MikaylasMummy
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I need to get this off my chest and get some outside opininions cos i am damned sick of it!!
My sister (younger,she's only 22) and her bf,my fiancé and me were all close friends once upon a time.however over the last year sis and her bf have broken up and got back together numerous times,and in between when they were together they were always cranky together anyway.we stopped hanging out with them when a few times our plans almost got ruined due to a "break up",the most annoying was when we had booked and I had paid for a snow trip and the suddenly wernt coming a week before.they ended up coming but it caused a bit of a fight between me and her from the stress.since then iv avoided booking anything together with them.
Recently they had a huge breakup that we all thought was for good.it lasted months and in that time my sister was crazy,she would ring him a million times a night if he was out and accused him of being with someone else.called him horrible things and told him to kill himself and involved everyone else in their fights as well.he gave as good as he got though.they were both going silly.one night my oh was out at the club and happened to see her ex,they ended up going to sis' exes house for the rest of the night with a group of friends.my sister went crazy accusing this one girl of being there and had a go at my oh.a few weeks later oh was out again for one of his best friends birthdays when I got a message from my sis saying "is oh out what's his number?".so I sent it to her thinking all was ok and as soon as I pressed send i got a nasty message back on the lines of "effing dog is out with L and J " again( her ex and the girl he was apparently seeing).so I sent her a message saying no hes not hes with his good friends and don't u dare have a go at him.in the meantime I rang my oh and he was NOT with them.he had just arrived in a taxi with said friends whos bday it was.my sis then proceeded to ring my oh a hundred times that night scream at him and ended up sending a message calling him a c*#t and a maggot for apparently being with her ex and this girl.mind you oh didnt say a bad word back and just put up with it..which is unlike him.
Anyhow he told me to let it go but when sis messaged me that morning i simply said "I think you owe oh an apology" and she went off on a tirade how she did nothing wrong and no one was getting an apology..cue huge fight.
I eventually rang mum to talk to her about it and mum then spoke to Sis,however I then get a phone call back from mum saying how I have no idea what she's going through bla bla bla and almost attacking me for being upset for oh!i was very upset about it all but oh made me let it go so i did.although I felt like me and him had been treated unfairly and I didn't want to stand for it.
Fast forward to now,a month later, and sis and her bf are back together and all happy again,she's being spoilt with all her expensive presents again and her oh has practically moved into mums to spend time with her.so now oh is quite annoyed since he forgave her as she was having a hard time but he feels that now she's all happy and has everything her way she should at least acknowledge that how she treated him was wrong and I agree with him. Yet she won't she just continues to be a stubborn bitch.oh feels uncomfortable coming to mums for dinners and visits since he feels attacked and like my mum took her side as well and no one cared that he copped it all.i know how they would be if someone in his family did that to me and wouldn't apologise!and I know how sis would be if someone made her bf not want to come to our family home and be part of the family!
Sorry for the novel but here's my point,do I have a right to be upset and continue to expect and apology to make it right with oh?i have to distance myself with sis because every time she messages or rings he grumbles about her,and I think rightly so.everything has calmed down between us all but only because I compromised and let it go and allowed us to be treated like that.am I overreacting here?
My sister (younger,she's only 22) and her bf,my fiancé and me were all close friends once upon a time.however over the last year sis and her bf have broken up and got back together numerous times,and in between when they were together they were always cranky together anyway.we stopped hanging out with them when a few times our plans almost got ruined due to a "break up",the most annoying was when we had booked and I had paid for a snow trip and the suddenly wernt coming a week before.they ended up coming but it caused a bit of a fight between me and her from the stress.since then iv avoided booking anything together with them.
Recently they had a huge breakup that we all thought was for good.it lasted months and in that time my sister was crazy,she would ring him a million times a night if he was out and accused him of being with someone else.called him horrible things and told him to kill himself and involved everyone else in their fights as well.he gave as good as he got though.they were both going silly.one night my oh was out at the club and happened to see her ex,they ended up going to sis' exes house for the rest of the night with a group of friends.my sister went crazy accusing this one girl of being there and had a go at my oh.a few weeks later oh was out again for one of his best friends birthdays when I got a message from my sis saying "is oh out what's his number?".so I sent it to her thinking all was ok and as soon as I pressed send i got a nasty message back on the lines of "effing dog is out with L and J " again( her ex and the girl he was apparently seeing).so I sent her a message saying no hes not hes with his good friends and don't u dare have a go at him.in the meantime I rang my oh and he was NOT with them.he had just arrived in a taxi with said friends whos bday it was.my sis then proceeded to ring my oh a hundred times that night scream at him and ended up sending a message calling him a c*#t and a maggot for apparently being with her ex and this girl.mind you oh didnt say a bad word back and just put up with it..which is unlike him.
Anyhow he told me to let it go but when sis messaged me that morning i simply said "I think you owe oh an apology" and she went off on a tirade how she did nothing wrong and no one was getting an apology..cue huge fight.
I eventually rang mum to talk to her about it and mum then spoke to Sis,however I then get a phone call back from mum saying how I have no idea what she's going through bla bla bla and almost attacking me for being upset for oh!i was very upset about it all but oh made me let it go so i did.although I felt like me and him had been treated unfairly and I didn't want to stand for it.
Fast forward to now,a month later, and sis and her bf are back together and all happy again,she's being spoilt with all her expensive presents again and her oh has practically moved into mums to spend time with her.so now oh is quite annoyed since he forgave her as she was having a hard time but he feels that now she's all happy and has everything her way she should at least acknowledge that how she treated him was wrong and I agree with him. Yet she won't she just continues to be a stubborn bitch.oh feels uncomfortable coming to mums for dinners and visits since he feels attacked and like my mum took her side as well and no one cared that he copped it all.i know how they would be if someone in his family did that to me and wouldn't apologise!and I know how sis would be if someone made her bf not want to come to our family home and be part of the family!
Sorry for the novel but here's my point,do I have a right to be upset and continue to expect and apology to make it right with oh?i have to distance myself with sis because every time she messages or rings he grumbles about her,and I think rightly so.everything has calmed down between us all but only because I compromised and let it go and allowed us to be treated like that.am I overreacting here?