Lads - PFFFTT!

[Jayden'sMummy]

I wish Adam would stop acting like a idiot and grow up and be a daddy to his son! i don't give two fucks how old he is!! It's only Jayden who is going to hate him and to be honest i don't want that because my dad wasn't around and when he was he was just a prick and i don't want that for J at all. i had a dream a few nights a go were Jayden was a little older and was calling come one dada and i turned around and Ian was standing there holding his arms out to J .. i was sooo freaked out!

i am debating whether to ring Adam and just say to him:Listen Adam, i want you to tell me now, are you planning on seeing J or what because if not i don't want to spend my Saturday's and Tuesday's sat in waiting for you not to come. It has nothing to do with you or your mum and dad what i do with my life, the only thing they have a right to know about is J same with you, simple as ???

 

[LucyS]

If you feel you want to then do it hun, just be sure that if he says no you can be strong and just tell him it's his loss, end the conversation and know that you are doing the best thing for Jayden and are more than enough for him by yourself if Adam can't make the effort!

Good luck xXx

 

[ribboninthesky]

This is what I'd do if I was in your situation hun...

I'd write him a letter and say that however much you don't get along, you would be grateful if you could both make the effort for your son.

Work out days and times that you are BOTH happy with, so that he can see his son, but I'd tell him it's 3 strikes and he's out.

If he fails to come on the days and times as agreed more than 3 times, then you think it is best that he stays away for the sake of your son because it's not fair to have someone popping in and out of his life when it suits them.

That way, Adam is getting 3 chances to prove he wants to be a Father, if he cocks it up, then he only has himself to blame.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

If you feel you want to then do it hun, just be sure that if he says no you can be strong and just tell him it's his loss, end the conversation and know that you are doing the best thing for Jayden and are more than enough for him by yourself if Adam can't make the effort!

Good luck xXx

I'm not sure i could be strong if he said no, i think i would blow my lid lol but what am i supposed to do..a mummy needs a break some times too (i feel like such a horrible mummy saying that) and most of all J needs his daddy too! i hate him for making me feel like this.

This is what I'd do if I was in your situation hun...

I'd write him a letter and say that however much you don't get along, you would be grateful if you could both make the effort for your son.

Work out days and times that you are BOTH happy with, so that he can see his son, but I'd tell him it's 3 strikes and he's out.

If he fails to come on the days and times as agreed more than 3 times, then you think it is best that he stays away for the sake of your son because it's not fair to have someone popping in and out of his life when it suits them.

That way, Adam is getting 3 chances to prove he wants to be a Father, if he cocks it up, then he only has himself to blame.

He has had his 3 chances and more .. we had days sorted out but he has messed it up and hasn't been in touch for almost 3 weeks now xx

 

[fairywings]

Sound like you have tried all you can to be honest. I know Jayden wont notice now, but he will in the future and he doesnt need a part time parent who is always letting him down. His dad has had enough chances in my opinion - I have been following your threads about Adam and his lack of wanting to be involved. You can hold your head up high and say you tried.

If his grandparents still want to see him I would just go with that and protect your son from future hurt. Adam really needs to grow up and does not sound responsible to me.

Good luck, I know it is hard, but Jayden wont blame you for it as he gets older, he will thank you.

 

[Kris0309]

Stay strong . You have a beautiful son who needs you more then ever.
Im going to be a young single parent and as much as its going to hurt me and my son i rather have the fob not be there if he is only come around when he feels like it. My dad did that to me and it just killed me. So just try to hang in there and I know its fustrating cause boys need their fathers. But you seem like an excellent mommy to me and you could play the mother and father role.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Stay strong . You have a beautiful son who needs you more then ever.
Im going to be a young single parent and as much as its going to hurt me and my son i rather have the fob not be there if he is only come around when he feels like it. My dad did that to me and it just killed me. So just try to hang in there and I know its fustrating cause boys need their fathers. But you seem like an excellent mommy to me and you could play the mother and father role.