light hearted ttc

[ricschick]

Hi guys sorry ive been MIA as you can imagine its a busy day here!! cant believe our babies are nearly a year old already!!! madness!!!

HK I hope jayden settles for you! go in every now and then and just lay him down do this as often as is needed without saying anything he will fight against it but it will get easier as he will know you wont be getting him out!

ac I hope your mum is ok and sorry to hear about your cat!! im glad the soy has settled roses tummy! joanie has had hives for the past week so she has come into contact with something which doesn't agree with her!

joanie is doing well shes a little chunker and not yet crawling lol but im not concerned she will in her own time!

 

[AC1987]

Hi ladies...

Haven't been here in a while. Spent 3 weeks with my family up in Canada in May.
Ahh it was so great! I seriously had the best time with my sisters

So sad to be back home. I really hope I can go back soon.

Things are so blah lately..

 

[AC1987]

I don't know what to do I feel like I've had enough of living here and I want to go back to my hometown. But I know that'll never happen. And it makes me so sad. I just hate being so far away. Being back in my city felt so great... made me wish I could live there again.
Only its impossible My hubby wouldn't even move out of state so I know the option of ever moving back is out of the question.

 

[sg0720]

Hey everyone! I know I haven't been on in a while how is everyone doing? I am doing great my daughter is 8months and we are 25 weeks pregnant with another boy!!! Very exciting! How about everyone else?

 

[ricschick]

Ahh congrats on the baby boy!! Xxx

 

[hello_kitty]

Congrats Sarina!

Ashley - I could only imagine how you feel. My family and I are not super close but sometimes I wish I lived closer to them so I had more company (they live about 1 hour away). Is it not possible for you to visit them more often like every year? If I had a greater bond with my family, I would do it.

Afm, not much to report here. Currently going to school part time, working part time, and being a full time mom. I have a question for you ladies. If you had (have) the choice, would you consider a larger age gap between your 2nd and 3rd child? Jayden and Zachary are 20 months apart, I was planning on ttc no. 3 next year but right now kinda engaged in my studies and considering finishing before ttc again, which means it would be another 5 years. That means no.3 will be 8 years younger than zachary, adn 6 years younger than jayden, but if that were the case I would have no. 4 so no.3 and no.4 could play together. So it would be like 2 big ones and 2 little ones. Dh and I was planning on having only 1 more (next year) and stopping.

 

[sg0720]

Thank you ladies.

To answer ur question my son and daughter are a bit over 5 years apart and I wish they were closer but things didn't work out that way but it's nice because he is big enough to help and they do play together but at the same time he is a lot bigger then her so they are on different levels you know . so now my daughter and the newest baby will be much closer at 11 months apart and then we plan on being done. And that will b nice because they will grow up together

 

[hello_kitty]

Thanks for the input Sarina, thats why if I decide to take a break and focus on my studies, I will end up having 2 more instead of 1. If we end up having only 1 more after 5 years, I dont want him/her to feel left out and have nothing in common with his/her brothers, so we would definitely need a 4th to accomodate that. Dh even agreed to this, but he really only wants 1 more so he wants to have one more next year and be done...but I dont know...he's stopped discussing about it because we are in the midst of too many things. I guess if we dont bring it up next year that probably means we are in a silent mutual agreement that we will hold off until I finish school.

 

[AC1987]

awww congrats Sarina!! wow 25 weeks already!

Lily, yeah I think cause I had to go like 2 years between the last visit it was hard.. My dh tells me to just go ahead and get my citizenship so that I can stay longer there.
I'm gonna concentrate on driving more so that I can possibly make more trips up that way.

The longer I am going without getting pregnant the more I'm actually enjoying it!! I finally am feeling not tied down by a baby, I mean I do love babies but they are hard if you wanna plan anything.

 

[hello_kitty]

awww congrats Sarina!! wow 25 weeks already!

Lily, yeah I think cause I had to go like 2 years between the last visit it was hard.. My dh tells me to just go ahead and get my citizenship so that I can stay longer there.
I'm gonna concentrate on driving more so that I can possibly make more trips up that way.

The longer I am going without getting pregnant the more I'm actually enjoying it!! I finally am feeling not tied down by a baby, I mean I do love babies but they are hard if you wanna plan anything.

Is there a limit on how long you can stay there without a citizenship?

I feel the same way about the getting pregnant thing. I was super broody and knew I had to have another one right after I got my first period after Zachary, but this time after Jayden I feel different. I just feel that I am happy with 2 atm. I mean, they have playmates and no. 3 is not necessary atm. Doesnt mean I dont want more, but I am not 100% into it if you know what I mean. I really wanted Jayden but the thought of no. 3 just puts me in a position where I am pondering "should I got for it or wait?"

I am enjoying life as it is right now and I'll just wait til next year and see what dh wants. The only thing that turns me off about waiting is the big age gap.

 

[AC1987]

Well if I can have it healthily and financially we can I want 4 kids, so I figure that my last two can be close in age, so I'm not bothered by there being a bigger age gap between Rose and the next one LOL

I think right now with my green card I can stay a max of 6 months out of 12 months. Not that I would do that because I'd want my hubby with me, only he gets like no vacation time which kinda sucks
I think it'd be so awesome if he could work up in Canada for a year or something only I doubt anywhere would hire him and want to give him a visa because of it... though I think when his contract is about to run up I might just ask him to go ahead and apply there and see what will happen just for the sake of it

I miss my family too much, and my hometown.. I had so much more freedom there, I just somehow overlooked it

 

[ricschick]

well I like it both ways lily I had all 4 close in age which is great as they all play together, joanie was born 4 years after Jamie and I like having just her as a baby and not 2 babies at the same time, but obviously shes only 10months so il have to see how it goes as she gets older but the others all adore her and play with her all the time (iam tempted by no6 tho)

 

[hello_kitty]

Will I only have 2 options, either get it over with and get pregnant next year, or choose the bigger age gap and have the last 2 close in age. A lot of people are telling me to have only one more because nowadays raising kids are so expensive, and it sure is. I am planning on sending the two boys to private schools, sports lessons, music lessons etc..it wont be possible unless dh and I both have a career which I am working towards. Dh is the only one working and in the long run a single income would not work. I am working part time now and that does help somewhat but not when the kids get older.

Claire, haha I dont know how you do it! I cant imagine having over 4 needless to say 5. Spill the tricks, because I genuinely want to know how you do it just in case I end up getting pregnant sooner. I mean how do you take care all 5 at the same time?

Ashley, being with family is great not to mention you get the extra help. Whenever I visit my mom, she and my siblings are always hogging the kids so I can get a break which is so awesome! I could finally put my feet up for awhile.

 

[ricschick]

its funny I get asked that a lot but im just so used to it, I mean they all came along one at a time so each one just fitted into the routine 4 & 5 didn't really make to much of a difference. don't get me wrong it can be hard work and you have to juggle stuff quite often but I wouldn't have it any other way. as long as you keep to what you say and they learn respect you cant go wrong x

 

[AC1987]

I find myself going crazy with just two right now so I'm happy to wait.. I find the only time I kinda wanna be pregnant again is when I look at old videos of my kids and see them as tiny newborns and I'm all like awwww I want another

How is it that Cassidy will be 3 in August???

 

[hello_kitty]

I dont really miss the newborn days yet because I still feel like Jayden is still a baby (although he will be 1 in a few weeks eckkk).

One downside of having them close in age is that they will grow up around the same time and go off to school at around the same time too. For example, Jayden will be one school year behind Zachary. Imagine the youngest one going to school the year after...if you get what I mean. Its inevitable and they will all eventually grow up, but ideally I want a baby at home when Jayden and Zack are in school so I dont feel so sad.

 

[ricschick]

trust me having them all in school at the same time is a god send!

 

[hello_kitty]

trust me having them all in school at the same time is a god send!

Haha, did you get sad after they were all gone? I could totally picture me taking a nap while they are away. Dh is soo scared of getting me pregnant again because we have plans. He really wants to visit his family in February so the soonest he is willing to have another baby is during our trip (conception). Right now he is even scared to touch me.

 

[AC1987]

I plan on homeschooling my kids so I'll see my kids all the time but yes the idea of there not being a baby around is saaadd!!
Rose isn't really a baby anymore

 

[magicwhisper]

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