PreggyEggy
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I BFed my daughter (still am!) and I will BF my son too.
Honestly? It's a completely different experience to what I thought it would be when I was pregnant 1st time. I thought there was no way I'd BF in public because that's gross, and I'd do it to 6 months tops (lol). Soon changed my mind!
It's a steep learning curve, no doubt about it, and there are so many common myths out there that can trip you up. Most doctors and HVs aren't even knowledgeable enough to support women properly. It's a skill that both mother and baby have to learn and it can be a long process, but honestly it's the most rewarding feeling in the world.
The important thing to keep in mind is that our bodies are designed for it. Medically, there are very few women physically unable to do it. If it hasn't worked out, it is normally due to a lack of support for the mother. Find yourself a really good support network with mothers who have done it all before and trust your body!
As for covers in public, they're great when they're new and find it difficult to latch without flashing everyone, but at maybe 4 months baby will definitely get fed up. But really, I nursed in public hundreds of times and I can honestly say maybe 2 people noticed what I was doing. If you wear a normal vest under your top, pull one up and one down, you don't have to show anything at all and it just looks like a hug from most angles. Plus believe me now, it's absolutely impossible to time your outings around feedings. On demand feeding really is on demand, they could want it 10 mins after you last fed them or an hour later and when they want feeding they need to be fed then and there. After a while though it is easier as they grow and go longer between feeds. I think my daughter stopped asking for it in public around 15ish months, she was just too interested in what we saw. I can't remember the last time she asked me in public!
About nipple confusion, it really can be a huge problem. Bottles have a much faster flow, and baby doesn't have to work anywhere near as hard to get milk then from the breast. They can very easily get lazy and fussy on the breast, which can stress mothers out and have them turn to formula because they think they don't have any milk. My advice is to steer well clear for as long as you can, some babies do fine, but in my experience more have trouble then not. There are plenty of ways for family to bond other then feeding, bathing being a great way.
Sorry to go on and on, hahaha but I just felt a bit nostalgic seeing everyone talking about BFing for the first time! I hope I gave you some good insight into what it's like.
The plus side to BF is that it's much much easier then bottles once it gets going, no getting up and making bottles in the middle of the night is such a life saver. My last piece of advice is most nipple cream on the market is rubbish! Get yourself some lansinoh or similar for pain in the beginning, it's worth it's weight in gold! 
Honestly? It's a completely different experience to what I thought it would be when I was pregnant 1st time. I thought there was no way I'd BF in public because that's gross, and I'd do it to 6 months tops (lol). Soon changed my mind!
It's a steep learning curve, no doubt about it, and there are so many common myths out there that can trip you up. Most doctors and HVs aren't even knowledgeable enough to support women properly. It's a skill that both mother and baby have to learn and it can be a long process, but honestly it's the most rewarding feeling in the world.
The important thing to keep in mind is that our bodies are designed for it. Medically, there are very few women physically unable to do it. If it hasn't worked out, it is normally due to a lack of support for the mother. Find yourself a really good support network with mothers who have done it all before and trust your body!
As for covers in public, they're great when they're new and find it difficult to latch without flashing everyone, but at maybe 4 months baby will definitely get fed up. But really, I nursed in public hundreds of times and I can honestly say maybe 2 people noticed what I was doing. If you wear a normal vest under your top, pull one up and one down, you don't have to show anything at all and it just looks like a hug from most angles. Plus believe me now, it's absolutely impossible to time your outings around feedings. On demand feeding really is on demand, they could want it 10 mins after you last fed them or an hour later and when they want feeding they need to be fed then and there. After a while though it is easier as they grow and go longer between feeds. I think my daughter stopped asking for it in public around 15ish months, she was just too interested in what we saw. I can't remember the last time she asked me in public!
About nipple confusion, it really can be a huge problem. Bottles have a much faster flow, and baby doesn't have to work anywhere near as hard to get milk then from the breast. They can very easily get lazy and fussy on the breast, which can stress mothers out and have them turn to formula because they think they don't have any milk. My advice is to steer well clear for as long as you can, some babies do fine, but in my experience more have trouble then not. There are plenty of ways for family to bond other then feeding, bathing being a great way.
Sorry to go on and on, hahaha but I just felt a bit nostalgic seeing everyone talking about BFing for the first time! I hope I gave you some good insight into what it's like.
The plus side to BF is that it's much much easier then bottles once it gets going, no getting up and making bottles in the middle of the night is such a life saver. My last piece of advice is most nipple cream on the market is rubbish! Get yourself some lansinoh or similar for pain in the beginning, it's worth it's weight in gold! 
The Lanolin cream works great!
My insurance finally came through, so they called me today and told me that they are going to call me by 5 on Friday and tell me when my appointment will be with the neurologist....so of course, today is the first headache free day I have had in months! Yay! However, I am still having this thing going on where one of my eye twitches, but it must be on the inside because I can feel it, but no one can see it. They have me in drugs that they say are safe, but I try to only take them when I can't stand it anymore because I am worried about them and they knock me out. DH has been awesome about cleaning up after himself and making dinners, since I have not done much of anything. But, he has still not told his grandparents, whose house we got married at earlier this year!!! I assume when we go visit he is going to tell them that we picked her up on the side of the road and since she looks like us, we decided to keep her. 
