forward to Saturday afternoon when he's all yours again

 

[Dezireey]

I'm not in the same situation as you as LO's Dad is out of the picture. So big hugs I feel for you and I would be the same in your position. You will get through it and adjust, be strong. Try to keep yourself busy when LO is away and see it as some me time, to get things done and rest up.