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[shradha]

Emma and Laura - I have heard that a baby gets excited when the father comes and starts talking.....I mean do your babies start kicking when they hear their daddy talking??

Laura - you seem to be in pain..........is it becoz your due date is coming near? I am really worried for you....wish could help you in some way.....

I am married for the past 4 years and 5 months......It's like opposites attract.....he is laid back...I am systematic.....but whenever I have mood swings he silently listens....which is why I love him even more....when he has his....I silently listen... Heheheheeeee...... I am happy that you too have a dh who understands you so well....

Patrice- how sweet .........you are lucky to have a loving dh........... See things are going good for you now.....dh joining coast guard....you are getting appreciation in work....your boss likes you now.....I really feel this is going to be your month........ All the best

 

[mzswizz]

Thanks Shadra. And yes everything is looking up for us. Hoping to get a bfp this month. I got 2 months and 2 weeks before i go for the follow up where my ob/gyn would run tests etc but im hoping that we get a bfp before then.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi ladies- wow, lots of posts to catch up on! I have been trying since early this morning to read everything but family keeps calling me away with needs'n'wants (that's all one word )lol.

Shradha- what a lovely story! You said something that really caught my attention- you mentioned how you and your dh are best friends. That, I believe, is the key to true love My dh and I were not really romantic, e.g., dinners, dating, etc, we just met and were instant friends and wanted to be together. And as we were both very mature decided "why wait?" so married right away.

Patrice- sounds like love at first site, lol...you and dh don't waste time either, huh?! Like I told Shradha- being friends is a major part of a great relationship

Steph- I can't wait to se the pics...another tww lol. That's funny you and your dh met online (in a way). Funny how people meet and are drawn to one another!

Laura- I feel bad about the pain you are in. Because of the pain my dh constantly suffers I know that it can be both debilitating and all-consuming...I am glad you discovered what the problem is and I have my fx'd that you're insurance will cover it!

Speaking of pain, I am wondering how I will feel in a few months...I broke my ribs skiiing years ago (I love to ski ) and with my first pregnancy the ribs made a funny clicking sound when I breathed Then last winter I was in an accident and broke the ribs on my other side and they h eal very slowly. This morning I woke up and they were killing me, I guess I lai on that side too long ? Anyway, I will be in an interesting state I will either be in pain or be clicking away all night BTW- how awesome that your dh came with the van and the lights to help you! Awww, he loves you very much

 

[mzswizz]

Coy-yes dh and i are best friends. Even before we were dating, while we were talking on the internet, (met on internet first), i helped him get better because he was feeling sick. As you can tell, i really liked him So yes, we have been best friends and it has worked out ever since. And dh had told me that if we ever got engaged, we are getting married that same year because there's no need to wait around.

 

[Grey Eyes]

AFM- I woke up in an awesome mood this morning...I found my maternity clothes yesterday and washed them all. It was so weird as I have never washed an entire load of laundry that is just my stuff before... Anyway, I have several pair of jeans that fit now I got dressed, went to sit down and instantly got called up There are morning when I would like to sit down and enjoy my whole piece of toast before I have to go do something for somebody but no such luck today! It was 1:45 p.m. before I got to sit down again..:roll.. lol! Somehow I got roped into doing all of the grocery shopping early, running errands, dh decided he wanted cranberry muffins so I baked those, washed the dishes, did a load of laundry, dried and folded it and put it all away, then got the girls their lunch, cleaned the living room, mopped the kitchen, and had to fix my leaking kitchen faucet... So my good mood is seriously being threatened

Honestly it is weird...dh and the girls can be watching a movie and I will go in the living room with them and sit down on the couch to watch also and instantly "mom- what can we eat?" and I'll say "are you hungry" ..."no..." lol. I think it's just they like to feel me in the house being a busy-bee and maybe when I sit down they feel like stuff's not gonna happen? I will have to find a way to change all that soon....

 

[Grey Eyes]

Thank you all for letting me whinge about the pain, feel like that's all I do at the minute.

This is the place! I love this thread because you are all so understanding and helpful- it helps to talk about it when you have a problem! If I didn't have you ladies to talk to I would probably have so much more stress than I do now!

I know when my dh is in pain he is very often crabby and withdrawn...which, of course, hurts my feelings and more often than not leaves me feeling like a very in-the-way and unwanted individual Which puts me on the defensive This is pretty much a daily basis thing, so it can be very stressful to a relationship. But I do understand and there are times I just totally lose my temper and light into him about attitude and etc blush. He always apologizes and tries to explain about the pain and its effects...however, I do understand and that's why we try to work at it together. I love the way your dh rushes to your aid It's good that you talk to him about the pain and your worries so that he understands if you are in a horrible "woman-mood" that's it's not his fault (necessarily)lol.

Honestly this site has helped me a ton in the stress department I am able to launch into my woman issues and you gize always understand

Which brings me to another topic- after we all get bfp's and our little bundles arrive I would hate to stop the thread at that point! Not sure what the bnb rules are but...You are all such awesome friends and I would feel lost not hearing about you and your daily events and your LO's!

 

[SpudsMama]

I can't see any reason why we can't all keep this thread going once the babies are here. There's a part of this site for parenting teenagers so we're set for a few more years yet We might just get moved to a different section, away from the TTC groups board xx

 

[Grey Eyes]

I can't see any reason why we can't all keep this thread going once the babies are here. There's a part of this site for parenting teenagers so we're set for a few more years yet We might just get moved to a different section, away from the TTC groups board xx

True! So they just move us, huh? Imagine us still on here with teenagers

 

[Steph32]

Ahhh I am so tired. Went to a combined 4 and 8 year olds birthday party at Pump It Up and... so not the place for a very pregnant lady! Crowded, balls flying, kids screaming and running into you... I didn't know where to put my belly! I am so ready to be done, but I feel like I still have to cater to all these obligations... I'm feeling a bit selfish right now, and I guess it's just that feeling like it's "my" time and I shouldn't have to do anything for anyone (except dh and ds)... anyone know what I mean? I just want to crawl into my nest and relish in these last few weeks of pregnancy without being bothered. Everyone expects me to do all these things, and it's like hello, I'm a little bit preoccupied by the job ahead in a few weeks!

I'm in so much pain too. I can't even walk anymore. I try the maternity belt but it doesn't seem to help. Each step just kills my lower back and my pubic bone. The only time it temporarily heals is when I get to stay off my feet for a few days (which hardly ever happens) but if I have constant days of being on my feet it just has no time to heal. Even a good night of sleep is not enough. And finding the right position to sleep is difficult, even with my Snoogle and all these pillows strategically placed everywhere it kind of becomes a problem when I have to get up in the night because I get stuck and have to climb over all the pillows to get out. I just hope the pain doesn't get much worse in the next 6 weeks.

 

[Grey Eyes]

... I'm feeling a bit selfish right now, and I guess it's just that feeling like it's "my" time and I shouldn't have to do anything for anyone (except dh and ds)... anyone know what I mean? I just want to crawl into my nest and relish in these last few weeks of pregnancy without being bothered. Everyone expects me to do all these things, and it's like hello, I'm a little bit preoccupied by the job ahead in a few weeks!

Steph- excuse me, but that's what I was going to write! lol.

Yes. I know exactly how you feel. You feel like you should be able to focus your attention on yourself once in awhile without worrying about the world so much, right? I feel the same way...in fact it has been bothering me more and more the last couple of weeks. So much stress since my mc in November- I had to hide that from the girls and that's so hard to do when you are in excessive pain and bleeding like crazy. Having to deal with that and put on a happy face and do dinner, dishes, normal stuff- it's hard. And I think since I had to for the girls sake maybe dh shrugged my stress aside. And since I have gotten pregnant again I am so happy about that but haven't really had a moment to just relax and enjoy it- stress of bills and dh's health especially is hard for me to deal with right now. I got up this morning and felt really good and optimistic as I had just pretty much gotten everything under control for this month and dh makes a comment to me about a particular stress I have been under - like I had forgotten and needed reminding and it comes rushing back. I will triumph over one job completed and seems like someone is there pointing to another job I haven't done yet So I have been upset the rest of the day and haven't really talked to dh. I spend so much time trying to make things easier for everyone and I wish for once it would be reciprocated- especially when I really need it

I kind of feel like everything you just wrote- I want to have the right to enjoy my pregnancy and myself a little bit without being on-call for the world.

I think you need to follow your insticnts- tell the world to wait until after and give yourself time for dh and ds and yourself. Try to relax and just put everything unneccesary on hold. (If you can!)

 

[Grey Eyes]

Steph- btw

"combined 4 and 8 year olds birthday party at Pump It Up " sounds like anightmare!

 

[SpudsMama]

Steph & Coy - I know that feeling all too well! Granted I get a break every few days so it's not as bad as what the two of you have to put up with. Because I announced my pregnancy within a couple of weeks of my Mom being diagnosed with brain tumours, everything is focused on her (obviously a good thing, she needs caring for more than I do!). But sometimes I'm like "can we talk about the nice things about having this baby, rather than trying to fit her in around my Mom's chemo schedule?!". I know it's all in my head, but it feels like Spud is a bit of a hindrance to some people in this family. Thankfully my Mom is in love with her already and never stops talking about her I think that if she were any less excited I'd be more upset IYKWIM? xx

 

[shradha]

Emma - I am so sorry about your mom......how is she doing now?

It is very important that you take some time out for self.....becoz when you have a family you forget about yourself .....there is no longer me or I ....it's always them ......

Coy, Laura , Emma , Steph ....please don't say about leaving ......... It's already making me sad......will miss you......although from the bottom of my heart I am happy for you all..... I guess after few months .....this thread will be left with me and Patrice........Patrice.......come on let's do it right this time......hopefully soon we will be able to join them in the other section......

 

[shradha]

Thank you all for letting me whinge about the pain, feel like that's all I do at the minute.

Oh come on dear.....that's what friends are for......you don't have to feel bad about anything.......just let your feelings out......we may not be physically present but our hearts are linked with each other..........

I am happy that your dh is taking good care of you.....so sweet ...

 

[mzswizz]

Seem like you ladies have been pretty busy yesterday

Shadra-Dont worry we will get our bfps soon so we can join the pregnant train

AFM, well im just waking up this morning. Had a long night. DH and I both went out but separately. His brother invited him to a boys' night out and watch the fight so he went and I hung out with my girls. We both didnt make it home until close to 2am and DH had to wake up 4 hours later for work. Yesterday, dh and I dtd before parting ways It was more of a random fun moment. Today im on cd31, temp is 97.53 and opk is still negative. Im glad im temping and taking the opks because now i can see what's going on and take the stress of guessing out. Hoping i get a smiley soon. When i took the opk this morning, I noticed that the bottom half of the test line is darker than the top half Don't know how that happened. Well tomorrow, I got to take my MIL to the hospital to do paperwork etc in the afternoon then after that, Im going to stop by and see my friends so tomorrow is going to be a busy day. Looks like maybe i will ov in the middle of may. Atleast if that does happen..then i would have to go through only this cycle and the next cycle (if i dont get my bfp) before seeing the doc which isnt pretty bad. And i like the fact that my chart is all over the place. My temps have been staying in the 97.40s and 97.50s range so thats good. Atleast ff will have a lower coverline this time and hopefully my temps stay up. We shall see though...patiently waiting

 

[SpudsMama]

I won't be leaving this thread anytime soon... I'm the one who started it! xx

 

[Grey Eyes]

Shradha- I don't think any of us will be leaving! I for one will love the support and "talks" even after baby is born, maybe especially then! Plus, if it is a boy I may needs Steph and Laura's baby-boy-advice on a few things as I have only ever cared for girls! Whole different world iykwim! Are you still AF or are you advancing to OV soon??

Emma- I know how you feel, and you have every right to want special attentions...I mean, this is a brand new life in the making! She will be a whole new other person with her own characteristics and attitudes- she deserves her own space. And no reason to feel guilty about wanting that, I am sure your mom is in line with you as I bet Phoebe is already something special to her and just what she needs to heal fast! My dh was married previously and had debilitating 4th stage non-Hodgkins lymphoma--they told him he had 2 weeks to live but he said he was driven to survive as he and his wife had just had a baby girl. He said she kept him strong! (This was about 20 years ago or so).

AFM- today started good...I am in a good mood, made breakfast for everyone, no headache this morning... The sun is even up today YAY! so maybe will plant our onions outside in our new garden bed. We will have to keep them covered as it has been super cold at night. Dh got up early to snow on the ground yesterday Got my final assignment to finish today is all...

Oh, btw, my little 3 year old has just finally learned how to peddle her tryke! This is a big YAY! moment for her as she has struggled with the concept, lol. Now she is a master (since this morning)

 

[mzswizz]

Coy-yay for that. Your 3 yr old made a major accomplishment. And sounds like you are having a very good day.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Coy-yay for that. Your 3 yr old made a major accomplishment. And sounds like you are having a very good day.

So far yes! Dh and I had a good talk this morning so got everything sorted and I am feeling better about things (Hormones- sheesh! ) lol.

I think it's great that your temps have been steady this month. I know with the longer cycles you mentioned your doc told you to watch for two surges then ovulation...I am wondering if you will get two smileys in that case? Or just the darker lines for the first surge like we saw earlier?

I am dragging my feet about my assignment (as usual) I should just bang it out and get it over with...but the sun is shining out.... and that beats a jury trial analysis any day Gonna go take the girls for a walk then have some ice cream

 

[Grey Eyes]

O my God, I just watched the literal version of Billy Idol's "White Wedding". I almost peed my pants

Hope you don't mind me posting this on here, I needed a laugh, lol....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kmngLUtxwJM