LTTTC & depression

[mrsh2011]

Anyone else out there? TTC got so upsetting for me that I'm medicated for depression, on a fairly high dose. I was only getting to work about half the time. I seem to get in most days now, but it's still tough. So, anyone else with a similar story?

 

[nixy9]

Hi their,

just wanted to say hello and tell you that i feel exactley the same! Everyday getting up is a struggle. My doctor won't give me medication so iam self helping. Have you tried reflexology or counciling? I am currently going to reflexology and that has really helped me. Not only has it helped my mind but it has also regulated my cycles to 26days instead of between 22 -28 days!

It is a terrible experiance and i am on cycle 23 of LTTC nubmer 1! There are so many of us out there we just don't realise how many. I actually now know more people having problems than who are pregnant!

Try to keep your spirits up and maybe try and alternative to medication!

baby dust to you!xx

 

[mrsh2011]

Oh nixy . I had to change GP's to get meds but I knew I needed them. I'm sorry you are still LTTTC#1. Got any treatment on the horizon?

I wouldn't wish LTTTC on my worst enemy.

 

[nixy9]

Awwh back to you!

I have considered changing GP maybe I will. No treatment as of yet see the specilist in two weeks have a feeling they will give me clomid even though i ovulate on my own. With the scottish nhs its all delay tactics to keep waiting lists down. 3 year wait up here for ivf nhs funded, 6 weeks if your self funding! that all about!

How about you hun what stage are you at with things?

here is some baby dust for you
xx

 

[Amber3]

I have really been depressed on and of these last 4+ years. The only thing that helps me is actually going to work because there I am too busy with others so that I can't think much about my own issues.
I have just now skipped a party because I felt too depressed to go I am just feeling so sad that it is hard to socialize often. I feel hopeless and often think that my life has no meaning in a way. At least some of these things are typical for depression as far as I have learned.
I wish you all the best,
Amber

 

[readyformore]

I'm not currently on anything, but I could use it. That's for sure.

I felt the same way while ltttc #1.

It just plain sucks.

 

[Armywife84]

I'm not on meds because in the rare event that if I fall pregnant I wouldn't want to be already on them with the health risks involved. So I'm seeing a therapist. Just started so we'll see how that goes.

 

[NavyWife84]

Hi Ladies! You are not alone. I have been suffering with clinical depression since I was a young teenager. I have been on many different meds, seen therapists, the works. My doctor perscribed me Welbutrin (it is completely safe for pregnant and breastfeeding women) when I told her I was ttc, but I have been on meds for more than half my life, so I decided to get off and do the whole self help thing. For those of you doing that, please be careful! It is really hard to know when you are going to hit bottom (I used to cut myself). I am doing well now, but I did hit rock bottom for the first time since TTC (and the first time in years). I knew where it was headed, so I ran downstairs and went to my DH. He held me until I cried myself to sleep.
Some things that help me now are:
~keeping myself busy (work, cleaning house, visiting friends) Even if I feel I can't get up and go, I make myself and feel better for doing so afterward
~giving myself small tasks at a time. I often get overwhelmed when I look at the whole messy house, so I make myself do one room at a time.
~talking: to a therapist, a friend, family member...whoever it may be. Don't bottle it up inside...you will explode
~avoid things that upset you! I have currently dropped FB...too many birth announcements and people gloating about their kids. As happy as I would like to be for them, I am just too bitter
~focus on things that make you happy. For me, it is my husband, my pets (I have 6 of them), my job, my family, taking walks on the beach, etc.

I think that is it for now. Keep your chins up, Ladies...we are very strong and we will get through this!

 

[lexibbyx]

hello, i feel your pain. i just had a friend who was ttc for only 7 months and got pregnant. and another after only 2 months. i've been trying 18 months and nothing for me. My doctor wont give me anything either. He says he only does invitro and he doesnt think i should use any medicine (due to my age, im 20, he says i have loads of time.) but my husband is in the military (anything could happen to him at any time) and his father is sick so we kinda are pressed for time. It hurts me so bad every time i get a negative but in front of him i act like its no big deal. I've even gone so far as to convince him that im not trying anymore. but im jus praying that it happens for EVERYONE on here ttc. Baby Dust to all!

 

[lexibbyx]

as far as depression medicine, i dont have any. i just pray about it.

 

[Amber3]

Dear Lexibby
I would recommend that you look at a treatment called NaProTechnology/ fertilitycare:
www.fertilitycare.eu look at the film. They would certainly help you find out why you are not conceiving and help you in various ways. It is a super treatment. There is a thread about it on here and the 3 people that were first on it (with me) have all gotten pregnant.
Amber

 

[Armywife84]

Hi Ladies! You are not alone. I have been suffering with clinical depression since I was a young teenager. I have been on many different meds, seen therapists, the works. My doctor perscribed me Welbutrin (it is completely safe for pregnant and breastfeeding women) when I told her I was ttc, but I have been on meds for more than half my life, so I decided to get off and do the whole self help thing. For those of you doing that, please be careful! It is really hard to know when you are going to hit bottom (I used to cut myself). I am doing well now, but I did hit rock bottom for the first time since TTC (and the first time in years). I knew where it was headed, so I ran downstairs and went to my DH. He held me until I cried myself to sleep.
Some things that help me now are:
~keeping myself busy (work, cleaning house, visiting friends) Even if I feel I can't get up and go, I make myself and feel better for doing so afterward
~giving myself small tasks at a time. I often get overwhelmed when I look at the whole messy house, so I make myself do one room at a time.
~talking: to a therapist, a friend, family member...whoever it may be. Don't bottle it up inside...you will explode
~avoid things that upset you! I have currently dropped FB...too many birth announcements and people gloating about their kids. As happy as I would like to be for them, I am just too bitter
~focus on things that make you happy. For me, it is my husband, my pets (I have 6 of them), my job, my family, taking walks on the beach, etc.

I think that is it for now. Keep your chins up, Ladies...we are very strong and we will get through this!

I think they prescribe Wellbutrin to everyone! In which you know they only give you 6 pills at a time of the good stuff, it makes me wonder how effective Wellbutrin is because they give my husband boat loads of it!

I'm good with my therapist..she's actually worth a darn. Everyone else on base knows it too, so she's constantly booked.

 

[Armywife84]

hello, i feel your pain. i just had a friend who was ttc for only 7 months and got pregnant. and another after only 2 months. i've been trying 18 months and nothing for me. My doctor wont give me anything either. He says he only does invitro and he doesnt think i should use any medicine (due to my age, im 20, he says i have loads of time.) but my husband is in the military (anything could happen to him at any time) and his father is sick so we kinda are pressed for time. It hurts me so bad every time i get a negative but in front of him i act like its no big deal. I've even gone so far as to convince him that im not trying anymore. but im jus praying that it happens for EVERYONE on here ttc. Baby Dust to all!

:wave: Hi Lexi!

Where are you stationed at if you don't mine me asking?

 

[NavyWife84]

Hi Ladies! You are not alone. I have been suffering with clinical depression since I was a young teenager. I have been on many different meds, seen therapists, the works. My doctor perscribed me Welbutrin (it is completely safe for pregnant and breastfeeding women) when I told her I was ttc, but I have been on meds for more than half my life, so I decided to get off and do the whole self help thing. For those of you doing that, please be careful! It is really hard to know when you are going to hit bottom (I used to cut myself). I am doing well now, but I did hit rock bottom for the first time since TTC (and the first time in years). I knew where it was headed, so I ran downstairs and went to my DH. He held me until I cried myself to sleep.
Some things that help me now are:
~keeping myself busy (work, cleaning house, visiting friends) Even if I feel I can't get up and go, I make myself and feel better for doing so afterward
~giving myself small tasks at a time. I often get overwhelmed when I look at the whole messy house, so I make myself do one room at a time.
~talking: to a therapist, a friend, family member...whoever it may be. Don't bottle it up inside...you will explode
~avoid things that upset you! I have currently dropped FB...too many birth announcements and people gloating about their kids. As happy as I would like to be for them, I am just too bitter
~focus on things that make you happy. For me, it is my husband, my pets (I have 6 of them), my job, my family, taking walks on the beach, etc.

I think that is it for now. Keep your chins up, Ladies...we are very strong and we will get through this!

I think they prescribe Wellbutrin to everyone! In which you know they only give you 6 pills at a time of the good stuff, it makes me wonder how effective Wellbutrin is because they give my husband boat loads of it!

I'm good with my therapist..she's actually worth a darn. Everyone else on base knows it too, so she's constantly booked.

Yeah, I've been on lots of other stronger stuff, but wanted to be on something "baby safe". When I told my NP that I stopped taking the Welbutrin too, she kind of laughed at me and said that there was no reason not to take it b/c it is basically herbal...kind of wonder if it would have done anything for me had I stayed on it. Luckily I am coping pretty well without any meds. I really need to start seeing a therapist though...I had a good one when I was younger and have had a long run of bad ones since Part of my problem is my phone anxiety...if they don't book me another appointment while I am there, I won't call to make one. Not very helpful, lol

 

[lexibbyx]

:wave: Hi Lexi!

Where are you stationed at if you don't mine me asking?

he's army national guard, he's not active duty right now so we live at home until i finish up school then he wants to go full time n he wants to be stationed somewhere in GA

P.S.-im wanting to be either and OB/GYN of a Reproductive Endocrinologist to help women like us

 

[XwishX]

I have suffered with depression for a good while now and ltttc#1. I was on anti depressants but felt they wernt doing much for me and i had started to rely on them every time something little happened so decided to stop taking them. Some days I have good days where everything doesnt seem so bad and other days I cry all day long and feel I cant go on anymore.The bad days are bad
My docs just dont seem to understand anything about pcos, they put me on metformin then said it wouldnt do anything for me and took me back off them, I have an appoint with a specialist in dec tho so keeping my fingers crossed that they will be a bit more help. seems forever away thou.

Also my oh is a taxi driver so he works alot,alot,alot which gets me down sometimes. dont get me wrong he is wonderful but sometimes wish he had a diff job so we could spend the night time together cwtched up watching tv lol.cant have it all ey.
I moved a few months back aswel only a ten min drive away from where i was living yet my friends seem to think its too far and have totally stopped phoneing or texting me,go out with my ex and his friends and ignore my messages and then tell me its my own fault as I moved in with my oh. Then on top of that my step dad passed away suddenly and unexpectidly so trying to support my sister,I got made redundant then had to have an emergency operation and cant go anywhere or do anything for 6 weeks.

Sorry moan over.feels good to get it all out sometimes lol
I hope you all get some luck very soon,i know how frustrating it is xxx

 

[Sophe]

i am on a very low dose of meds I just couldn't cope on my own and curled up in my house..

I am ok now, i mean i go to work etc etc...

i feel pretty sad most days and think about LTTC everyday, i can't stop it, its killing me...

 

[Sophe]

I have suffered with depression for a good while now and ltttc#1. I was on anti depressants but felt they wernt doing much for me and i had started to rely on them every time something little happened so decided to stop taking them. Some days I have good days where everything doesnt seem so bad and other days I cry all day long and feel I cant go on anymore.The bad days are bad
My docs just dont seem to understand anything about pcos, they put me on metformin then said it wouldnt do anything for me and took me back off them, I have an appoint with a specialist in dec tho so keeping my fingers crossed that they will be a bit more help. seems forever away thou.

Also my oh is a taxi driver so he works alot,alot,alot which gets me down sometimes. dont get me wrong he is wonderful but sometimes wish he had a diff job so we could spend the night time together cwtched up watching tv lol.cant have it all ey.
I moved a few months back aswel only a ten min drive away from where i was living yet my friends seem to think its too far and have totally stopped phoneing or texting me,go out with my ex and his friends and ignore my messages and then tell me its my own fault as I moved in with my oh. Then on top of that my step dad passed away suddenly and unexpectidly so trying to support my sister,I got made redundant then had to have an emergency operation and cant go anywhere or do anything for 6 weeks.

Sorry moan over.feels good to get it all out sometimes lol
I hope you all get some luck very soon,i know how frustrating it is xxx

sorry everything so bad at the moment, life can be like this, everything seems to go wrong at once.

FX'd you get that BFP very soon x

 

[XwishX]

Thank you. This site is helping me,knwin ur not alone is nice and can get plenty of advice on here
Todays a good day due to oh being in a very sweet mood bless him

would never ever wish ltttc on anyone
hope you get your bfp very soon too
xxx

 

[Wallie]

I must say I've been up and down emotionally with ttc. It's over 4 years now and the last two we've tried IUI twice and two IVF's. This last month there has been 7 births between folk at work and OH's and I's best friends. I've found the thought of them giving birth and announcing the pregancies worse that what it has been. It's actually been quite a joyous occassion, for all of them. I just felt it should have been our time, not theirs, it was us who'd been trying and then our first IVF failed.

So anyway, we're waiting again for January to start IVF 3 and I'm quite relaxed about it all. It's either going to work or not and it'll change my life either way.

I recently read a book called Stop thinking, start living and I think it's helped immensely. You should all have a read of it. Basically I'm sad about TTC as that's all I think about and dream about having a baby, what it'll be like expecting and be like once the baby is born. If I don't think about it, I'm actually a very happy person. It's knowing when to switch off your thinking and when you do realising you do it.

So no medication for me and hopefully IVF3 will work and all this LTTTC malarky and being upset will be over for good. I only want the one child, I couldn't do this again anyway...