Lil' October Pumpkins 2013

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My friend said she wanted to throw me a shower but i would rather not have another one ( i had one with my son). I think one is enough .....
 
If you don't mine me asking junebugs, why is that? Personally I want as many as people want to give me. It's nice to get gifts especially when we will be tight for money this upcoming year! Lol
 
Sometimes people find it tacky to have another baby shower for additional children. I can understand why someone would be worried about offending those that get invited if they have already attended a shower for you. An exception to this is of course if there is a lengthy gap between children, or you are having your second child with a different father.

That being said, diaper parties are a wonderful option for people who want to throw you a shower but you've already had one recently for another pregnancy.
 
That's what I've always heard, but it sucks when you have a child of the opposite sex. Sometimes, it's like completely starting over. My sister had given away all of her boy stuff, and then had a surprise little girl a few years later and no one around her thought she "deserved" another shower.

Some of the customs we have are just plain weird.
 
I agree, I do think it is weird to feel like we can't celebrate every baby the same way. I guess the idea behind it is that for your first child you have to buy all the big ticket items and it is more of a financial strain.

That being said, if you get re-married you still get a shower generally... but you probably already have all the pots and napkins you need to create a home, so why is it OK to have a shower then? Bizarre.

Still, I would have no issue going to a shower for a second or third child. In fact I have gone to showers for additional children. Some people are just really weird about it.
 
girlnboots said:
That's what I've always heard, but it sucks when you have a child of the opposite sex. Sometimes, it's like completely starting over. My sister had given away all of her boy stuff, and then had a surprise little girl a few years later and no one around her thought she "deserved" another shower.

Some of the customs we have are just plain weird.
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It does suck! If we have a girl this time (finding out next Wed) I would love to have another shower, but I don't want people to think I am tacky or rude. We have all the necessities from my son, so all people would bring would be diapers, wipes and clothes. But oh well.
 
Murmers0110 said:
If you don't mine me asking junebugs, why is that? Personally I want as many as people want to give me. It's nice to get gifts especially when we will be tight for money this upcoming year! Lol
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Maze said:
Sometimes people find it tacky to have another baby shower for additional children. I can understand why someone would be worried about offending those that get invited if they have already attended a shower for you. An exception to this is of course if there is a lengthy gap between children, or you are having your second child with a different father.

That being said, diaper parties are a wonderful option for people who want to throw you a shower but you've already had one recently for another pregnancy.
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What Maze said is exactly what i was thinking.... took the words right out of my mouth :) .. But i LOVE the diaper party idea!!! I think that is a great alternative! I dont want to down play this LO because he/she should be celebrated just as much as i did with my son, thats why the diaper party is a good idea . Also since i am not finding out the gender its even harder.. i think it is more justifiable when your second is a girl or with another father like Maze said.
 
I think it varries by where you live. I live in the south and people throw showers for multiple babies. If they are worried about offending people then they call them sprinkles and gifts "aren't expected" but brought anyways. I think it's silly not to have showers for all kids. You loose stuff and stuff breaks or becomes outdated inbetween. We always have in my family!
 
i have also heard that opposite sexes is an exception to multiple showers... that is, if you had a shower for a baby boy, you can have another shower if you have a girl because boy things generally don't work for girls and vice versa. since my kids will be close in age i don't think i will need much to begin with as far as baby stuff... especially since i bought them in gender neutral colors. i can't even think of what i actually need that i don't have already.
 
I know lots of you have already passed this, but I am pretty excited. Today marks halfway for me! And my other baby turns three today!! Feeling blessed.:cloud9:
 
Awww congrats Angel on being half way and Happy Birthday to your LO!!
 
I am always a bit uncomfortable about showers etc.. but then if I do something I make a point of telling people that I don't want gifts.. I don't like people feeling obliged to do something. I hate registries for weddings and babies..to me I think its really cheeky like totally expecting people to get you something. All my friends and family know me well and when my kids have been born, most people buy a little outfit. I would never expect anyone to buy equipment or anything more than $20, but that's just me.

I love buying for other people and I would have no problems buying for multiple children.

I know that I have had 2 babies and I have been given a gift card from work, the physicians collected for me along with my colleagues and got about $350 both times. I am going to ask them not to do it this time. I don't think the same group of people should have to donate to me 3 times..
 
Happy halfway point and happy birthday to your LO! :D

I don't see why people are so weird about multiple showers. I too don't understand why it's not okay to celebrate each child equally. I've also heard of a lot of people on theBump thinking that diaper showers are tacky, which I also don't understand. Then again a lot of women on theBump are rude and catty.
 
Happy halfway mark to you 20-weekers :D
 
Congrats ladies! Half way is a great feeling :-) But time seems to FLY by afterwards!

BTW, I HATE theBump ladies! They are ridiculously rude and mean. I feel bad for the women who think that's what normal bumpboards are like.
 
Happy halfway point, Junebugs!
It'll also be exciting when we've all reached the viability point. :D
Then after that it's waiting until we've all reached full term and start having our babies!

I don't even bother trying to chat in theBump boards for that very reason. I just use the site to keep track of my pregnancy. :haha:
 
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