March 2013 babies - we all have our beautiful babies :)

[rose.]

Oh is good with Alfie but if he cries he often says 'do you want some boobie? You must be hungry!' Even if he's just been fed. As he won't take bottles I can't leave him with hubby at the moment anyway. But he does love playing with him and cuddling up. I am not sure how he would cope if Alfie had a meltdown, an explosive all up the back nappy or was sick though!! He would probably phone me in a panic asking me to come home!

 

[AmyB1978]

DH has only been alone with Emily when I went back to work 2 weeks ago. She took bottles ok but I guess she crie, a lot and she wouldn't sleep. When I am home and se gets fussy he usually gives her back to me. His idea of interacting with her is typically a glance and talk now and again while he watches tv, plays his computer game, etc. I aso do these things sometimes when holding her but she gets more of my attention then hs. He doesn't do much with her, to be honest, because he's either at work or doing schoolwork or doing house things. I know he loves her loads, it's just that her care and such is mainly on me. I go back and work again this Saturday so we will see how they do!

 

[anna1986]

my DH is in no way a modern dad he may feed William occasionly if I really need him too but apart from that he only holds him and plays with him. he was the same with my daughter too. think he worries hes going to break them!
Although since William is born he does a lot of things for my daughter he baths her dresses her n even does bedtime n sees to her during the night


William has his 12 week jabs in 40 mins dreading them he was awful last time after them

 

[rose.]

Anna hope the jabs go ok at least it's the last lot. Alfie is still irritable - he wants what he wants immediately or he starts whining which quickly turns in to full on crying!! After last night I'm worried about feeding him too much but it seems like that's all he wants right now.

 

[AmyB1978]

Anna, good luck! Hopefully William will do okay!

Rose, e,ily also is wanting to eat, what feels like constantly, right now!

 

[rose.]

It is hard isn't it!! He just seems so grumpy... Maybe injections plus a growth spurt plus wonder week at the same time?!

 

[JenJen80]

OH is great with Martha and am happy to leave them but she won't take a bottle either. I did however nip out for a run last weekend but was gone no longer than half an hour and they were fine. He is desperate to do more with her.

 

[anna1986]

rose - he still has the 16 week injections too

well took William for his injections n he cried so bad when they stuck the needle in you could see the pain in his face he has continued to scream for the last hour so 1st dose of calpol given n hes now sleeping.

 

[Kte]

Hope he feel better soon Anna

Thanks ladies I think my OH is similar, likes to do bits and pieces but when it comes to the crying especially it goes a bit pear shaped. He does try and he does love them both loads, I just can't remember what it was like with things like this with Chloe!

 

[AmyB1978]

Anna, hope our poor little guy feels better soon!

 

[MrsChezek]

Big hugs to William Anna!

rose - my DH HAS called me in a panic when I was out and it is SO frustrating!!! Cause I am about 15 min away always and it's a stressful drive back. He's not allowed to give her a bottle without consulting me first cause if I am close enough to feed, he has to hold her out as we don't want to risk my supply dropping or getting more plugged ducts!!! But if I'm still a ways out and she's really hungry, we'll decide to give her expressed milk.

I just sometimes feel like DH doesn't really try to soothe her if she gets upset on his watch. He goes through some motions like bouncing her in his arms while shushing but if that's not working (which is 90% of the time) he doesn't switch to something else, just keeps going. And if I tell him to do something else that works, he does it for 15 seconds and stops so she of course restarts crying and he just claims it doesn't work! He assumes parenting should be effortless or something and he's fine just ignoring her crying whereas it makes my boobs hurt and my psyche die a slow and painful death. So I stop whatever I'm doing and take her back - so much for getting some 'free' time!!!

Speaking of plugged ducts, I woke up with some this morning. Mild case but still stressful as we're heading to the airport in 3 hours!!!! Hopefully the next feed will clear it completely...the fun never ends!!!

 

[MrsChezek]

Carson most of he time is great for oh.. If I can't get him to settle then usually I can give him to oh and he will get him to settle. Carson is also better at shopping with oh then me... Carson is so food driven whenever I hold him and he's fussy all he wants to do is eat and tries to latch where as he knows he doesn't get that from oh

It was like that for us the first 6 weeks! I could barely hold Hayden other than to feed cause when she was on me, she'd instantly want food even if she just ate!!! It was maddening but eventually I worked her up to being ok with me and not eating for the 20 min after a feed. Any other time, we interact from more of a distance - shed in the stroller, on her bjorn bouncer, on the Boppy etc. cause if I pick her up and it's been more than 30 min, odds are she'll start to cry for milk! Which is also why she doesn't sleep well on me, cause when she wakes slightly and smells me, she wants to latch

 

[skeet9924]

Ms chez- the funny thing is that I'm not breast feeding any more and Carson still try's to latch.. Even when he's sleeping on me !! My brother got a good laugh the other day because I had Carson in my arms sleeping and his one eye popped open and he wiggled to by boob and started to suck at it over my shirt!! My brother laughed and said he's a true boy.. Trying to sneak it in whenever he can !!

 

[MrsChezek]

So cute! I love it when she's sleepy and just burrows her face in my boobs : happydance: except when I'm trying to get stuff done!

 

[rose.]

Anna, of course! stupid me, I was thinking its 4, 8, 12 weeks don't know why!! Must be lack of sleep.

Mrs c, my husband can be the same - the day of Alfie's jabs was the first time in ages he has tried to calm Alfie down without just giving up and saying he must be hungry! Hope your duct unblocks, you do seem to suffer from them a lot, must be very frustrating and sore.

Haha for babies trying to latch through clothing! Sometimes Alfie tries to do that too, and he tried to latch on to my mum once, and even one day my hubby when he had his shirt off

 

[anna1986]

Lol i remember william ryin to latch onto hubby in the early days! So funny!

Am currently say waiting for the postman to deliver my new sling. Grrrr i hate waiting n will b really disappointed if he dont have it. I did pay for next day delivery so he should have it. But i also need to return my borrowed sling before 4 so am hoping he hurrys up!

 

[rose.]

It's so annoying waiting for a parcel which takes ages to turn up! Hope it arrives soon. What sling are you getting?

 

[skeet9924]

I have a question for you ladies.. Carson is a cat napper.. Usually sleeps 30-40 min the odd time he's good for 1-1.5 hours.. Well my mil took him at the cottage every morning so I could go back to bed.. She always later him on his belly to nap and he would sleep like a champ ( when her kids were little the belly was the way they slept) I've noticed Carson prefers sleeping on my chest belly facing me. What do you ladies think of allowing them to nap on their bellies? Carson is 2 months and has fairly good head control .. When laying in his belly he can hold his head up and look from side to side. I would never let him sleep on his belly at night because I would be too nervous.

 

[kraftykoala]

I used to let my boys nap on their bellies sometimes, we have an angelcare alarm though, I'd have probably been really paranoid otherwise. Ella doesn't like being on her belly and usually ends up faceplanting in vomit so I haven't had that issue with her.

 

[Amy_T]

Hi ladies... On the belly napping issue, holly loves sleeping on her belly, I think a lot of babies do. I will put her on her tum in the day when we're in the same room and she loves it. She likes sleeping on her side too which I will do quite often with her propped up so she can't accidentally fall on to her front.

She's been really unsettled today for some reason, even the boob wouldn't settle her and that's normally a dead cert.

Had to laugh at them trying to latch... Holly does it with everyone, my auntie finds it amusing as she tried on her on the side she had a mastectomy so there isn't actually a boob there! Just instinct when they feel something against their cheek I think! X