Skywalker
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Okay, I'm not one for pissing contents. I believe that everyone's personal problems are as big as they are to them and it doesn't ever really make anyone feel better to go, "Well you think you have problems? Think of the starving kids in Africa!" or something because that still doesn't necessarily help them come up with a solution for their problem.
But my friend comes to me and complains to me that she is getting over a cold and hates her job and that her life is basically ruined because of these two things and she got mad when I was like, "Oh, I know! I'm sorry you're going through that. I've been vomiting all day and lost my place to stay AND my jobs." because I wasn't paying enough attention to her problem and she refused to talk about my problems.
Well, excuse me, but I vomited three times today and had to work at a job with my ex-OH who I still have to live with in a foreign country that I am now stuck in because he suddenly revoked his agreement on paying for my plane ticket home. On top of that, he told me that he can no longer afford to pay me for my work remotely as previously agreed and tried to get out of paying me for the sick days he owed me that I took last week because I was also vomiting. On top of THAT I was just informed that the family member I was going to stay with upon my return to the States can no longer have me stay with her because her fiance is against anyone moving into their small apartment and none of my family can take me in because of their circumstances or there is no room, except my mother, who has a tiny house since she's retired and offered me her couch temporarily. On top of THAT the other client I was going to be working for backed out of making a decision on hiring me right now because her partner just had a seizure and it's "too stressful" for her to think about (she is also my friend and knows I am pregnant and need this job) SO now I have NO jobs when a few days ago I was assured two jobs that would provide me with enough money to live on, NO home, I am stuck in a foreign country with a man who picks fights with me on a daily basis and makes me cry and refuses to believe any of my pregnancy symptoms are real even as I'm vomiting, and yeah! I'm stranded, pregnant, 8,000 miles away from home, no jobs and only an offer to stay on my mother's small couch temporarily, faced with having to try to find work while I'm puking randomly and can't even turn my head too quickly.
And this girl wants to complain to me!?
Sorry but sometimes I think people just can't see past their own noses. I know that everyone's problems are big or small in relation to their own perception of them and that this friend ISN'T me and doesn't have my problems and that her problems are very real to her even though they're not as large as mine. But honestly, a little empathy would be nice. How the hell does a cold and being dissatisfied with a job you already have compare with being PREGNANT and still stuck living under the same roof as your ex who verbally abuses you and no job and no current way to get back to the States and no idea how to pay for rent while you get there? How exactly?
I know I will come up with a solution. I know I can go to the American Embassy here and tell them the situation and I could probably get on a military plane for stranded Americans. I know that I will work it out, that's not what I'm upset about. I'm just upset that some of my friends are SO not understanding. One of them thinks that her being stressed out over a fight with her OH is more important than the fact that I'm puking my brains out and lonely in a horrible situation and she has room in her house and she doesn't even offer it to me when I've taken her in before. Just drives me nuts, the nerve of some people >.<
Okay, I'm done ranting!
But my friend comes to me and complains to me that she is getting over a cold and hates her job and that her life is basically ruined because of these two things and she got mad when I was like, "Oh, I know! I'm sorry you're going through that. I've been vomiting all day and lost my place to stay AND my jobs." because I wasn't paying enough attention to her problem and she refused to talk about my problems.
Well, excuse me, but I vomited three times today and had to work at a job with my ex-OH who I still have to live with in a foreign country that I am now stuck in because he suddenly revoked his agreement on paying for my plane ticket home. On top of that, he told me that he can no longer afford to pay me for my work remotely as previously agreed and tried to get out of paying me for the sick days he owed me that I took last week because I was also vomiting. On top of THAT I was just informed that the family member I was going to stay with upon my return to the States can no longer have me stay with her because her fiance is against anyone moving into their small apartment and none of my family can take me in because of their circumstances or there is no room, except my mother, who has a tiny house since she's retired and offered me her couch temporarily. On top of THAT the other client I was going to be working for backed out of making a decision on hiring me right now because her partner just had a seizure and it's "too stressful" for her to think about (she is also my friend and knows I am pregnant and need this job) SO now I have NO jobs when a few days ago I was assured two jobs that would provide me with enough money to live on, NO home, I am stuck in a foreign country with a man who picks fights with me on a daily basis and makes me cry and refuses to believe any of my pregnancy symptoms are real even as I'm vomiting, and yeah! I'm stranded, pregnant, 8,000 miles away from home, no jobs and only an offer to stay on my mother's small couch temporarily, faced with having to try to find work while I'm puking randomly and can't even turn my head too quickly.
And this girl wants to complain to me!?
Sorry but sometimes I think people just can't see past their own noses. I know that everyone's problems are big or small in relation to their own perception of them and that this friend ISN'T me and doesn't have my problems and that her problems are very real to her even though they're not as large as mine. But honestly, a little empathy would be nice. How the hell does a cold and being dissatisfied with a job you already have compare with being PREGNANT and still stuck living under the same roof as your ex who verbally abuses you and no job and no current way to get back to the States and no idea how to pay for rent while you get there? How exactly?
I know I will come up with a solution. I know I can go to the American Embassy here and tell them the situation and I could probably get on a military plane for stranded Americans. I know that I will work it out, that's not what I'm upset about. I'm just upset that some of my friends are SO not understanding. One of them thinks that her being stressed out over a fight with her OH is more important than the fact that I'm puking my brains out and lonely in a horrible situation and she has room in her house and she doesn't even offer it to me when I've taken her in before. Just drives me nuts, the nerve of some people >.<
Okay, I'm done ranting!