Least I can get pregnant - true or false?

[mrsmax]

I just had an early loss this weekend (only 4 weeks and few days).

I was gutted, but as we had been trying for 13 months once I got over the worst of the horror, I started looking on the bright side - at least I can get pregnant. I hear lots of people who mc hate that phrase, but it is giving me so much comfort.

For the last few months I have imagined having IVF (was planning IUI in the autumn) and even adopting.

Now I have actually conceived I am can't help but feel a little positive about getting a BFP again - am I kidding myself or are the stats on my side?

Also, if it is a good sign, how many more cycles should I expect before my next BFP?

 

[rflower]

You are super positive and that is wonderful! There are so many people out there who can't even get pregnant. Good luck!

 

[griffinh]

I felt like that ' at least i can conceive' on our first month ttc, we had a chem at 5w2d xx

 

[tinkerbelle2]

I am on the harsher side of it, I did think at least I can still get pregnant, but this little nagging voice in the back of my head keeps screaming at me, maybe losing your angel is your body's way of telling you, no more, can't do this

 

[Mon_n_john]

Definately true, at least you can get pregnant. We need to look at the positive. I've had 4 miscarriages, 3 in a row, then a healthy baby boy, and another miscarriage last month. Sure, it's heartbreaking but I know eventually it's going to work out again the way it did with my son. Every month brings new hope and closer to another healthy baby. = )

 

[futurephotos]

I felt comforted by that phrase after my first MC. I thought "yes, we have created something- we are fertile, this one just wasn't developing right." Now I'm beginning to wonder... we got pg right away again (after waiting 1 cycle for my period to resume). I just found out today that I'm loosing this one too. Same as before I begin bleeding on day 35 (5wks). So this is 2 in a row now with just a couple of months between. I guess I don't have any trouble getting pg - just with keeping it, which isn't great either. It still means we're having problems, it still means I'm not pg anymore, it still means no baby this time. If it never stays in there we'll never have our own child.

 

[Mon_n_john]

futurephotos, I think you'll feel much better if you get some testing done. You might get answers. i've had 4 miscarriages and we figured out my issue is low progesterone. Have faith that it will work out with a little medical assistance!

 

[mrsrof]

PeoPle keep saying that to me, and we've been saying it ourselves, and I really hope it's true. We got pregnant first cycle of trying, missed miscarriage discovered at 10+5. Eager to try again although apprehensive as I know i will spend the whole pregnancy overanalysing every pain, symptom, spot etc as I will be so paranoid of something going wrong!

 

[mrsmax]

HUgs to all of you for your losses. It does seem I am a little on the more positive side than most - perhaps with no reason. I really hope everything works out for everyone.

Futurephotos - I think I read your story in another thread How gutting for you, but you def should get tests and find out what is going wrong. It could just be really really bad luck.

 

[Clarehc]

Definitely true. There are women who can't get pregnant at all and at least if we can get pg, we can do things to help us keep them if there is a specific reason you are miscarrying rather than just bad luck.

I've been pg three times. I miscarried twice and have one daughter, luckily. I wish I could get pregnant easier, be assured of keeping them and have lots of kids but I look at my daughter running around and think I'm lucky to have her. It doesn't stop me wanting more but to put it in perspective, I feel very lucky.

The odds are on your side, I hope the next one is sticky for you. I like your positive attitude, it's essential for keeping going and not going mad!

Clare

 

[AnneLouB]

I think it is the best thing to remain positive - yes you can get pregnant, but you may also find that you are more fertile now (you often are following a pregnancy, whether you miscarried or not) - I eventually got pregnant after 2 years of trying with my BH, and after I lost it I got pregnant again straight away. I lost that one too but the positive feeling is still there because we are getting there slowly, and I have proved that I can now get pregnant at least...my next aim is to sucessfully carry to full term!

Keep positive because it WILL happen x

 

[KatyW]

Keep up that positive attitude, it's a good way of thinking about a situation that is sad. Yes, many people wish they could just get pregnant, and the odds are in all of our favors that it will work out for us, eventually.

 

[PugLuvAh]

I said the same thing to myself too. We were trying for almost 10 months when I got pregnant the first time. To lose it after wanting it for so long was devastating, but the silver lining for me was that I actually got pregnant and a felt pregnant, even if it was only for a couple of weeks.

I got pregnant again straight away, no period in between, and so far so good! Good luck to you, I hope you get your BFP soon xx

 

[4magpies]

I hate the at least you can get pregnant, yes, I could get pregnant, now I can't because I lost my tube and my other one is no good, if I did get pregnant it would be 99% an ectopic.

So I hate it, because I can't get pregnant, I could, and my body ruined it, now I can't.

I hope that makes sense....

xxx

 

[MermaidMom]

i agree.... i also believe that saying: it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

 

[MermaidMom]

I hate the at least you can get pregnant, yes, I could get pregnant, now I can't because I lost my tube and my other one is no good, if I did get pregnant it would be 99% an ectopic.

So I hate it, because I can't get pregnant, I could, and my body ruined it, now I can't.

I hope that makes sense....

xxx

so sorry ive been scared of that before too.... i wasnt sure if i had scar tissue in my uterus after my first miscarriage.

 

[okmomma]

I have a healthy 8 yr old boy and just mc'd a few weeks ago (12 weeks, blighted ovum). I couldn't help thinking that I would never have another baby. My friends have been very supportive. I found out that several of them had miscarriages and got pg right afterwards and had healthy babies. My one friend tried for 11 months, mc'd, and the next month was pg again. He is now 10 yrs old. You have to stay positive. I know I will have a hard time during the first trimester, but my dr said she will order extra blood tests and ultrasounds.

Good luck!

 

[Futuremommy1]

I say it as well. And for some women thy dont like it. But it helps me stay positive. And let's me focus on the problem which is keeping the pg thats why some infertility specialists wont see women who can get pregnant.

 

[daydreaming22]

I felt the same way after my mc @ 5 weeks in April. But after having a terrifying and life threatening experience miscarrying my second at 12 weeks this monday I feel emotionally drained. Although my DH and I would love nothing more than to have a baby, I am scared to try again...maybe its just too early and I need time to cope.

 

[mrsmax]

Daydreaming and Magpies - massive hugs to you both. I can totally understand why the phrase would upset you. Massive hugs.

Everyone else - thank you. You have all made me feel like being positive is good and not totally niave. I love the stories about people getting pg soon after a mc!! Praying that happens to all of us very soon xx