Lonely...

[lou_w34]

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[teal]

Sending you hugs

It's hard when your friends live far away. You're not sad - you've just got a lot going on Sometimes I get really annoyed thinking that I'm going to be the one raising the baby alone while FOB is out getting drunk etc and generally just ignoring that he is going to have a child.

You'll soon have your little girl and you'll be missing the time to yourself.

I hope you feel better and wish I had something useful to say xx

 

[lilyd]

As you haven't got long to go, maybe try and find some mother and baby/toddler groups near where you live? I know it is difficult going alone, but I think having something in common with everyone else means that you will always have something to talk about whilst you get to know each other. Sorry I can't think of anything else at the moment, but sending a hug in the meantime! xx

 

[lou_w34]

Thanks girlies!
Your comments really helped!
Its nice knowing others can feel the same aswell, well not that they feel bad, but that your not alone (i hope that made sense lol)

I cant wait till shes here, i think it will be easier to go to mother groups then, like she'll be giving me the push to get in there! haha

x

 

[woadie]

lou... not long now and you're going to have such a fantastic magical christmas this year... I know how you feel about feeling alone and isolated, its a horrible way to feel. But only a little longer now. Hang in there! x

 

[lou_w34]

Heehee i know
I cant wait till shes here! and soon i can do things with her instead! Then ill be wishing for more tme to myself heehee

 

[thechaosismex]

Oh hun, I feel exactly the same It just gets me thinking if this is how life is for every single SAHM mummy to be? because if it is it totally sucks at the moment. Just think of when your LO gets here, lots of stuff to do then and maybe find some other mummies to go for mummy dates with

Alternatively you could always take up cross stitching like I have this week hahaha! I'm 24 and I feel flippin 64!

xxxxx

 

[lou_w34]

Thats what im hoping for When shes here i think it will give me the confidence to go to the mother and baby groups

Im from wiltshire too! I saw in another post i think your from swindon.... me too

 

[thechaosismex]

Thats what im hoping for When shes here i think it will give me the confidence to go to the mother and baby groups

Im from wiltshire too! I saw in another post i think your from swindon.... me too

Either that or maybe I'll start my own "sad lonely cross stitcher group" and you can join Yeah I'm from Swindon too! (unfortuently!) xxx

 

[louise85]

Yep I feel the same too!! I'm going down my Mom or Dads everyday just to get out for a bit!!

But once you've got Scarlett imagine all the fun stuff you can do, baby groups, swimming and you'll be so busy you won't even think about it!!

I've been informed today FOB is going to work abroad for 18months- 2 years!! Bloody great!!!

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Yep I feel the same too!! I'm going down my Mom or Dads everyday just to get out for a bit!!

But once you've got Scarlett imagine all the fun stuff you can do, baby groups, swimming and you'll be so busy you won't even think about it!!

I've been informed today FOB is going to work abroad for 18months- 2 years!! Bloody great!!!

xx

I know, just need to wait for her to make her arrival! then let the fun begin!!

Ohhhhh i hope its somewhere really crap!! Then he can take my ex with him haha!! I dunno, like the north pole, nice and cold and secluded over there!!

 

[lou_w34]

Thats what im hoping for When shes here i think it will give me the confidence to go to the mother and baby groups

Im from wiltshire too! I saw in another post i think your from swindon.... me too

Either that or maybe I'll start my own "sad lonely cross stitcher group" and you can join Yeah I'm from Swindon too! (unfortuently!) xxx

Haha ill join your group, i may knit instead though! Cooler than cross stitching! heehee

Ahhhh its not too bad here! lol

 

[louise85]

Hahaha I've got a feeling it's not gonna be crap!! Booooooooo!!! lol

Just a bit pissed off that his name won't be on the birth certificate but I think you can add it on after...thats if he even goes!!

You've not got long now!! Could be any day really!!!

Bet every little twinge your thinking ooo is this it!!

xx

 

[thechaosismex]

Swindons not that bad, I agree, but its pretty run down and boring

ANd knitting sounds like a wayyyy better idea than cross stitch (already lost my temper with it today due to a Piglet ear colour incident!), might have to get my nan to teach me to knit woooo xx

 

[lou_w34]

Well even if its not, at least you wont have to deal with him! And no amount of sunshine in a tropical climate is gunna make up for the fact that he's missing out on his childs first few precious years.

Mines not going on the BC so i have no worries there, he wont sign it anyways, so its not like i have an option anyways heehee. To be honest it doesnt bother me too much, as theres no way i trust him with 50% parental rights.

Ahhhhh i know! I really do!! But she has to hang on untill 24th november!! I have my driving test that day, so im keeping my legs crossed untill that is over!! haha

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Boring it deffinatley is!!! Once youve done something once, youve done it all!

Haha i bet your nan will be good at it, they always are with that stuff!

x

 

[thechaosismex]

hahah she is! I gave her 12 balls of wool and some knitting patterns so I can have some cute cardis for little pincess when she arrives. If I did them god knows how they would turn out

 

[KaeRit21]

hey lou, i feel like this too... im lonely most of the time and if it hadnt been for my mum i dont know what i would have done.

i still talk to a few "friends" but i dont get to see a lot of them, it seems like theyve all got lives, going out at the weekends, etc all the things i USED to do. id be lying if i said i DIDNT get a little jealous sometimes....fob's gone now and as much as im glad i dont have to have ANY contact with him any more it sometimes gets me down that im left in this situ struggling and worrying...

BUT. i cant wait to meet my little one, and have a NEW life and NEW experiences...meet new people, do new things, learn how to be a kid again.
it might seem daunting hun, but that little girl of yours is going to bring you so much and believe me youl never be lonely again....
your life is going to change so much hunni, and you'l love every minute of it...but rest assured you arent alone in feeling lonely
if you ever need to chat am always on MSN and you can PM anytime

hope your feeling better

xxxx

 

[teal]

Lou hope you're feeling a bit better today

Some of you girls really don't have long to go at all!

 

[lou_w34]

Thanks girlies

Am feeling much better today, must have been having one of those 'feel sorry for myself moments'

And my chocolates have arrived that i ordered from a chocolate party i went too... so that has cheered me up no end!! yummys!!

xx