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Oh babee! I love the spotted one but I could see how a guy wouldn't want to push it. Hmmm... What to do?!
Arm, I'm so upset. my parents live 7 hours away. DH gets 1 week paternity leave, so my moms plan was to come when he went back to work and stay about 8 days to help me out. We've talked about it for months. Now, all of a sudden, my mom, dad and brother demand to be called once labor starts, stay both hospital days and the day we bring Dylan home. I said it's too much. I don't want any visitors the day of, but if they want to come the day after for a visit, that is fine. But not the day we bring her home. That's a special day for the three of us. now they are so ad they say they aren't coming at all, they are canceling our baby shower, and they want their Christmas gifts back. Wtf?! Aren't I supposed go be the emotional one right now? Am I being a jerk? They said I'm a selfish person to keep them from their granddaughter, but I said, what does it matter if it's the day after? she'll be one day old. They say it ruins everything. Ughhh... I'm just at a loss...
 
I looove the spotty one Babee. Lee can just get used to it. Lol.

Our pram is super girly but DH doesn't care. He is pushing a girl in it after all. If we were having a boy if happily push a boy looking buggy.

We've gone a bit mad shopping today. Sooo many good deals on and we got money for Xmas and I won £100 on the premium bonds and we had £150 John Lewis vouchers left to spend so I just bought:

-Cot (down from £130 to £40 on kiddicare)
-Mattress
-Mattress protectors and sheets
-Bibs
-Medela Swing Breast Pump
-Spare bottles and parts for pump.
-Angelcare baby monitor
-Mummy Buggy Clip
Swaddle wrap thing
-2x totsbots nappies (in the sale would've been rude not to)
 
he doesnt like the spotty one, because its like creamy/beigey inside rather than the white inside on the black/grey check one.

I honestly feel like selling them both and be done with it!, He seems to think he has a say so in everything, and not put a single penny towards it!

Im struggling to be able to afford anything for Layla to be honest!, like really struggling... His motto is, "your wasting your money buying stuff for a baby that isnt even here yet".. Yeh because buying everything once shes born is a great idea!...

I feel fed up and just generally down in the dumps today, i dont feel well, didnt get much sleep lastnight and just pissed off with his whole attitude!
 
Urgh Sass - you're not being a jerk at all!!!

I don't want any visitors in the hospital or any on the day we come home. They're special times to bond with our babies.

I don't understand why some people can't understand that. The babies are new to us too.

I hope it gets sorted. Stand your ground and maybe explain to them how you want to get to know the baby and settle into breastfeeding etc.

Xxxxxx
 
Sass827 said:
Oh babee! I love the spotted one but I could see how a guy wouldn't want to push it. Hmmm... What to do?!
Arm, I'm so upset. my parents live 7 hours away. DH gets 1 week paternity leave, so my moms plan was to come when he went back to work and stay about 8 days to help me out. We've talked about it for months. Now, all of a sudden, my mom, dad and brother demand to be called once labor starts, stay both hospital days and the day we bring Dylan home. I said it's too much. I don't want any visitors the day of, but if they want to come the day after for a visit, that is fine. But not the day we bring her home. That's a special day for the three of us. now they are so ad they say they aren't coming at all, they are canceling our baby shower, and they want their Christmas gifts back. Wtf?! Aren't I supposed go be the emotional one right now? Am I being a jerk? They said I'm a selfish person to keep them from their granddaughter, but I said, what does it matter if it's the day after? she'll be one day old. They say it ruins everything. Ughhh... I'm just at a loss...
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CupcakeBaby said:
Urgh Sass - you're not being a jerk at all!!!

I don't want any visitors in the hospital or any on the day we come home. They're special times to bond with our babies.

I don't understand why some people can't understand that. The babies are new to us too.

I hope it gets sorted. Stand your ground and maybe explain to them how you want to get to know the baby and settle into breastfeeding etc.

Xxxxxx
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My mum has this massive jealousy thing going on because we live next door to my in-laws so she assumes we just hang out all the time, which couldn't be further from the truth, she wants to come immediately the baby is born also, my OH gets 3 weeks off when the baby is born, and I want him to bond as much as possible in that time, and I really don't want it to be taken away from him by them visiting and wanting to hold the baby constantly. My mum is doing her high and mighty routine at the moment when people ask her if she coming to visit as soon as he's born, she says, we'll wait till we're told, and she keeps telling me that, but at the same time trying to make me feel guilty about it, i've told them to come for a couple of days when he's born, and then come again for a little longer once OH goes back to work as that's when i'll be on my own and may appreciate their help a little more, and plus I will have gotten to know my baby a bit by then too. So no I don't think you are unreasonable, I can't believe these people think they have the right to act like this, they're our baby's. I'm thinking of staying in hospital for an extra night just so that we don't have to deal with the in-laws coming over immediately, I won't be allowing hospital visits. I sound like a b***h, but what I say goes with my child! :blush:
 
Oh Sass thats awful they are being so out of order! It's not unreasonable to ask them to come down later. No newborn wants to be passed from person to person in their early days they just want and need their mum and dad. I think give them time to calm down but in mean time maybe text or quick call to say u are sorry they are upset and thats not at all what you intended but you guys just feel you would like a day or so to yourselves before they come to settle into being a Mummy and Daddy. You can promise to send them photos right away from your camera phone and keep them updated and say of course you are excited about them meeting her. If I was in hospital for a few days then I would be happy to have quick visits from family but i wouldn't want them all descending at once straight away when we got home xxxx
 
Babee I like the spotty one and think you should stand your ground unless he is going to help you pay for things xxx

Thanks ladies for reassuring me about the gender. I'm just getting paranoid as i've read a few stories lately about girls turning into boys evep
n with pretty convincing potty shots. I keep searching to see if i can find a potty shot like mine but they all look different to me so I can't put my mind at ease. I will post mine later again for you and see what you think xxx
 
Sass: your family is throwing a hissy fit. Seriously, teenagers have better manners. Who demands Christmas presents BACK? That is ridiculous.

You have every right to want and need privacy in those first few days. It's a BIG adjustment and having more people around doesn't help at all. You both need time to figure out your routine and what you are comfortable with without other people around messing it all up. Furthermore, you'll be exhausted. Labor is just tiring. And people don't help by being there, they just cause stress and tire you out more because you have to make an effort to chat and keep THEM entertained (which is just asinine, really). They don't need to be called immediately when you go into labor, what good would it be to have them there? If anyone is being selfish it's them.

Don't let their hissy fit phase you. You are not obligated to return gifts simply because they are suddenly affronted that you want to stick with your original plan that your DH stays with you the first 8 days of paternity leave then your mom comes (and others).

There's really no way to get back to your original plan since you already offered for them to come the day after. But next time it comes up, tell them you're sorry there was a misunderstanding but that you thought the plan was for your mom to come after DH was off of paternity leave. Tell them you are sorry they feel left out, that wasn't your intention. But you and DH would like time to yourselves after the baby is born so you ALL can rest and establish a good BF routine. You would be happy for them to visit the hospital Day Two to see the baby. Explain that you're not trying to keep them from the baby or be selfish but it really is best for you and the baby if they wait a day to visit and you hope that they want what is best for the baby too. It's really best if you script this, write it down so you're not flustered when you're telling them. Maybe even e-mail it so they can't interrupt you.

There's nothing they can do about this except demand presents and threaten to cancel your baby shower. And really, if they do, you can just have a friend host instead. In the end all of their posturing just means that THEY are missing out. Don't back down, especially if you're uncomfortable with their plans. There is nothing worse than having a bunch of people around with a newborn that you don't want there. As if post-partum isn't uncomfortable enough, they want to stick around while you're leaky and tired the baby is jaundiced and puffy from labor? Come on, it's like your mom doesn't REMEMBER labor. Sheesh.

Sorry, that's an epic novel of a post. It must have struck a nerve!
 
Thanks! I was a little embarrassed by how much I'd written, didn't know I was so opinionated about it, LOL. :blush:
 
The day you bring your baby home is an important bonding day for you and your little family not you and everyone its not there baby its yours thats rediculous for them to ask that of you.
 
afternoon girls i hope everyone had good christmas x
i had my 20 week scan christmas eve and were are in team blue :)
 
Sunday is my "weigh" day since it's when I change weeks. This week I gained 4.4 lbs putting me at a gain of 12.4 lbs in 22 weeks. Is this okay? I feel like that's too much to gain 4lbs in 1 week. I eat about 2,000 calories a day (of good foods, don't snack on junk) and work out couple times a week. Pre-pregnancy I was about 115 lbs with a bmi of 18.6. I know I am probably worrying for nothing...
 
congrats on team blue :D

ttcbean, I don't weigh myself, only when I visit the midwife and I had only put on 1.5kg by 20 weeks(about 3.3lbs), so I was happy with that, but we all grow at different rates, I was much bigger than you pre pregnancy, so maybe that has something to do with it :shrug: I wouldn't worry, any weight gain is all for a good cause in the end :D
 
I don't weigh myself either needless worry I let the dr do it once a month when i see her haha
 
Maybe this will help you feel better:
https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bjH-I0xPK2w/T1TIbPNfe3I/AAAAAAAANWM/Qu9FBd6zTYI/s1600/The-Skinny-On-Pregnancy_w500.jpg
 
love that, mighty mom!!! thank you!!! i've gained 14 pounds already, and i feel like a whale. however, i know that 14 pounds is pretty good at 22 weeks AND i was pregnant through the holidays!!!! i have a gym membership through my work, and after new year's, i am going to start walking on the treadmill and going back to doing some weight training. (light weights, of course)
i totally let myself eat whatever i want during the holidays - something i've never done before. so if i gained a few extra pounds, i'm not worried :)
 
Thanks for that Mightymom! Makes us all feel a bit more normal ;-)
 
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