pinkmonki
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Afternoon ladies, I hope you're all well?
Well, The house move went as smoothly as can be expected and we're slowly getting unpacked.
I met with the consultant today to get the OK for my homebirth at my new midwife's insistence and it did not go well
As soon as I mentioned my reason for being there he turned negative and told me homebirthing was a big risk before even looking at my notes! He said (again before looking at notes or checking me over) that he couldn't predict a problem free birth so wouldn't be happy to recommend it, but couldn't stop me. Then he decides to check me over..
He measured my fundal height (measuring 41) and has decided that my baby is HUGE and too big for me to birth without intervention and that I also probably have gestational diabetes! Now by this point I'm literally struck dumb with the utter absurdity of what he's saying to me (The baby really isn't that big, I'd be incredibly shocked to go over 8lbs!) but told him that I was still going to homebirth. He then argued that I could tear badly and bleed.. I said this could happen in hospital too and I'm only 4 mins from the hospital by blue light. He then said that labour could possibly not progress, to which I repeated that I'm not far from the hospital.
I'm simply stunned that he could decide all of this on a fundal measurement! Told him I appreciated his concerns but that I would be disregarding them. But now It's looking highly likely that the midwife will refuse to deliver my kit this week.
OH was with me throughout and agrees that the consultant was simply looking to say no and inventing reasons why. I'm completely gutted. I could go into labour any day and simply don't have the energy for this when I should be getting ready to birth my baby. I'm awaiting a call from the midwife but I'm very damn certain that I will not be going to hospital even if that means doing this on my own!
Well, The house move went as smoothly as can be expected and we're slowly getting unpacked.
I met with the consultant today to get the OK for my homebirth at my new midwife's insistence and it did not go well
As soon as I mentioned my reason for being there he turned negative and told me homebirthing was a big risk before even looking at my notes! He said (again before looking at notes or checking me over) that he couldn't predict a problem free birth so wouldn't be happy to recommend it, but couldn't stop me. Then he decides to check me over..
He measured my fundal height (measuring 41) and has decided that my baby is HUGE and too big for me to birth without intervention and that I also probably have gestational diabetes! Now by this point I'm literally struck dumb with the utter absurdity of what he's saying to me (The baby really isn't that big, I'd be incredibly shocked to go over 8lbs!) but told him that I was still going to homebirth. He then argued that I could tear badly and bleed.. I said this could happen in hospital too and I'm only 4 mins from the hospital by blue light. He then said that labour could possibly not progress, to which I repeated that I'm not far from the hospital.
I'm simply stunned that he could decide all of this on a fundal measurement! Told him I appreciated his concerns but that I would be disregarding them. But now It's looking highly likely that the midwife will refuse to deliver my kit this week.
OH was with me throughout and agrees that the consultant was simply looking to say no and inventing reasons why. I'm completely gutted. I could go into labour any day and simply don't have the energy for this when I should be getting ready to birth my baby. I'm awaiting a call from the midwife but I'm very damn certain that I will not be going to hospital even if that means doing this on my own!