LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[KatO79]

Multiples do come with their own set of issues, that's true. I'm surprised you don't get a say in it at all though. I know IVF is covered for you, but how many goes could a person get on the government/insurance?

I only get 3 IVFs and unlimited FETs (which you need frosties for and unfortunately we don't have any yet). After that you're free to pay for it yourself if you want to try a couple more times.

 

[KatO79]

So got back from my scan and everything looks good although I might only end up with 3 follies of the right size at ER (so pretty much same situation as for IVF #1) but the RE said we'll see. I go in for one last scan on Sunday and she's 99% sure my ER will be on Tuesday

 

[swimmyj1]

Weird in Michigan it goes by age how many eggs they will inplant. Really hope this cycle is it for you guys or at the very least the other 2 freeze correctly.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Have everything crossed for you Kat....really hoping this is your cycle.

How is eveyone else?

I'm still waiting for my first AF post miscarriage. No point going back to the GP as they just tell me to wait and see!

 

[KatO79]

Weird in Michigan it goes by age how many eggs they will inplant. Really hope this cycle is it for you guys or at the very least the other 2 freeze correctly.

I think they used to do that at the hospital I go to. It used to be after certain circumstances they'd put 2 back in e.g. if the woman is 36 or over. But I guess they decided the risk for twins, that mostly end up with certain health issues and are born earlier, plus the fact that if 1 embie is of worse quality than the other one it can affect the better one's chances of implant.

I've also heard that putting 2 back in only increases your chances by around 5% anyway So in short, the hospital doesn't feel it's worth the risks you take in doing so. If that's true, then I wouldn't want 2 put back in anyway and I'm assuming they know what they're talking about.

I'm still waiting for my first AF post miscarriage. No point going back to the GP as they just tell me to wait and see!

Hope AF soon shows up for you

 

[KatO79]

So it turns out that my ER won't be until Thursday. The follies haven't grown very much but the RE said it's the Cetrotide that's inhibiting growth a bit and that there's nothing to worry about. She's sure that a couple of days more with Bemfola and Cetrotide should do it. Go in for another scan on Tuesday.

 

[wannabemummyb]

So it turns out that my ER won't be until Thursday. The follies haven't grown very much but the RE said it's the Cetrotide that's inhibiting growth a bit and that there's nothing to worry about. She's sure that a couple of days more with Bemfola and Cetrotide should do it. Go in for another scan on Tuesday.

Fingers crossed for your scan Tuesday Hun

 

[DBZ34]

Kat - Hopefully those follies will grow nice and big for you. Good luck at your next scan!

Wannab - Hope AF comes for you soon! How long have you been waiting? If it goes too long, you could always ask for something like Provera to help bring it on.



AFM- I'm currently waiting on ov. I thought it would be a little later this month just because I had AF bleeding/spotting for so long. Now that it's finally stopped, I got a pos opk and hopefully that means that I'll ov in the next couple of days. Hoping for a better outcome than this last cycle.

 

[KatO79]

I'm currently waiting on ov. I thought it would be a little later this month just because I had AF bleeding/spotting for so long. Now that it's finally stopped, I got a pos opk and hopefully that means that I'll ov in the next couple of days. Hoping for a better outcome than this last cycle.

FXed for you DBZ34

BTW everyone I've not stalked my toxic siblings' FB profiles for 18 days now

 

[swimmyj1]

KatO - can't wait to hear about your scan Tuesday! Also yay for not looking at them on fb!

Wanna - I hope things start moving along quickly.

Afm - strong heart beat of 180 measured 8 weeks 5 days so now I'm being referred back to my ob but I want to see a new ob so im looking still

 

[KatO79]

KatO - can't wait to hear about your scan Tuesday! Also yay for not looking at them on fb!

Wanna - I hope things start moving along quickly.

Afm - strong heart beat of 180 measured 8 weeks 5 days so now I'm being referred back to my ob but I want to see a new ob so im looking still

Thanks swimmy Yeah, I just don't need to see how they're doing. Although seems my highly toxic brother has now sent us, for the first time in a couple of years, a Christmas card although there is no personal message. Just a bunch of pics from their trip to Costa Rica over the holidays on the front and no message on the back Weird as we don't talk and haven't had any contact since last January. Him and the his wife didn't even comment my birthday wishes to them on their birthdays (November and December respectively) or even like the messages. I can see it's hiw handwriting on the envelope although he didn't write our names, just adressed it to our last name and then our adress. In the future any cards or letters I get from him will be given to my DH to look through.

Glad to hear everything's going well

 

[KatO79]

So obviously made the mistake of showing DH this particular card because he started saying I should write back and thank them for the card, even though it's obviously something they've sent to everyone they know and isn't personalised in the slightest I told him I refuse to have contact with them while I'm going through IVF (especially as they ignored my birthday wishes for them this year and my brother never answered my last email last year in January where I asked him to stop with the insults and put downs) and if he was so adamant about it, he should do it himself.

Typical my DH

 

[wannabemummyb]

Kat - Hopefully those follies will grow nice and big for you. Good luck at your next scan!

Wannab - Hope AF comes for you soon! How long have you been waiting? If it goes too long, you could always ask for something like Provera to help bring it on.



AFM- I'm currently waiting on ov. I thought it would be a little later this month just because I had AF bleeding/spotting for so long. Now that it's finally stopped, I got a pos opk and hopefully that means that I'll ov in the next couple of days. Hoping for a better outcome than this last cycle.

Been waiting for AF for about 12 weeks now! When I've had this before the GP just says to be patient. TMI got some serious ewcm today so thinking I might have ov'd/be about to

 

[swimmyj1]

Kat0 yeah I wouldn't respond at all you don't need that negative energy when you need to concentrate on something wayyy more important lol. So proud of you!!

Wanna- really 12 weeks!! That seems like such a long time to wait! Hopefully ur right and your ovulating soon!!

 

[KatO79]

Kat0 yeah I wouldn't respond at all you don't need that negative energy when you need to concentrate on something wayyy more important lol. So proud of you!!

Wanna- really 12 weeks!! That seems like such a long time to wait! Hopefully ur right and your ovulating soon!!

Exactly! But DH seems to feel dictated by society that you thank people for a card He doesn't get that that's what my brother is after. I think my brother might be trying to get me to respond so he can abuse me more in some way, either by ignoring me or by coming with some sort of put down(s). I've read a lot about Narcissistic Personality Disorder over the last 2 years since finding out my mother also has it so know what's going on. I'm hoping DH will procrastinate and end up forgetting about it.

I do hate the fact that I can't semi disappear from these people until I'm in a position to go no contact officially My NPD mother does have sporadic contact with my enabler cousin (strangely enough although they aren't on speaking terms at the moment but I'm sure that will change in a few months; my cousin BTW almost never speaks to me and her last contact was months ago to solely complain about how my mother was so mean to her DH a few months previously without asking me how I'm doing or if DH did get a job) so even if I don't make it public on FB where I'm moving to and any pregnancy/birth announcements, my cousin will find out from my mother and then report back to my siblings.

wanna: I agree, 12 weeks sounds very long to wait

UPDATE: Just got back and it's official: ER is on Thursday

My follies are 16 mm, 2 x 18 mm and one at 19 mm My RE is pretty sure all 4 will have mature eggs but we'll see. I trigger tonight

 

[swimmyj1]

Yay for Thursday!!!

 

[Myshelsong]

Congrats on thrusday!!! hope those follicles grow for you.

Wanna - you are the most patient person in the world. Hope you are ovulating!

AFM - hubs mom is out of the hospital and recovering at home. I am not upset about missing the iui this month as i am feeling positive and glad she is ok. it was the right decision to postpone it another month.
We are on sex week this week, hoping to catch ovulation on our own and get a miracle baby. Not getting my hopes up too much, but we are actually having fun being together again. It has been years since making love during ovulation week has been anything but torture for both of us. I am glad we are finally at a place where we can enjoy each other in the way we use to.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Congrats on thrusday!!! hope those follicles grow for you.

Wanna - you are the most patient person in the world. Hope you are ovulating!

AFM - hubs mom is out of the hospital and recovering at home. I am not upset about missing the iui this month as i am feeling positive and glad she is ok. it was the right decision to postpone it another month.
We are on sex week this week, hoping to catch ovulation on our own and get a miracle baby. Not getting my hopes up too much, but we are actually having fun being together again. It has been years since making love during ovulation week has been anything but torture for both of us. I am glad we are finally at a place where we can enjoy each other in the way we use to.

Thank you

Let's hope for your miracle Hun.

I hate the IF means we end up feeling like making love is a rarity and it's all bd! We've got that stage that we just fo it for baby making and are out of the habit of making love!

 

[KatO79]

Congrats on thrusday!!! hope those follicles grow for you.

Wanna - you are the most patient person in the world. Hope you are ovulating!

AFM - hubs mom is out of the hospital and recovering at home. I am not upset about missing the iui this month as i am feeling positive and glad she is ok. it was the right decision to postpone it another month.
We are on sex week this week, hoping to catch ovulation on our own and get a miracle baby. Not getting my hopes up too much, but we are actually having fun being together again. It has been years since making love during ovulation week has been anything but torture for both of us. I am glad we are finally at a place where we can enjoy each other in the way we use to.

FXed that it helps you get your BFP Otherwise hoping your IUI does the trick!

I think it's easy to fall into that trap and I'm sure it's not helpful for either the baby making or your relationship. Might be worth it to go NTNP and just have fun until you can start your IUI.

wanna, it might also be good for you and your DH to do the same and just NTNP for a few months and have some fun if you get my drift

 

[KatO79]

So they got 2 good eggs out, the 3rd they couldn't get out after 2-3 tries and felt that it was probably of bad quality since it didn't come out within those 2-3 tries so not worth any extra effort to get out. Was super disappointed as was hoping for at least 3 eggs like last time They'll call me Saturday morning to let me know how many fertilised and tell me what time to come in. FXed these are now extra good as I only have 2