Looks like I might be joining you in here

[sam's mum]

doubt it.... we had a massive conversation about everything this evening, and andrews come to his decision...

He wants me to have an abortion and that's final... he thinks that at 5 weeks there is nothing there anyway, and that we'd be much happier without a baby. I've told him that we'll never be the same again after an abortion, and he says we will and that's it.

I've tried explaining that the baby will already have a heartbeat, and I've gone through the ins and outs of abortion and all he said was "don't read stuff like that (about babies development), it'll only make it worse"

I hate him

Guys don't seem to understand that at 5 weeks a baby might be tiny, but the second you find out your pregnant you start imagining your whole life with that baby, what they might look like, what they'll grow up to be... If you don't want to go through with it, don't It might seem like the hardest thing in the world to imagine doing this on your own right now, but it takes (some) men a hell of a lot longer to get to that 'we're having a baby' stage than it does for us, and for it to actually seem real in their minds. Rather than telling him about abortion details and babies' development, you might want to try educating him on the long-term effects an abortion can have on a woman who doesn't want to go through with it. He might not feel attached to your baby right now, but he should at least care about what he's considering putting you through. And if he doesn't, then you're better off without him (sorry - probably a bit harsh but he's annoyed me )

Didn't mean that to sound as if I was telling you what to do - that's really not how I meant it to come across at all, but he probably thinks that everything would just go back to normal afterwards and I think it's important that he understands the implications of what he's asking you to do x

 

[sparkswillfly]

Thats pretty harsh. I hope he comes round and realises what hurtful things he has said to you. As difficult as it may sound dont let him bring you down you have a life going inside you that needs you to be happy and healthy. We are all here if you need to vent.