Lost my support :(

[F0xybabe]

I'm losing my mind. I can't deal with being a single mommy my daughter cries all the time and fights all her naps, and while she's awake I'm exhausted from trying to entertain her. I was barely coping before but got by because my mom was such a great help, taking her when it was too much, helping out with things like bath time and letting me nap sometimes when I was too tired.

But she's stopped supporting me and is starting to say mean things about how I can't cope on my own. She keeps insinuating that this should be easy for me and "how am I going to deal when I'm on my own". I get where she's coming from but it's completely irrelevant because I'm not on my own, and when I am, it's likely my lo will be 1year + which from my understanding is a lot different than 5 months!

I'm losing my mind now. I'm so isolated and don't even want to go near my parents anymore. It's just me and my baby who cries all the time.

I can't afford to move out, but I hate being here now.

How do you cope? I hate that I'm a single mom. I'm so angry at lo's father for being such a deadbeat. And I'm so ashamed that I can't handle this

 

[creatingpeace]

Is there anyone else, close firends who can help you out?

I guess I am thinking a few thinghs...maybe try moms groups to start building a network for yourself? Obviously your Mom is feeling a little burnt out and/or maybe unappreciated. Maybe explain to her how helpful she is to you and how appreciated having those breaks are for you?

Why is your LO crying all the time? that would be very draining?

 

[weebubba]

So sorry you're having a really difficult time. I think you should discuss how you are feeling with your doctor. Sounds like your struggling emotionally and unfortunately this can have a knock-on effect with your daughter. Kids are really sensitive to how we feel and it turns into a vicious cycle where tension and emotions are high.

As PP said is there anyone else you can reach out to for some help? Please try not to beat yourself up over things im sure you are a wonderful mother, but we are all just human and we need a break or a little help from time to time when things become overwhelming for us.

Maybe in her own way your mother thinks that by being a little tough on you it might make a difference for the better. I hope you get some resolve and maybe some of the girls on here can offer better advice than I have.

Take care.

 

[lovejoy]

Aww hugs to you hun.

Try checking out the house with little one, are there any playgroups around your area? I find I start to get annoyed and down when I stay home more than I do when I go out.

 

[F0xybabe]

I'm feeling much better ladies but thank you for responding. I looked into some nearby groups so I'm feeling hopeful. And grandma watches lo for a bit while I went shopping (its the little things) I think this weather is getting the best of me

 

[moomin_troll]

I have two boys and have never really had much of a support network in place. I've begged for help and still got none from my mum.
It's so hard doing it alone but u get used to it, I have my bad days where all I wana do is scream.
Boys drive me mad and I need a break but can't get one.
All I want is a lie in, that won't happen :/ lol
It's not fair of ur mum to say those things, I know how it feels as my mums made similar remarks, she just forgets I raised my younger sister