Little bit of encouragement for ttc 40+

[maybethisit]

My midwife said today re the fact that I am 40, that the biggest group of women under her antenatal care at present is actually the over 40s, and that the oldest woman currently under her care is 47 - and this woman's was a natural conception...

 

[ciarhwyfar]

It sounds like she should know what she is doing then.

More hope for us over 40's as well.

 

[TaeBoMama]

Thanks for the encouragement. And congrats to you!

 

[Jolinar]

Good to know as I'm 40 in March and we''re starting to try for our second

When I was pregnant with Nic my MW told me something similar.

Congratulations and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

 

[maybethisit]

Thanks, I just felt it put it in perspective a bit - I read a lot of negative stuff about ttc over 40 on the net and it made me feel it might never happen for us, but the midwife (who has something like 28 years experience) said that it's just not like it was 30 years ago - women at 40 are more now still young women, physically, she said, with the better nutrition and exercise we tend to get (although I'm not sure I'm exactly a shining example of better nutrition or exercise, personally...) and she said in her experience it's becoming a lot more normal to have babies in your 40s. I just thought it was really encouraging - it might take us a bit longer to get there than it might have in our 20s but it's not nearly such a gloomy picture as some people make out!

 

[BBgirl]

Wow girls I love this thread. I was having a no hope day and now I feel better, thank you! I'm 41, have been TTC for 3 years and had 2 miscarriages since then. I also read in The Guardian that this year there has been a record number of births born to women over 40, 12% of all babies born are born to women over 40! It is a numbers game at our age, the odds are against us, but if you've ever been to a casino you will see it's still possible to beat the odds. I've read around 1 in 5 embryos at our age are normal. This isn't actually as bad as you might think, i.e. every 5 months we still have the potential to make a perfect embryo. It does mean though I guess that we need to make sure we get our timing perfect every month and keep positive. EPO 3000mg daily has had a really good effect on my mucus, this cycle, the first cycle I took it I had 4 days instead of 1! Babydust all round.

 

[maybethisit]

Hey x I also found preseed really helped with lack of ewcm - got pregnant second month of using it, maybe co-incidence but as I have very little ewcm these days I do wonder.

 

[BBgirl]

I'm on my second cycle of Preseed and in the 2ww...

 

[babymojo2]

I was 41 when I had my daughter naturally and i'm hoping to have #2 in 2011 i'll be 43 to all!! 2011 is the year!!

 

[maybethisit]

Hey good luck bbgirl! Exciting!!

 

[Catters]

Where I am currently located, it's not uncommon to see many, MANY women under the age of 20 that are pregnant -- I always felt like the odd one out at 39 yrs old but my MW would always tell me "your stats are better than some 25 year olds I see and honestly, outside of this small town, your age is more the 'norm' for those currently pregnant." I felt this was extremely encouraging news for us ... erm... ladies of the mature demographic (I hate to use the word old.. because we are so far from that!!) that are TTC!

Best of luck to all of those TTC --

 

[Hopin&Prayin]

Amazing news... So the older folk do come out ahead now... lol

Good Luck to all of us 4o and trying.. I'm super excited...

Baby dust to All.....

 

[maybethisit]

Amazing news... So the older folk do come out ahead now... lol

Good Luck to all of us 4o and trying.. I'm super excited...

Baby dust to All.....

'older folk'

Yay! Stupid old media making us feel past it - midwife said it's a load of old tosh and loads of women are having babies in their 40s these days

 

[Hopin&Prayin]

I got one for ya, I just watched a show called 70 and pregnant, I thought I was gonna pass out... This lady takes like 20 pills a day, exercises and has 3 children of young ages, I was like WOOOWWW.... Now I don't feel so old... I'm 43 now... lol

Age is just a number... Also women over 35 are prone to have multiples too... lol I think 1 will be fine for me...

 

[maybethisit]

I got one for ya, I just watched a show called 70 and pregnant, I thought I was gonna pass out... This lady takes like 20 pills a day, exercises and has 3 children of young ages, I was like WOOOWWW.... Now I don't feel so old... I'm 43 now... lol

Age is just a number... Also women over 35 are prone to have multiples too... lol I think 1 will be fine for me...

WOW 70 and pregnant...!!!!

Hey I found these stats...

Most up-to-date statistics - 2009
(calculated using the 2008-based population projections for 2009)
In 2009 there were 706,248 live births in England and Wales. 114,288 of these were to women aged 35-39, and 26,976 births to women over 40, compared to 14,252 births in 1999.

2006
2006 data shows that 22,512 to women gave birth aged 40-44 and 1,123 to women 45-49. This was broken down further:

40: 9,303
41: 6,191
42: 3,769
43: 2,069
44: 1,180
45: 585
46: 286
47: 129
48: 77
49: 46
50 and over: 71

How cool is that!!!

 

[Hopin&Prayin]

Wow that is amazing... thanks for posting... fabulous... I just feel that being older is better for the child, being older we are more stabile in every way... Kudo's for older parents... We Rawk... We cool like that...

Congratulations BTW... I'm so excited for You.... Heres to a Happy and Healthy pregnancy....

 

[maybethisit]

the other thing about those stats is that although there are fewer people in the 45+ category having babies, there are also fewer people in that age group actually ttc in the first place, so proportionally those actually ttc 45+ are probably succeeding a lot more often than it looks from even these figures!

I agree re being more stable - not that younger mums are less stable, but I know that in myself I am more patient and relaxed than I used to be

 

[Hopin&Prayin]

Yep, I agree, there are some very responsible young'ns these days, I have a girlfriend who is 25 and she is amazing with her kiddo's, huge thumbs up to them being responsible and wonderful parents.

I just wished I got pregnant younger so I can enjoy it all and have more time to see my child grow up I'm a lost cause, I thought I was pregnant, I had all the signs then BAM AF decided to show up 5 days early

Wishing you the best ...

 

[moonmama]

Thanks for this thread- its so reassuring!

 

[maybethisit]

Yep, I agree, there are some very responsible young'ns these days, I have a girlfriend who is 25 and she is amazing with her kiddo's, huge thumbs up to them being responsible and wonderful parents.

I just wished I got pregnant younger so I can enjoy it all and have more time to see my child grow up I'm a lost cause, I thought I was pregnant, I had all the signs then BAM AF decided to show up 5 days early

Wishing you the best ...

maybe next cycle... xxxxx