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[AC1987]

oh yaayy patrice!!


AFM... OUCH! well ok went to the dentist and they gave me a few options one was fill the cavity. 2nd was if it was deeper than they thought root canal, plus crown. Well the 2nd option was an insane amount of money so I said no to that but ok to the filling, and then said if its really bad then just pull the tooth, also my wisdom tooth is growing into the molar thats giving me a problem. So the dentist started on my tooth, and sure enough it needs a root canal done *sigh* there is hardly any tooth left so this friday I have an appt with the oral surgeon to discuss removing my wisdom tooth and molar. Also on friday is my midwife appt so I might hafta move it to later in the day. I just am upset because I know if its gonna cost too much my DH will say no, because we really can't afford anything too high and they don't offer payment plans So I have a temp filling in right now. and my mouth is killing me as the numbing stuff wears off *sigh*

 

[ricschick]

great news Patrice!!! everything crossed for you!!! did dh get off ok? where is he going? xxx

ac well if it needs doing then you have no choice hun you cant remain in pain!! im sure dh will agree! it must be difficult having to pay for every little thing

hows everyone else? xx

 

[magicwhisper]

Officialy in 3rd trimester

 

[AC1987]

yaayyy congrats Zoey!!

AFM right now everything depends on if the roads will be clear friday. Its insane right now with the snow.. it started at noon and hasn't stopped my DH has been trying to get home for the last hour (his work is 20 mins away) I might hafta tell him to spend the night at a hotel cause I dont want him getting in a wreck

 

[josephine3]

Hi again ladies. Im feeling a little better but still crampy on and off.
Ashley my oh is useless at birthdays and valentines stuff too. You do get used to it but its still a little disappointing!
Patrice glad you have a shot tis cycle great news.
These pregnancies are really flying by i just cant believe most of us will have 2 babies soon!
it must be so annoying for u patrice sorry i feel for u xxx

 

[AC1987]

awww yea patrice I reaaalllyyy hope that this is your cycle


My DH finally made it home after 4 hours on the road... his work is only 20 mins away.. the traffic was awful
Bad news is that he thinks I'll probably hafta cancel my dentist appt on friday because of the roads... more snow is expected tomorrow. ugh! I postponed my midwife appt to wednesday...

 

[AC1987]

Well I didn't cancel my dentist appt, but when I called to see if they were open no one picked up... so I imagine they're closed.
So my DH had to work today so he's on his way in.
And I'm just sitting at home doing nothing
I feel like I've been riding a horse my thighs ache SO much... and the 3rd tri exhaustion seems to have caught up, I'm barely having enough energy to make dinner or do laundry and my bathrooms are a disaster.

 

[ricschick]

maybe you have spd?? I think im getting it! its were your pelvis aches and thighs and you can be in constant pain google it. I hope you can get an appointment soon!!

 

[hello_kitty]

Happy valentines day everyone! My husband didnt have time to arrange anything romantic cuz he has to work the whole day today so I wasnt expecting anything. I dropped him off at work and went to grab him some breakfast and when I came back he got flowers for me. I dont know what to get him since I already bought him everything that he needs/wants like last month cuz I couldnt help myself. I'm probably gonna at least buy him a card and make a nice dinner for him.

Went to a genetic counseling appointment yesterday and we left feeling worried about the baby. Found out that I carry the hemoglobin e trait and dh might carry it too (we need to do more testing on him to find out). It doesnt affect us if we have it since we are silent carriers, but 2 people who have it and end up having children have a 1 in 4 chance of producing a baby with thalassemia...which is a serious blood condition. So at this point we dont know if I am the only one who have the trait or if both dh and I have it. We were supposed to go in for testing today but dh stayed up til 5 am to do research for our upcoming trip on wednesday so he couldnt get up. He said we will go on Monday. I was pretty upset this morning and cried. We decided that if my husband does indeed carry the trait and this baby turns out ok, we will stop at 2 since we dont want to take a risk each time. If this baby turns out to be thalassemic (they will want to do amnio to find out) I think I will end the pregnancy since it is a serious condition and I dont want my baby to suffer after coming into this world. We will have no more children and Zachary will be our only child. It breaks my heart to think about the worst case scenario especially before our trip.

 

[AC1987]

Awww well heres to hoping everything is ok with you both for your baby's sake.


I don't know if I have spd... anytime I complain about an ache I just get told its normal and to expect to feel alot worse

 

[magicwhisper]

nothing romanti for valentines day here, neither of us like valentines day

 

[AC1987]

How does 3rd tri feel zoey? exhausted?
I feel like death this morning. Well I woke up with an awful leg cramp.. then I decided to make a nice big breakfast, got half way through before Cassidy woke up... so now thats on hold until my DH wakes up to watch her.. but I guess I shouldn't complain and just enjoy sitting down.

I'm freaking out that full term is coming up fast!! don't feel ready!!

 

[magicwhisper]

Not quite yet

Hope you got your breakfast!

 

[AC1987]

Yep! Pancakes and bacon! Yummmyyyy!!

Tonight we're gonna go out for steak yaaayyy I've been craving it!

 

[ricschick]

oh kitty im so sorry you've had this news how comes it wasn't picked up with zac? I hope and pray that everything will turn out ok xxxx

 

[hello_kitty]

Thanks Claire - dh and I are both pissed off with my ob doc. Obviously in his chart he DID pick it up when I was pregnant with Zac because it said 2012 but he kept quiet about it until now. When I went to the genetic counseling the lady was like "so you do have the trait, but it just lists the year and doesnt give much detail and how they got it" so she called my doc's office and he said he doesnt know either. Everyone was confused so the counselor is having me get the test done again along with dh.

My dh is upset because if the doc already knew that I have the trait since 2012 then he should've told us at our first appointment when I came in at 6 weeks and advised dh to get his blood check to see if he also has the trait. He waited until my 9 week appointment to ask dh to go test and even then he didnt even tell us why. He didnt even say that I had the trait so thats why we took everything lightly and dh went and did the test but we never called in and asked for the result because we thought it was just routine work.

So at my 13 week appointment he said dh's blood level was low and sent us to see the genetic counselor and thats when EVERYTHING was revealed. It was like a splash of cold water to our faces. I wish I could strangle him for not telling us of whats going on sooner. If we would have known sooner like when I was 6 weeks we would've rushed things along and did the testing and if baby has a problem we would have a choice whether to terminate or not..but now that I am over 15 weeks pregnant its gonna be much harder. By the time we get results and test the baby I will probably be over 17 weeks along.

 

[AC1987]

Wow... thats terrible of your OB!

Now did Zachary get tested to see if he has it? Like whatever it is that you think might get passed onto the next baby?
I know they can do a whole lot more now than what they could before.... so heres to hoping things will be ok

 

[ricschick]

I would most definitely make a formal complaint! That is terrible! As if you had known you would of made an informed choice weather ttc or get dh tested before hand. When will you get the result? Does baby only have a chance of getting it if both you have the trait? Xxxx

 

[AC1987]

Gah... I don't know what I'm feeling right now..

So DH and me were cleaning out the car, and I was cleaning out the trunk, and I come across this valentines day card, so I'm like "Umm I think you forgot to give me something" and he is like "No, I was going to give it if my parents came" .....soooo since they didn't come I didn't get anything? I feel kinda hurt, like he'll only do stuff if others are present but if not then who cares...

 

[hello_kitty]

Ashley that's terrible. Is the card just going to waste? It seems like he wants to put an act in front of others?

To answer your questions zachary did get tested as a newborn before we left the hospital. He does have the trait and they said he inherited from one of us but just inheriting the trait doesn't cause any problems. I really despise my ob doc now because looking back he's not informative at all. He rarely talks to me at my appointments unless I ask something and give one word answers. The only reason I went to him in the first place is because he's the closest doc in my area and all of my family went to him to have babies.
It would've been nice of him to say "hey you have the trait so maybe your husband should go get tested before you have a second baby". Anyways 2 people who have the same trait has a 1 in 4 chance of having a baby with thalassemia it's a serious blood condition that requires life long blood transfusion and other horrible things.