Last names confusion/difficulty

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[Sarah88]

I'm not a teen but bub has my OH's last name, i'm expecting to get married at some stage.

 

[Sherileigh]

I'm thinking the same...will give the baby his last name..(it works better with more names! lol). But I've threatened if we're not engaged by the birth I'll have to hyphenate! haha

 

[Jkelmum]

My 2 oldest that i had in my teens have my last name but only bcos i wasnt sure i would marry there dad and i was right ethan got his dad,s last name and now we are married x

 

[Laura--x]

Our LO is going to have OHS last name. After a lot of arguing, with oh and my family, we came to that decision. My family went mad at me, saying cus we're so young how do we know it will work, i can always change the baby to his name IF we get married, ect ect but at the end of the day, our daughter is his as much as mine, i don't want her to not have his name 'incase' we split up.

If things do happen and we split up, i can just change it back to mine if needs be! But at the end of the day, shes his daughter and always will be, i think i owe him that x

 

[mz_jackie86]

Me and LO's dad arent together but i am giving LO his surname anyway, no matter what he is still the dad and his surname is way better than mine lol!! xx

 

[cherylanne]

Our daughter has MY last name. I've been with my OH for 5 years, we aren't married tho. I wanted Grace to have my last name and OH and i agreed it could be changed if we ever got married. I thinks it's a personnal choice you have to make. Mine was because you never know what's going to happen in the future xxx

 

[elley_baby248]

Our little one is going to have my OH's last name but i am changing mine by deed poll to avoid confusion with the different surnames plus we don't plan on getting married so it's just our way to make our little family complete.

 

[fairywings]

Well it is some rule now that if baby has the fathers last name he could have equal or more rights than the mother - that is what the registrar told us. As I was going to give her OH's last name - as soon as she said this I said 'no, way."

So it is hyphenated - my last name then his, as this baby will be too. And IF we ever get married they will remain hyphenated.

(Oh I am not a teen either but thought I would comment, lol) x

 

[nikky0907]

Lola's daddy and me aren't together but since he is still involved in her life she has both our last names hyphenated.

 

[Ell.Bishh]

We have both mine and his hyphenated.
And when we get married (in 2 years lol) were going to do that with our surnames too, double them up.
xx

 

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[tasha41]

I'm giving my baby my boyfriend's last name. I think my parents would prefer I didn't or that I hyphenated it, but I don't like hyphenated names, and I'm not going to give her mine then change it when she's older.. I want her to have the same name for life?

At the end of the day, even if giving her his last name gives him equal rights as a parent if we split up or anything, he's an awesome guy, and IF we ever split up, I'd still want him to be her dad and it would be split/equal custody, we live close to each other, etc. I'm not worried about him trying to take her away from me, and I'm not planning on doing that to him either if that ever happens.

 

[Genna]

LO's getting mine. Dad and I aren't together anymore, but were for 3 years... and as one of the above posters said, you never know what will happen.

 

[usedtobewarren]

I'm not a teen [I'm 21] but I've had to make this decision before.

When I fell PG with my daughter me and her dad weren't together [despite the fact he's the love of my life, long story] and I decided initially that she would have my surname. This changed about five months in after we eventually sorted ourselves out and got together properly. I just wanted her to have his name, partly because I knew one day I'd have it too, and partly because I suppose I'm just quite traditional that way.

The twins we're expecting now will have his name too, as we're now married and will all have the same name!

 

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[Welsh_mum_to_b]

i decided to go with my surname initially and OH was ok with this then when she was born, i decided she would be double barrel. both our surnames., we also plan on getting married, very much so, but this way, i think its nice for her to have a little of both at the moment. what do you think you are goin to do hun?? xx

 

[Welsh_mum_to_b]

We have both mine and his hyphenated.
And when we get married (in 2 years lol) were going to do that with our surnames too, double them up.
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oh my god, i just mentioned what you had said, to my OH, he laughed and said i would NEVER take your name like that!! i jokinly went along with... oh right.. why!!?? that's it, he just kicked off. gutted, hes saying well, it isnt me... i said, well im not a brown (his surname)!!! to me a little bit of a hypacrit (cant spell it lol) isnt he??? well, told him i was only jokin but whats so bloody wrong with my family name? proper fallen out with me now! boys eh! i get the feeling he doesnt like my family so much anyway now as he has moved in with me and my parents since Nov (as we are hoping to get our own house in new year),since him movin in, his view of my family seem to have changed some what. gutted. sorry just had to complain to someone! xxx

 

[Welsh_mum_to_b]

I'm giving my baby my boyfriend's last name. I think my parents would prefer I didn't or that I hyphenated it, but I don't like hyphenated names, and I'm not going to give her mine then change it when she's older.. I want her to have the same name for life?

At the end of the day, even if giving her his last name gives him equal rights as a parent if we split up or anything, he's an awesome guy, and IF we ever split up, I'd still want him to be her dad and it would be split/equal custody, we live close to each other, etc. I'm not worried about him trying to take her away from me, and I'm not planning on doing that to him either if that ever happens.

exactly, regardless of the surname, whether together or split, the father still has as much rights (at least they should in normal circumstances). i dont know what you do once you have double barreled, do they keep the DB name from then on or should you change it when you marry ur OH?? xx

 

[Welsh_mum_to_b]

Our LO is going to have OHS last name. After a lot of arguing, with oh and my family, we came to that decision. My family went mad at me, saying cus we're so young how do we know it will work, i can always change the baby to his name IF we get married, ect ect but at the end of the day, our daughter is his as much as mine, i don't want her to not have his name 'incase' we split up.

If things do happen and we split up, i can just change it back to mine if needs be! But at the end of the day, shes his daughter and always will be, i think i owe him that x

i had said from day 1 that i wanted little one to have just OH's surname, however so many ppl told me if we had ever plit up and i wanted her to have my name i would have to get his consent to change it!! thatis one of the reasons we went with double barrel. i suppose you never know quite what is around the corner although i love him dearly!! xx