Least I can get pregnant - true or false?

[ickle pand]

I think anything positive you can take from something as awful as a miscarriage is a good thing. Like you I keep taking comfort from the fact that I know I can get pregnant now.

We've been trying for over 3.5 years now, and because I have both PCOS and endometriosis I did wonder if I'd ever get pregnant naturally or even at all. The fertility specialist even put us on the waiting list for IVF the month before I got pregnant, because although we knew my tubes were clear after an HSG and that I was ovulating, he was worried that there might be other scaring that had moved things about so that the egg couldn't reach my tubes.

Good luck with TTC. Hopefully you get a healthy sticky baby soon

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Hi MrsMax

Maybe you've read the first line in my journal that says "At least you can get pregnant "

I absolutely think that you should be thankful that you can get pregnant. You have tried for so so long, had an HSG, which may or may not have cleared out some blockage (fx that it did!) so I think you should be feeling very optimistic. You found out that you CAN in fact get pregnant when you thought you couldn't. That's amazing and I think it's very appropriate to think that it will happen again since it happened that one time. I feel confident that it will happen for you

The reason why I hate the line is because I have never struggled with TTC like you have. I got pregnant right away and then miscarried. Got pregnant again- miscarried. The phrase makes my skin crawl (and maybe even less now that I've had more time to grieve) because all I wanted was for some recognition of my loss. And I didn't feel that getting pregnant two times and losing was something that I should be thankful for. It just hurt so much and I feel like that line minimized the pain that I went through. I know that when people say that they aren't thinking that my loss was unimportant, but that's what it felt like me at the time.

I have no idea what the pain is like not being able to conceive. I can only imagine what it's like month after month looking at negative tests. Since you have been through this pain I think you should be optimistic that something seems to have turned around! It worked! And there's no reason to think that it shouldn't work again.

xoxo

 

[MsJMouse]

Well said Hopeful. I agree with you, though it did take 6months for me to fall pregnant. I found that everyone said that to me after the MMC and even though they were just trying to give me some hope, it just felt that they were disregarding my grief about my loss and somehow implying that I should get over it and get on with trying for a baby again.

On the other hand it is a positive thing to know that DH's sperm and my eggs appear to work and when the stars all align again I will get another BFP and hopefully a sticky bean.

Sending positive vibes your way mrsmax.

 

[Bremusa]

It took me and my O/H 2years to conceive and we had started testing to check everything was working then we fell pregnant. Unfortunately we lost him/her 8 weeks later. But that's how I feel, at least we got pregnant because up to that point we were doubting that we could. Hope this helps. Xox

 

[mrsmax]

Hopeful - your post was so sweet. Made me cry (I seem to be crying a lot at the mo, but not in a bad way).

Thank you Hopeful - I wasn't thinking of your journel when I asked the question- but yes it does start with that. Sorry. However, everything you (and MsMouse) said in your post makes such sense to me. I can totally see that the term doesn't help you get over a miscarriage as such (and can be offensive), but if you have been ttc for more than a year it does feel like a milestone. Even in a couple of ttc books I have read in the last week or so they say someone who has had a mc and someone who cant conceive at all are very different creatures for the medical practioner.

If I haven't got a sticky BFP in the next 12 months I am sure I will hate the phrase though!!! Right now, it does give a little comfort
I have my second fertiloty apointmemt next month so if no BFP it will be interesting to see what they have to say...

thanks guys - you are all so great. God knows what I would do without the support on here