Firstly, what you do now is go on with your life the way you intended
My 4 year old has hydro, and she lives a very happy life. Her hydro is *an* issue but it's certainly not the centre of our lives.
Tegan had her first shunt placed at 6 days old. That one failed, and her second was placed at eight weeks. We are aware of her shunt and the risks it imposes (such as blockages, and infection, though the risk of infection does decrease over time) but we don't let it take over our lives.
I remember being very worried when her shunts were placed, but as far as brain surgery goes, a shunt being placed is minimally invasive and really quite quick (roughly 2 hours for a full placement in our case.) Hydro is a very scary condition but as your little one grows older, you'll find that you forget about it at times. You do have quite a hard road to come, I won't lie to you, because there are similarities between almost every illness and a shunt blockage/infection etc.
or anyone else that has had an LO this young go through this? How did they handle it? How long was recovery and how did they do physically after? Im most worried if she has to have a shunt instead of the endoscopic surgery about infection but we dont know what is causing her issue yet so we dont know which surgery will be better for her needs...any advice or support or anything would be nice right now...
As I said, Tegan was 6 days and 7 weeks respectively when her shunts were placed. The surgery itself took two and a half hours the first time and I think maybe three and a half the second, but the second was an emergency placement and not routine. She handled it well, the hardest thing at the time was keeping her nil by mouth because you really can't explain to a newborn why they can't eat. It is just as hard with a slightly older child too though. They don't do third ventriculostomies on children under three in the UK because they tend to heal very quickly and need to be repeated a lot. After her second shunt placement, Tegan was discharged from hospital after 6 days, but routinely shunts are placed as outpatient surgeries in the UK. She was only kept so long because of the complications her first shunt caused.
If you have any questions, please feel free to PM me. I know that what you're going through is hard, but babies are very resilient and she will be fine.