LO prefers daddy

[izzlesnizzle]

The separation anxiety for daddy isn't getting any easier. Its been going on a while now and I sometimes feel like the spare part in our little family. Its not easy for OH and he feels bad about it but I wish LO would come out of this phase soon.

She couldn't care less if im there or not and if OH leaves a room she will instantly start crying and follow him, leaving me alone on the floor with the game we were playing. Or like today for example we were having a picnic and I walked away and she was not in the slightest bit bothered, I watched her from a distance and she was more than happy and even waved me bye bye, but when OH walked away she went ballistic and crawled off across the field leaving me for dead!

What is going on here? Is it because I do all the boring care and daddy does all the fun stuff like playing, bath time etc? OH says its because ive made her so secure she knows im going to come back but I don't think it works like that at this age does it? Has anyone else had this and LO came out of it after a few weeks? Or have I just got a daddys girl forever?!

I guess I should enjoy the independence and I would probably be complaining if it was the other way around and she went mad every time I left a room (which she doesn't). I found it very hurtful to begin with, im getting more used to it now but it still annoys me.

Ps I know im a bit early to this part of the forum but I just thought some of you might have been through this with your LO recently.

 

[bmchap]

I had this with my LG ... had it for months. All I can say is she now treats us equally haha!

x

 

[choc]

My boy is the same and he is a lot older. He won't let me near him if daddy is around. I am not allowed to get him in or out the car, wipe his nose or his bum, brush his teeth, read him a story or anything at all really! He couldn't care less if I am around when daddy is there.

 

[MrsT&Ben]

It's the other way round in this house. Lo hates daddy. Won't let him do anything for him. And has been like this since he was born! Wish I had a simple answer but keep at it. Let her know you love her and try not to let her see you get upset. Hubby does this with our son and it only makes him cling to me more. xxx

 

[Banshee]

Ds1 is a total daddy's boy and has been for a couple of years. We muddle along just fine if daddy's not there but if he is in the house I might as well not exist. I wish I had a happy story to tell you it's just a phase but it has lasted a very long time for us. I used to get very upset by it but I guess now I'm just used to it.

 

[onetwothreebp]

My son always acts like I'm invisible when OH is around. He's so used to me and so he values his Daddy time. It bothered me at first because I do all the hard work and he gives me none of the glory LOL but now I gladly hand him off and take a glass of wine upstairs for a bubble bath!

 

[CKJ]

My 17month old is the same. N it used to bother me but I agree with your OH. Think about it-your bubba loves both mummy n daddy immensely. Mummy is there all day (as I am) if I go she is with daddy n I am always about in the day. She knows mummy will be there. Daddy on the other hand disappears each day, only to return much later AND be full of fun n games, when daddy leaves bubba never knows how long it'll b for. Try and see it as a proof of how secure you've made your little one Hun xxxx

 

[Mrs Doddy]

I'm around more than h , so when he is around my services are no longer required ! It used to bother me now I can do something or have a little break !