Last names confusion/difficulty

[tasha41]

I'm giving my baby my boyfriend's last name. I think my parents would prefer I didn't or that I hyphenated it, but I don't like hyphenated names, and I'm not going to give her mine then change it when she's older.. I want her to have the same name for life?

At the end of the day, even if giving her his last name gives him equal rights as a parent if we split up or anything, he's an awesome guy, and IF we ever split up, I'd still want him to be her dad and it would be split/equal custody, we live close to each other, etc. I'm not worried about him trying to take her away from me, and I'm not planning on doing that to him either if that ever happens.

I thought we would have equal rights anyway?
He is a wonderful guy and is going to make a perfect father weather we are together or not... but with things you hear if he had more rights not that he would take them to advantage unless he thought is was best... You can't be too safe. If your angel is taken away with unfair advantages [which is rare but does happen] I can't even imagine the pain... especially if you lost your partner too... - I still want to give him/her her fathers last name, I couldn't care less my family name isn't in it... but that thought just throws me... [Not that he would, and I definatly wouldn't unless it was for major concerns and i'd try and have it sorted first- but anyone can pull strange supprises no matter how well you think you know them.]

I know it sounds ignorant but I'm still not worrying about it.

I realize anything can happen, and you can never fully know someone, etc. but I basically know he wouldn't have a chance in taking her away from me. His job is unreliable hours, he leaves the house at 7am and doesn't get home until 7pm sometimes. She'll be living with me (as we are living with our parents, separately until we have money to move out) for at least the first year of her life. I'll have a better education than him, she will be on my benefits after I start working full time, my family has technically done more to support us (financially) and he has sworn up and down that he never wants to go to court, etc. I think that the courts tend to favour mothers anyway.

Again, I know it might sound stupid to an outsider, but I'm really not concerned about how my child having the "wrong" last name will affect a custody battle that PROBABLY won't happen anyway.

 

[Welsh_mum_to_b]

very true, i dont think it would either x

 

[-Bumble-]

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[xx-andy-xx]

i'm giving the baby my last name, since the father and i arent together...
and anyways, when i marry, my husband will most likely just adopt the baby and then we'll change the last name.

hope you figure out what's best for you