Lil' October Pumpkins 2013

[broodymrs]

broody - You'll probably surprise yourself and be absolutely fine! I think a lot of women do an awesome job in labour with handling the pain and breathing through the contractions. I don't know what happened on my end, I was the only person on the ward screaming lmao.

Everyone else was probably drugged up!! My friend gave birth 3 weeks ago with an epidural and she said the people in the 2 rooms either side of her were screaming and she was watching Eastenders on her Ipad and the midwife told her the head was coming and she better start pushing!!

 

[SisterRose]

broody - You'll probably surprise yourself and be absolutely fine! I think a lot of women do an awesome job in labour with handling the pain and breathing through the contractions. I don't know what happened on my end, I was the only person on the ward screaming lmao.

Everyone else was probably drugged up!! My friend gave birth 3 weeks ago with an epidural and she said the people in the 2 rooms either side of her were screaming and she was watching Eastenders on her Ipad and the midwife told her the head was coming and she better start pushing!!

That sounds like the kinda birth I want this time, except I want corrie on my laptop instead of Eastenders.

 

[ptr]

^^^thats how my birth with my daughter went ... I watched special victim unit on tv and pushed whenever I felt a contraction coming on and my nurse was like "are you seriously watching TV?!?!?" I'm like yeah it helps me focus on feeling for the contraction (I had an epi)

 

[broodymrs]

Corrie over Eastenders any day!

 

[lady1985]

Funny talking about epidurals as when i was 1st preg i said i wanted 1..then changed my mind and said i want.pethadine...now this week after watching the diff videos on you tube epidural looks like the way forward...it looks like you say.. nurse comes in and is like..ok lets start pushing.....wow get me one of those!!

 

[Girly922]

I would like to stay away from an epidural if I can. I really don't want to give birth laying on my back. I want a water birth with lots of gas and air!! Lol. I've been open to pethidine but lots of women don't seem to think much of it. I think I'll have to see how labour goes and try and go without the epi.

I had my health visitor call the other day to book my antenatal home visit. I didn't even know we get one of those!! I'm still working full time at the moment and she didn't like the sound of waiting until I go off on maternity leave in case baby comes before that. I finish work at 35 weeks! I don plan on this baby coming before then. Lol. So she's coming next week. No idea what she's gonna want to talk about though?

 

[broodymrs]

hmm, home visit hasn't been mentioned to me. Pain relief is such a personal choice and I do admire people who can do it just on gas and air but for me I think I'd like something stronger. I probably would have gone for the middle ground and gone for pethidine or morphine but because of the previous problems I've had I daren't risk it, so looks like it might be epidural for me. Strangely excited, I know I'm a weirdo!!

 

[Girly922]

I didn't know anything about it until I got the phone call off the health visitor to arrange it. My midwife hadn't mentioned it. I just thought I'd meet my HV once the MW signs me over to her once baby's here. I didn't even know they did antenatal visits.

You're not a weirdo broody, I'm looking forward to gas & air!! Lol. I know I don't have a problem with morphine so I'm planning on going down that route if I need it. I've booked to go midwife-led birthing unit which has 3 pools, but if you need an epi you have to be transferred to delivery suite which only has one pool. I really hope I can get my water birth, and if that means I can't have an epidural, I'm okay with that. If things go pear shaped, I can always transfer to delivery suite and get one there.

 

[Sbmack]

I would like to stay away from an epidural if I can. I really don't want to give birth laying on my back. I want a water birth with lots of gas and air!! Lol.

I'm hoping for a water birth as well, but gas and air isn't an option here.

Like Angel, I'll also be using hypnotherapy. I've been reading 'Effective Birth, a practical guide to a better birth' by Maggie Howell. I have the cd, but haven't started 'practicing' yet. I'd highly reccomend the book for someone thinking of going the natural route. It's been a great confidence booster and has reinforced my belief that I can do it naturally. That said, if the pain is too much and the coping techniques I learn aren't effective, I may ask for an epidural. I really hope that's not the case though because as Girly said, I don't want to be on my back. I've also read that epidurals can slow down labor.

Also, if for some reason I have to be induced, I will probably opt for an epidural. They use Pitocin in the U.S and I've heard it intensifies the pain.

 

[girlnboots]

That's how I feel too, about being induced. As long as its a gradual increase, I'll be just fine. I'm good at managing pain and whatnot, and I'm excited to stay natural. But if they force me to have pitocin (which is really, really bad for you!) then I'm definitely getting an epidural.

On a more negative side, I got my first real stretch mark today. I'm officially a striped tiger. I took a few days off work because of my cold and everyone commented how big I'd gotten, so I'm not surprised. Pictures coming later!

 

[Murmers0110]

Hey ladies! Sorry I've been missing for a while. I've been so busy with this move! We have gotten 2 of the 3 pieces of furniture for the nursery and painted the room. I'll put pics up on the facebook page when its more put together. I had my appointment with my new dr last week. She seems nice. I took my 3 hour glucose test and it was horrid!!!!!! The drink doesn't taste bad but Holy shit does it make ya feel like shit! Anyways I found out today that I passed it! As far as pain meds for birth I want everything they will give me and I don't wanna be induced early unless needed. I hope everyone is doing good! Not too much longer for some!

 

[ptr]

I was induced and had pitocin, it wasn't as intense or painful as everybody claimed it was going to be. I was on pitocin and wasn't in pain from it for 4 hours until they broke my waters.

 

[angel2010]

I am glad you passed Murmers!

 

[Girly922]

Congrats on passing it murmers!

I think if I have to be induced, I'll probably end up with an epidural. But then, if I have to be induced I can't birth on the midwife-led unit anyway. I have also heard that epidurals slow down labour, but also they put you at a higher risk of tearing or needing an episiotomy because not all women can push correctly with an epi.

You really have popped girlin! I think I'm starting to get the beginnings of a varicose vein in my thigh. I don't like it lol.

 

[lylasmummy]

Hi, I'm rather late to the party, but my pink bump is due Oct 18th, can I join in please? xxx

 

[SisterRose]

Girly - Nobody has mentioned anything about a home visit to me either

Ladies in the UK - what have you been told about whooping cough vaccine, and when can you have it up until? because I had my 28 week appointment last week and nobody mentioned anything to me about it, and also forgot to ask. I won't be seen by my midwife until 34 weeks now either.

Good job on passing your GTT Murmers!

I was induced last time, but went straight in to active labour as soon as they broke my waters, and I mean RIGHT in to active labour! I went from 2cm to fully dilated and baby being born in the space of three hours, and it was the fact there was no space inbetween my contractions to rest and get my breath that made the labour so intense and painful. I am glad I didnt have time for an epidural now though and I don't want to go down that route this time either as I'd rather suffer a bit than have one but will get one if I really need it. Like I said, I did practically beg last time lol!!


Welcome Lylasmummy

 

[broodymrs]

You can have the jab up to 38 weeks but best between 28-32.

 

[Maze]

Hey ladies, sorry for being quiet I've just had a lot going on! I also didn't know what to contribute regarding pain killers since I am having yet another c-section... other than when I was being induced with my first baby I went 24 hours without anything at all, but everyone's body's different I guess. I really wanted to get in the whirlpool tub but couldn't because my BP was through the roof!

At any rate, I have a small rant. I find my husband is becoming grouchier at night than he used to be. I mean, he was never happy if he was lacking sleep but now it just seems to be getting worse. It frustrates and concerns me. Our toddler sometimes has great nights where she sleeps into 8 or 9am, and other nights she wakes up around 4:30am crying for a drink. At any rate, waking him up to help is a huge pain in the ass now. If I try to wake him up verbally, I get growled at, if I lightly tap at his shoulder he LITERALLY bats at my hand. Meanwhile I am waking up every hour to pee, am sore and have a hard time falling back to sleep, and have to be just as exhausted if not more than he is. Somehow I manage to keep a level head in the middle of the night, but with him... it is like sharing a bed with a hibernating bear. What is going to happen with a newborn in the mix? I keep asking him, you really really wanted this third baby, you bugged me to try again for months before I gave in... did you think nights were going to get magically better and not harder again?

I am going to be breastfeeding so I need to know that I will be supported at night, if not physically... just emotionally. I am going to get pretty pissed pretty quickly if he is always growling and rolling over while I am sitting there with bags under my eyes.

Am I being unreasonable because he goes to work? I mean, he was like this during the long weekend too. So I dunno.

 

[lady1985]

Oh Maze sounds like you are dealing with the male breed not understanding as usual! I don't have any children yet so I don't know how my DH will be but I have a feeling he won't be much different to be honest. I have already been told I will be sleeping in the spare room with the baby as he has to work, and I don't...our main bedroom is already been referred to as 'his room' not ours anymore (I don't think this is particualry healthy for our marriage)

I think they just get a bit selfish as to the point they know they don't have to do as they know you will, and it's an awkward situation cause you can't just say you won't do it so he will have too, as it's not fair on the kids eh? I think the only way is to have a chat with him (not at the moment he bats your hand away!) and explain how you feel and that you need support from him especially with a newborn in the equation. With what is happening as it is now is not great but you may find a change in him when baby is born, maybe he's feeling like us and conserving energy by sleeping 'because he can' before newborn arrives, I'm sure he knows what he is in for shortly!

 

[Junebugs]

Oh Maze, im sorry i dont think you are being unreasonable but i really have no opinion in the matter because my husband and i made that agreement at the start that i would stay home, therefore i would get up at night and he could sleep because he has to go to work in the morning. Now, if i was REALLY tried and asked him to get up he would and he also gave me no hassle or anything if i ever needed him for support.