March 2013 babies - we all have our beautiful babies :)

[baby_bray]

So, ladies, I'd love to get a few opinions, here's the story:

This last week I've been thinking about finding out the gender tons. And this Thursday I've got a midwife appt and scan. Our midwife said we should be able to tell the gender at this appt. I have so much respect for the ladies who are able to go team yellow! I never thought I'd be able to hold out but I feel like I'm getting a new sense of courage...

I've always hoped to have a hospital birth with the least amount of medical intervention that I can handle. I'm a pretty flexible and accepting, and I'd like to make it as far as I can. I don't look as an epidural as failure, but I'm not lining up to reserve one unless I feel like I can't handle things.

I liked thinking of using finding out the gender to be my motivation/inspiration to get through labor and meet my little one!
I'm totally okay with my hubby and family knowing the gender before me. I know it's a little strange. But I trust them 100%, they're fine with the idea, and I trust they won't let it slip. It's everyone else I'm more worried about, I'm not saying they can't tell other people, but I don't want it to get down the road to distant family or something and they don't realize I don't want to find out and they send a big "Congrats on the boy/girl" card or something.
Do you guys think my hopes are too high...? Am I just setting myself up to be let down by someone's slip?
Any suggestions or similar experiences? How many ladies are staying team yellow?

I really love to be able to say I waited until baby was placed on my chest. My goal right now is to "see how I manage not knowing" up until the 20wk U/S and if I'm doing well, then wait till delivery! My hubby and family know that they aren't allowed to tell me. If I want to break I told them I have to find out at my 20wk scan since they aren't allowed to tell me.

 

[JLilli]

baby bray: I think that's a really sweet idea but I think it will be too difficult for them to keep it a secret not because they would tell you on purpose but it's just so easy to accidentally say he/she and then it's all over. Plus if you see something someone purchased for the baby by accident that could give it away. I'd recommend not letting anyone know if you want to stay team yellow then stay all the way and if you decide to give in at 20 weeks then you still get the fun and excitement of telling everyone what you're having. I also think it'd be a little less exciting since everyone would already know what you're having except you, I think I'd feel left out if everyone knew but me.

Good luck and I hope they can keep the secret if you decide to go that route

 

[Mrs. AJ]

I agree with JLilli, I don't think anyone would tell on purpose, but once you know the gender it is hard not to say 'he' or 'she' when talking about the baby, so it is likely someone would let is slip on accident. Any chance you can convince DH to stay team yellow with you?

 

[baby_maybe]

Congrats on team jlilli

Baby bray - we have decided to stay team mainly because it's our last child and it will be nice to have the surprise, but also because we want other people to have the surprise too. DH originally wanted to find out but I think I've convinced him not to now My 20 week scan is in two weeks time and I can't wait to see peanut again

 

[baby_bray]

DH is dead set on knowing, lol. If it *really* bothered me I know he'd stay yellow with me, but I honestly don't feel like I'd be left out or jealous that he would know.
Everyone refers to baby as "Baby Bray" anyway, so it would be an easy crutch to lean on so it's never "he" or "she".
Gifts shouldn't be much of an issue since I'm not really a pink person (sorry!! to those pink lovers), we've told family a million times already to keep things neutral anyway and we could ask immediate family to leave clothes in the box and write "3 onesies 0-3mons" on the box if they were gender revealing, lol. I'm lucky, my husband's family is maybe 45mins away, so they can hoard all the gender stuff if they want at their house and bring it over after Baby Bray is born, and my parents are coming down after the birth so they could always bring gender related items with them when they fly down.
I think we'll end up having to restrict it purely to immediate family if that's the road we go down to minimize the chances of slip-ups! LOL

 

[sharnw]

Omg baby brain lol,
Saturday night, OH and I were driving around in the city and we both were majorly hungry and I was busting to go to the toilet...
We decided to get Hungry jacks.. He parked in the bay and he told be to go in and go to the toilet and come out an we'l order in the drive through lol.
Anyway, I went to the toilet and order my burger an coke afterwards. I walk out sipping my drink and OH goes "I thought you were just going to the toilet and come strait out, and we were going to order at the drive through"
I said "SORRY ITS BABY BRAIN" haha he just laughed and said "omg"
LOL

 

[starzz]

Congrats JLilli!

 

[anna1986]

congrats jLiili

i weighed myself this morning and was very impressed to see i havent gained any weight yet YAY with my daughter i gained 3 stone and am hoping not to this time around. Although i have just eaten half a pack of chocolate digestives dunked in tea! ooopppsss

Got midwife appt this afternoon. hoping that goes well.
hope you ladies are having a good day? im off 4 a nap whilst my toddlers napping!

 

[Kte]

jLiili Congrats on

Baby_bray: You never know, baby may be on your side and hide so no one can find out, that's how I was team last time! I think it will be hard for others not to let it slip out words wise, my OH and I toyed with the idea but we knew it would eventually come out even bu accident and that's not how you want the news to come out. I don't know, if thats what you decide I really hope they don't slip up. We are staying this time around as well, as hard as it is! Good luck

 

[baby_bray]

The only thing I've bought so far has been a small collection of cloth diapers (just a little newborn sampler pack to try it out), 2 really cool pacifiers (one that pops shut so it doesn't "touch" the ground and a razberry teether for later on)
And my favorite, one teeny tiny onesie. Plain white with a little Earth on it that says "Hi, I'm new here"

 

[Mrs. AJ]

Anna, I'm the same, no weight gain yet, though I lost a few pounds in first tri and I've gained some of that back. I gained 38 pounds with my first, and I'd love to NOT do that again!

 

[skeet9924]

are you ladies planning on using a pregnancy pillow or just regular body pillow??

 

[Lou1234]

Hi all.

Skeet I picked up a body pillow as it was on sale. It was £10 instead of £20 so thought I'd grab it while it was on offer. Haven't used it yet though so can't tell you what it is like.

As for weight gain - I lost something like 60lb last year to reach my goal weight. I went under my goal weight and then settled at just above it before my BFP. My problem has been that for the last 1.5 years I've been very, very active. I'd train at least 5 times a week with running, boot camp and circuits and I stopped it all when I got pregnant. Add the fact that through first tri I could only really eat plain carbs (snacking on bagels and crisps etc) the weight piled on. I've put on over 20lb so far.

Now I've got more energy tonight is my first visit back in the gym. Only going to walk on the treadmill but better than nothing! My eating is getting back on track as well. I cannot carry on putting on weight the way I have been.

 

[Kellycool]

Helloooooo lovely ladies. Sorry I am so awol, crazy few days as oen of my best friends had ehr first baby this weekend ))
Congrats to all the ladies who found out their baby genders, how exciting.
I'm def staying team yellow as we have done for both boys so it's what I am used to. I really do feel it's a pinky though.. Hormones are raging, hunger has kicked in so everything going acc to plan me thinks hehe
Hope you are all ok, my bump is big but not as big as with my second son wow that thing was huge. How do u post pics on here off a phone?
xx

 

[baby_bray]

I'm the same as anna1986 & MrsAJ, I lost in the first tri and now it seems to be coming back slowly. I just got back to my "pre-pregnancy" weight.
I wasn't all that "sick" in the first tri, I really only threw up twice. It was mostly no appetite/nothing seemed appealing, tiredness and heartburn that were holding me back.
Wow Lou1234, congrats on the recent weight loss success! I sort of went cold turkey on any real activities in the first tri too and I sort of ate whatever since I was just happy to eat. Things have definitely gotten better, DH and I are taking evening walks with the dog, usually anywhere from a 1-2 miles. Our workcenter does fun little group planking/pushup/wallsits a few times a day for a minute or two, and I've started joining back in (modified! of course or I'll do other little exercises during the time)

 

[Mrs. AJ]

Yeah, just like you ladies I had no energy in first tri (and was very sick!) so stopped working out basically cold turkey. Now that I've got some energy back and feel better I've starting walking daily too, which feels great.

Baby_bray, I also meant to say - so it looks like you plan to cloth diaper then?? I wasn't brave enough to do it myself, but I have several friends who do, and they all love it....I mean really really LOVE it.

 

[skeet9924]

Lou- I was like you.. Super active until I got my Bfp.. Surprisingly though I've only gained 4lbs so far.. I'm sure that will change soon. I also could only eat carbs and potatoes first tri

 

[baby_bray]

Yeah, just like you ladies I had no energy in first tri (and was very sick!) so stopped working out basically cold turkey. Now that I've got some energy back and feel better I've starting walking daily too, which feels great.

Baby_bray, I also meant to say - so it looks like you plan to cloth diaper then?? I wasn't brave enough to do it myself, but I have several friends who do, and they all love it....I mean really really LOVE it.

I bought a little newborn sampler kit and I'd love to try....but I'm certainly not committed yet to cloth diapering. I have a neighbor across the street who just had baby #2 recently and she loves it, so she's sort of my point of contact lol. But she doesn't 'exclusively' cloth diaper by any means.

 

[skeet9924]

A lot of my friends use cloth .. My one friend will buy some diapers for when she plans on being out but for the most part uses cloth.. I don't think ill be brave enough for it

 

[Lou1234]

Well I made it to the gym and walked on the treadmill. My gym run challenges and the cardio machine this quarter is the treadmill. You just do a least a mile at a time and for each marathon you do you get team points. Gives me the extra incentive to go to the gym!

I did 2 miles today to test out my back (it has been aching when I walk) and it went ok. Interesting to find out I now have to walk a lot slower than before!