Lapro surgery, D&C, Methotrexate... how long until TTC? Any stories of hope??

[TTC2Long]

I had laproscopic surgery with D&C and methotrexate Saturday due to ectopic pregnancy. I also plan to ask for an HSG to check for blockages asap. Does anyone know how long I am looking at before we can safely TTC considering all these factors? Anyone BTDT??

Also, some stories of triumph after multiple loss would not be wasted. This year alone we've had a miscarriage due to Trisomy 22, a chemical pregnancy (2 +HPTs then AF showed 4 days late ) and now this ectopic. I feel like we will never get our bean. I feel like all we have to look forward to is more loss if we keep TTC, but DH wants to keep trying.

Oh and I've had no bleeding since Saturday and from what I understand I should bleed after taking methotrexate. Should I be worried?

 

[lilmisscaviar]

Oh my goodness! You poor soul... you've had just about everything happen to you. I've suffered three back to back losses myself and am wondering if I too will ever get to the birth center again. I worry the entire first trimester now every time I get pregnant and it doesn't add to the fact that I get severe morning sickness even during the cycles when I suffered losses because I have unusually high hormones. It sucks to have to still be so sick only to not be able to get out of the first trimester. It totally takes the fun and excitement out of being pregnant. I'm sorry I don't have any success story to add to this but I wanted to let you know that you're not alone.

As to your question about the bleeding... You've had everything scraped clean in there so it is normal not to bleed much after a D&C. I didn't bleed hardly at all after the two I had. My first period post D&C after my first one was really heavy, maybe losing everything I didn't lose right after my D&C, but after my second D&C my period was so light I didn't even need to use more than a panty liner. As to your other question about ttc... the choice is really completely yours. The usual time is to wait at least one period, three if you can to make sure they are back to normal, but I'm not sure if you'd need extra heal time because you have incisions or if you can treat it as a normal loss, that you would need to discuss with your doctor.

 

[TTC2Long]

Thanks for replying. I'm so sorry you are in the same boat (((HUGS)))) for you. It really does. Fortunately, I've only had very mild nausea but that's little comfort. I was never able to settle into this last pregnancy, from day 1 I was waiting for the other shoes to drop. I guess that's how it'll be from now on for me (possibly us... but don't want to speak for you).

After my first D&C I bled for 16 days, so it's weird not to be bleeding at all. And I do mean AT ALL... not even spotting. I'm cramping six ways till Sunday and my insides feel like they have been used as a punching bag but not a single drop of blood.

I tried to ask my doctor questions but before the surgery he was very "let's get this done and we'll talk about it when I see you next" and I didn't see him before I was discharged. I won't see him for 2 weeks. Last time (after my 1st D&C) he said to wait one "normal" cycle... BUT that was without lapro surgery AND a freaking chemo drug on top of it I have tried looking online and it says everything from one normal cycle all the way up to SIX months!!!! I know one thing that will play in is whether I have to get another shot (if my levels aren't decreasing properly) because that restarts the clock on that.

I'm thinking possibly 3 months because
a. After my last D&C it took my body about 3 months to heal (judging based on pain during AF. AF following my 3rd cycle was FAR less painful. Also my chemical pregnancy was the first cycle TTC after D&C (2nd cycles after) so I blamed the fact that I wasn't completely healed for that one.
b. This has NOT been a good year for us and TTC. Not sure how I feel about giving it another go this year.

But I honestly don't know. I'm not getting any younger here and if we are already having THIS much trouble do we REALLY want to pass on cycles if the doc says it's ok to TTC? I'm so confused

We started TTC in hopes of finally getting a girl but at this point I just want a healthy bean. I couldn't care less about gender But part of me feels like I am still asking for too much, if that makes any sense...