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[TTCBean]

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[Hann12]

Unfortunately you'll come across a lot of judging in the world of children - it gets worse and worse as they get older too - the joys of society!!

 

[CupcakeBaby]

i know there's no judgement with us girls, but in the "real world" here, i feel like i'm constantly being judged over how i raise my kid, and he's not even here yet!!! crazy.

i got a huge box of pampers swaddlers sensitive. makes me feel like it's going to happen soon...buying diapers! eek.

The judgement drives me mad.

I either feel like I'm being judged for doing what I'm planning on doing (MIL thinks baby led weaning sounds horrible and dangerous and our baby is going to choke)

Or people take huge offence and think that becasue I say I'm planning on BFing and CDing that I'm somehow accusing them of being bad parents for not doing that!

I really have no problems with what anyone does as long as they are loving their baby - but I just think it's the most sensitive issue on the planet, and something people are always second guessing themselves on, so it's easy to offend/be offended, even if you're not trying to at all.

 

[jtink28]

ttc, i don't have much advice for you. since i'm a high-risk patient with sensitive medical needs, i can't advise you on home birthing or skipping tests. i do all the tests and could never give birth at home due to my health and medications.

i will say that you need to come clean with your OB midwife immediately. she's invested time in you and your baby, and even though you're not technically lying to her, keeping things from her might hurt her. just give her a call and be honest. she may be more understanding than you know. if you wait until the last minute, she may be angry and not want to even see you as a patient after the birth. honesty is always the best policy

good luck!

 

[jtink28]

i agree cupcake! my mom CD'ed me, and while i would love to cloth diaper, it just isn't feasible. i don't judge anyone at all. i learned that when i was diagnosed with crohn's - there are so many things out of our control. we just do the best we can.

 

[CupcakeBaby]

TTC - can you just say to your midwife that you've been thinking about it and you really want a homebirth, and have a friend who is a homebirth midwife etc. etc.

You're not lying, but also you're not saying you've known all along about homebirth etc.

 

[Sass827]

I know nothing about sterilizing bottles. I havent even researched bottles themseves. Sometimes i feel so far behind! I do have one thing i can contribute- a bunch of my clients hsve told me about some kind of sterilizing cage for bottles for the dishwasher? They all apparently really like it.
On the midwife issue, if youre sure you want to do a home borth, just own it. Tell her its what you want and see what she says. She might still advise the test. Dh''s bosses wife told me she failed it, so i know its not unheard of. Worst case, shell be mad bjt at least youll know where youre at.

 

[julesjules100]

TTC, not much to add on the midwife point but would say that I tested positive for group B strep when I was c 8 weeks pregnant. If I was having a vaginal birth they would give me antibiotics as a matter of course (and will do if the membranes rupture before the c section). The test takes 1 min and is just a swab (far less uncomfortable and intrusive than say a smear test) so not really a full-on internal. Personally I would say to get the test done - the transmission rates even if you test positive are low but my view is its better to make a decision as to how to proceed with full information rather than without. To put the risk in context 360 babies per year in the UK develop early onset group b strep symptoms versus c 300 that developed whooping cough (the latter of which many of us are opting to get vaccinated for in line with UK and US guidelines) x

 

[julesjules100]

I know nothing about sterilizing bottles. I havent even researched bottles themseves. Sometimes i feel so far behind! I do have one thing i can contribute- a bunch of my clients hsve told me about some kind of sterilizing cage for bottles for the dishwasher? They all apparently really like it.
On the midwife issue, if youre sure you want to do a home borth, just own it. Tell her its what you want and see what she says. She might still advise the test. Dh''s bosses wife told me she failed it, so i know its not unheard of. Worst case, shell be mad bjt at least youll know where youre at.

Yeah, it was this puppy I was reading overnight which is what made me wonder about the amount of US moms who did indeed sterilise religiously! https://www.babycenter.com/400_how-...feeding-bottles-is-washing-with_860227_108.bc

Hann, funny about the pram wheel - I was talking to someone a couple of weeks ago who found their baby chewing on one of the dog's toys!

x

 

[Hann12]

TTC - ditto what Jules said - the strep b test isn't really an internal, they have a long stick with a bit of wool on the end that they put into you just a few inches, wipe it around and pull it out. Its not invasive and everything is sterile so there is minimal risk of infection. Personally I am doing the test, I am doing it myself from home and sending it to the lab. They can also do it rectally if you didn't want the vaginal one done.
I would tell the midwife that you have been thinking and decided to do the home birth, you don't have to go into detail about how long you've been speaking to the other midwife for.
Thats what I'd do anyway

Jules - the dog toy sounds grim but then the pram wheel is also disgusting too. These children lol!

 

[julesjules100]

Yeah really Hann! Kids put everything in their mouths, it really is quite grim when they get to that age - amazing they don't come down with more things than they do on that basis! x

 

[Hann12]

I wouldn't mind but when she was at the stage of grim stuff going in her mouth she got nothing and now she just has to be within half a mile of someone with a cold and shes got it lol!

 

[jtink28]

ditto on the strep b - my best friend tested positive for strep b with this last pregnancy. she said it wasn't invasive at all. just like a long q-tip an inch or so in. i know another girl who also tested positive for strep b early on like jules, so it's not unheard of.

 

[julesjules100]

Indeed. Roughly a quarter of all women carry it in their vagina and don't know it. It's relatively common and most times is there without issue (i had a moderate-high culture at 8 weeks and it was making me spot bleed for about a week which was worrying at the time) x

 

[jtink28]

in other horrifying news, my mom told me today that my brother was born sucking his fingers, and came out that way. how painful for her! eeek. i hope my little one isn't born sucking his fingers/hands!!! yikes.

 

[TTCBean]

Thank you so much for understanding and giving me some great advice!! It really helps to get others perspective on it. I am thinking at this point I'll go into my appointment, have the Strep B done (for peace of mind), and mention that I've been looking into home birth since everything has gone so well in my pregnancy. I don't want to hurt her by keeping it from her until afterwards, shes a great midwife and has been so understanding and helpful. I wouldn't want to ruin the relationship for further medical needs and future babies. I really appreciate it girls!

 

[Hann12]

Sounds like a good approach TTC

 

[Sass827]

Babies put the worst things in their mouths! When my little brother started crawling, our dog got colitis at the same time. When my mom turned her back, the dog pooped, my brother ate it, then choked on it. My mom had to call poison control and make him throw up.

 

[julesjules100]

Babies put the worst things in their mouths! When my little brother started crawling, our dog got colitis at the same time. When my mom turned her back, the dog pooped, my brother ate it, then choked on it. My mom had to call poison control and make him throw up.

Sass, that just made me gag! I'd have freaked! x

 

[kezziek]

Oh yuck sass that must have been so horrible for your Mum!

Ttcbean that sounds like a the best thing to do with your midwife. I'm sure she will be understanding about you wanting a homebirth, most midwives i've met over here are very pro-homebirthing if it's right for the Mum and baby. At the end of the day though if she's not supportive of your decisions now then you might not want her involved in your future care anyhow so I'm sure she will be nice. Let us know how you get on xxx

Ugh i've been up all night with acid reflux so feeling sorry for myself. It's my own stupid fault though as I went for a curry to say goodbye to work colleagues and I overindulged . I had taken an antacid before i left but it didn't work and I still don't feel like my food has gone down 8 hrs later. I would take another antacid but i also need to take my iron tablet as soon as my stomach feels empty and way before breakfast to have a hope of absorbing the darn thing. Appparently antacids intefere with the absorbsion of iron as well as caffiene, milk etc. My midwife wants me to take the iron early morning as opposed to late at night as she thinks you are less likely to get constipated that way as you can work on your fluid intake throughout the day as opposed to being dry all night. I just hate the darn things but really need to get them in me as so short of breath at the moment. I took my first dose yesterday morning and then felt sick for 12hrs after, but I remember last time it was about two weeks of taking them and then I got used to all the side effects and it settled down. Has anyone else been prescribed iron yet?

Hoping nesting will kick in for me today as I actually do not need to leave the house (rarely happens) so i'm going to try (amongst looking after two very small boys) to get things done and clean. I'm not holding out much hope though as I've had no sleep so I will probrably end up a zombie on the sofa with piles of washing around me by lunchtime lol!