Made my decision. Leaving OH.

[littlekitten8]

Well as some of you know things havn't been great and then yesterday he slammed me into a wall. So I have made the decision that enough is enough and I am leaving. Am looking into housing and benefits etc so any help would be great!

 

[coccyx]

Think you have made the right decision. Sure it will be tough until you are settled. best wishes for you and your baby

 

[lou_w34]

Sounds like you made the right decision!

Im not too sure about Housing Benifit myself, but im sure if you have questions someone else can answer them for you! But if your looking to go on income support than you need to call the job centre number (0800 055 6688) they will take down all your details, make an appointment for you at your local job centre and it will be sorted out from there! You will probably be able to ask them about HB aswell.

xx

 

[sweetlullaby]

The housing association should house you fairly quickly especially with the violence and you have your LO to think about Go to CAB for advice and they'll be able to help with benefits etc.

Hope everything works out ok for you and your LO

 

[purpledahlia]

Definately sounds like you made the right choice, No man should be slamming people into walls let lone the mother of his child and partner. Best thing for LO is to be away from that kind of situation. Well done!

xx

 

[littlekitten8]

Thanks girls. My brother is coming to get me and James this evening. Have told the HV what is going on so she will help us sort things out with the new HV. And so I am now in the middle of packing up our clothes and documents. He has my car and mobile at the minute so I will phone him when I am about to leave and tell him I'm coming back on Saturday with my dad for both of them.

 

[lou_w34]

Good luck

x

 

[sweetlullaby]

Good Luck!! Though hun..I would get your dad to get the car and mobile phone off him tonight as well. With him being violent towards you (a person) who's to say he wont take his anger out on your possessions (your car and mobile phone) I dont mean to worry you or anything but I would get them off him ASAP. xx

 

[littlekitten8]

My dad works nights so he can't come up til the weekend. I wouldn't think he would take it out on the car cos he has no other way of getting to work. I was going to phone Orange later and get the phone cut off and a new sim sent to me at my parents house.

 

[booflebump]

 

[sweetlullaby]

Good Good hope you get all sorted out xx

 

[expecting09]

Oh hun, glad your getting out of there

The girls are right, go to your CAB and they can go through EVERYTHING with you. Are you going to stay at your parents until you are housed? Go to your local housing assosiation and tell them everything that has happened, and you should get somehwere pretty quick, then phone your local council for housing benefit/council tax benefit forms. Phone the tax credits people to them your change of cicrumstances because I'm guessing you already get child tax credits of some sort? The jobcenter will sort out your income support.. I think you can apply for it by phone, then have to go into the jobcenter to go through your application. Umm.. I think thats it. You can PM if you wanna ask about anything

Your so strong!! It will be much better for you and James to get away from all that crap xx

 

[Mumof42009]

Oh hun im sorry its come to this for you both your better off without him the directgov website is a good one for you to look at when you can. Good luck xx

 

[littlekitten8]

Thanks for the support guys. Have been on directgov website. Staying with my sister for a few days and then not really sure. Going to go down to the CAB tomorrow and try to sort something out.

 

[tinkabells]

Hiya,
Yeah you have made the right desicion, dunno abou your area, but with mine, you can go along to your local council and tell them your situation, they have to house you, will prob put you in a b&b or if you dont fancy that, you can then also go on your council website and apply online for your benefits and it will tell you what your intilted to
But good luck xxx

 

[littlekitten8]

Thanks. I am hoping that I will get housed pretty quickly cos there is quite alot of housing in the area as most people don't wanna live there cos of it not being close to the centre. But its where most of my family are so it doesn't bother me.

 

[nievesmama]

hun. I think youve definately made the right decision. I hope you and LO are ok, and good luck. Hope you get something sorted soon x

 

[littlekitten8]

Morning girls. Well we are safely at my parents house. OH was on the phone about a million times last night crying saying he was going to kill himself cos he hated himself for what he had done and couldn't live without me. Got him to phone his mum and went to bed. Then he woke me, my mum and James up at 12.45 calling cos he had just realised I had taken all of the clothes and that I wasn't ever planning on coming back. Duh I thought I had made that pretty clear. Managed to get back to sleep then and he has finally listened to me and not phoned again. He is going to phone this afternoon aparantly.

 

[lou_w34]

Im glad your both safe

I hope the phone call goes ok late!

xx

 

[tinkabells]

Hows everything going now? xxx