LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[deafgal01]

Deafgal I had my DH taking fertilaid and we got pregnant within 1-2 months of him taking it but I was on clomid and stuff. Not sure if that's what u where talking about. But stay away from the fertilaid for women our fertility of said that's a big no.

I'll make mental note to stay away from fertilaid. I don't plan to take that although I am on prenatal vitamins (kroger brand usually or meijer). I don't think anything would help my DH with his swimmers anyways.

I found the answer. I mentioned it just now before this post.

 

[KatO79]

My patience has paid off AF has finally turned up! Never been so happy to come on - think it's going to be a painful one as had cramps for a couple of days but at least I have a stake in the sand and a starting point to start trying again! Plus it feels like the physical effects of the miscarriage are finally over!!now just to deal with the emotional side

Glad your AF showed up and you can now move on emotionally

 

[Myshelsong]

Why no on the fertilaid?
It has vitex in it as well.

Also waiting for af so we can start the IUI this month. Hoping it doesn't come at all so I don't have to do another one, but if it is coming hurry up!

 

[KatO79]

I was at one point looking into FertilAid when we were TTCing naturally but read some reviews that it totally messed up women that had regular cycles so didn't dare take a chance. I did try the FertilCM pills for 1 cycle back in Spring 2014 but they didn't help me much plus gave me some strange CM changes (during my fertile days I'd go from e.g. very watery 1 day to almost bone dry the next) so stopped taking them. I didn't dare try taking them another cycle. So yeah I would think women should only try FertilAid if they're cycles are irregular (since it says it balances hormones), otherwise you risk them becoming irregular or messing yourself up even more than that. Granted only a small few experienced huge cycle issues after taking them but I wouldn't risk it unless my cycles were super irregular or something like that

 

[swimmyj1]

Pretty much exactly what my fertility doc said. Women with normal cycles may only need on hormone they are lacking or their hormones are fine. There is a large # of women who have gone on it and it has messed with their natural hormone production throwing off their cycles and egg release. He said a few women he was treating had been on it and even after months off of it they were not returning to normal cycles. Yikes!!!

 

[KatO79]

Pretty much exactly what my fertility doc said. Women with normal cycles may only need on hormone they are lacking or their hormones are fine. There is a large # of women who have gone on it and it has messed with their natural hormone production throwing off their cycles and egg release. He said a few women he was treating had been on it and even after months off of it they were not returning to normal cycles. Yikes!!!

Oy extra glad I dedided not to chance it then That's pretty scary, if it's messing up that many women then it should be taken off the market.

AFM my MIL was by yesterday to help us clean the apartment so it's good to show perspective buyers Tuesday (my in-laws and their friends decided to sell it instead of finding a new renter since they can make lots of money selling it now). By the time she came by, I'd been standing for a very long time and was doing the dishes since our washer stinks right now and hadn't washed everything good. At one point she gave me more stuff to wash and I told her it may need to wait since I was starting to get back pain (my back has been slightly dodgy since a horseback riding accident some years ago). She pretty much said well she thinks I should just wash those things instead because it needs to get done. I could feel I really needed a break and sat down to take 10-15 minutes when she started meddling and said I should do exercises instead so I can keep on cleaning. By this time DH had gotten back from buying a few moving boxes. I told her firmly I needed a break. She then tried again and I had to say it again, firmer and raised my voice a bit. She then stopped. It's just so annoying because DH also has issues with his back but when he mentions it, it's her poor little baby and he needs to take it easy when it hurts and get messages yada yada. Me, nope no sympathy, I should just do exercises so I can clean more I will say though that our last "altercation" was 4 years ago where she was mixing into what DH and I decided to spend money on during a trip to England we took with her and my FIL so it's a rareish occurence.

 

[Myshelsong]

Well I heard about those things online too, but in the midst of the crazy no know what is going on I did break down and I took it for over 6 months and had no cycle issues. So i think it is really person dependent, which is like everything else i guess. Didn't get pregnant, mainly because I was not the issue in the infertility to begin with. But I am taking their OvuPlus from fertilaid to improve ovulation, just in case there is an issue with egg health. You never know until they try IVF if there is something wrong.

Sorry your MIL was being nasty yesterday Kat. That seems to be what mother in laws do lol!

 

[KatO79]

Sorry your MIL was being nasty yesterday Kat. That seems to be what mother in laws do lol!

Mine is generally not so bad, she's much nicer to me than my own narcissistic mother. At least with her I'm free from putting up with emotional and verbal abuse (although my brother is much worse than she is whenever we do communicate which we haven't since last January). It's just she once in a while irritates me with things like that. In a way, I hate having to lay down the law with her like that because I want to have a good relationship with her but it's necessary - I've already too often been bulldozed by my own family when it comes to my needs and boundaries, never again

 

[swimmyj1]

I'm super annoyed (sorry gonna rant away) my mom who was super negative at first about me being pregnant saying things like it's not even really a baby. Now has told pretty much everyone that she's gonna be a grandma. I had some of her friends message me today saying how excited they were and they can't wait to know what we are having. When I explained we aren't going to tell people what it is (trying to hide that im mad not like it's their fault she told them) they were upset saying then they won't know what color things to buy and give to my mom for HER nursery .... Umm what nursery. Apparently my mom is planning on having a nursery at her house for when I leave my child at her house. Not like I have a problem with my mom baby sitting but she lives almost 3 hours away its not like I'm gonna just leave my kid there for weeks. Ughhhh sorry I'm just annoyed. Am I overreacting?? I haven't talked directly to her yet sense she is still mad that I told her no one will be in the devery room (again ages away but she asked), and apparently I'm selfish for that too.

 

[KatO79]

swimmy I may be off base here and apologise beforehand if I am, but does your mother perhaps, possibly have a personality disorder? I'm thinking Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) could be a possibility. I'm almost 100% sure my own mother (plus 3 siblings to varying degrees) has it so know the signs. It sounds like yours could also have it, it's pretty normal for them to use the selfish card when you don't give them what they want - I have been told that myself countless times by both my mother and especially one brother (the most malignant of my siblings by far) when I set a boundary. That yours is making a nursery and blabbing about being a grandmother and her friends saying stuff like that to you, especially after saying it's not a real baby, it just makes me think NPD. Since you haven't talked to her, is it because she uses the silent treatment when you've tried to e.g. set a boundary or disagree with her and when you try to talk about any altercations, does she refuse to admit she did/said anything wrong? Is everything always your fault?

Here's a checklist:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...201011/maternal-narcissism-survey-is-your-mom

Characteristics of NPD mothers:

https://parrishmiller.com/narcissists.html

https://thenarcissisticlife.com/do-i-have-a-narcissistic-mother-21-signs-of-a-narcissistic-mother/

 

[PeterPanWendy]

Hey ladies! I'll join you if you don't mind! Some of you may have seen my posts on other boards, but I'm 22 and so is DH. We've been trying since I stopped my birth control in September 2014. I did three rounds of Clomid right away, because my doc believed my ovaries were "on vacation" since I'd been on bc and that I just needed help to regulate my system into ovulating on its own again. I ended up switching doctors because I just knew I needed further testing. My new doc has been wonderful, and I had several tests run (including SA for hubby, which came back normal!) and I was diagnosed with PCOS. I had an HSG dye test, and both tubes are open and patent (yay!) so I am now on CD 3 and I'll be taking Femara 5mg on cd 5-7. The 2.5mg didn't work last month.

Swimmy, your mom sounds like my mother-in-law. So sorry you're dealing with that.

 

[KatO79]

Welcome PeterPanWendy

Sorry to hear that you're also a LTTTC'er. Good that you got such a great result at your HSG and your DH for his SA. Hope the Femara works for you this time, FXed

 

[wannabemummyb]

Hey ladies! I'll join you if you don't mind! Some of you may have seen my posts on other boards, but I'm 22 and so is DH. We've been trying since I stopped my birth control in September 2014. I did three rounds of Clomid right away, because my doc believed my ovaries were "on vacation" since I'd been on bc and that I just needed help to regulate my system into ovulating on its own again. I ended up switching doctors because I just knew I needed further testing. My new doc has been wonderful, and I had several tests run (including SA for hubby, which came back normal!) and I was diagnosed with PCOS. I had an HSG dye test, and both tubes are open and patent (yay!) so I am now on CD 3 and I'll be taking Femara 5mg on cd 5-7. The 2.5mg didn't work last month.

Swimmy, your mom sounds like my mother-in-law. So sorry you're dealing with that.

welcome sorry to hear about your lttc but great you are seeing a doc whose treating you

 

[swimmyj1]

KatO - its weird because my mom only has ever acted like this towards me. I would say 99% of the time she is super supportive and I feel like I can go to her with anything and then there is this other 1% that I'm like who the heck are you?!?! But she never does it to anyone else. I talked to her today and she denies anything about a nursery but is upset that we aren't going to find out and I told her she just has to deal with it lol. But she is sorry that she told people. She just said she is getting excited for her first grand baby and is already knitting baby stuff. So I probably should have just gone to her 1st instead of just listening to a 3rd party.

But on good news I found the heart beat on my home doppler yesterday. I made DH hide it though so i don't over use it. I really hope this one works out, I've started to let myself get excited and that worries me.

Wendy - I know i said hi on the other group but hi again sorry your going through LTTTC i know its a nightmare

 

[Myshelsong]

Hey Swimmy, I was going to say she is probably really just super excited and getting everything ready for the new family member, but went a wee bit over board. Glad you're we're able to talk with her and sort it out.

HiWendy, hope this journey does not last too long for you. We are all in different stages as you can see from our signatures but we are here for you if you need anything, or want to complain about anything you are going through.

AFM I am waiting for af to arrive to see can get this IUI started! Like four days longer than usual, but I am sure I ovulated later this month. All tests have come back glaring white so pretty sure I am not pg, just super annoyed this is taking forever.

 

[KatO79]

OK I'm so excited...... for me



Now the fun part: how to tell DH

 

[DBZ34]

Congrats, Kat!!! Hooray!!! I'm so thrilled for you!

(I wish I could surprise DH when we finally get lucky, but he's like in the bathroom as soon as I'm done peeing. lol.)

Let us know how you do it!

 

[swimmyj1]

Omg yay!!!!!

 

[Myshelsong]

Congrats on the bfp
Happy healthy nine months to you

 

[KatO79]

Thanks everyone

FXed we'll see more BFPs on this thread

As for surprising DH, I had a t-shirt I'd bought a little over 1 year ago where it says "Keep Calm I'm Pregnant." So put that on and when DH was walking towards the car I got out and opened my jacket. He was happy but found it a bit embarrassing since it was a slightly "public" way of telling him although I seriously doubt anyone else noticed it