Me and bf had a fight? How to keep the stress away?

[Char93]

Me and my boyfriend had a fight the day. We've only been together 4 months and I'm 15 weeks. It did happen very quick, but we decided to do it together.
I have him the option to walk many times and he stayed
However he lives a 40 minute drive away so it's hard to see each other, well not really, but he makes it hard. He drives I don't and still he never comes round.

I see him once every 2 weeks, or once a week if I'm lucky
He works night shifts 4-5 days a week. around (6-7) hours and then sleep all day and I mean all day. from 7am to 8pm. He doesn't see the problem? I know he has taken on extra shifts for the baby, but he isn't saving and I haven't seen a single penny that would indicate this.
Even on his days off he sleeps all day!

He told me my reply to his text was a Convo killer because I said " ok "
I replied " You get up, I go to sleep. That's a killer.

He replied. " I work nights and sleep during day, if you don't like it don't put up with it ". I found this so rude as if I mean nothing?

I understand he works nights, but he never makes time for me. Not even an hour. He drives past mine to go to work and could at least pop in for a coffee or to actually see how I'm doing and a cuddle once in awhile how hard is that? When I ask him to before work he says " got to have a bath and dinner so I won't have time "

He said he is excited and has attended all appointments, but he puts sleep and gaming before me and it makes me feel useless.

I just told him " it's fine, I'm gone " and I haven't anything from him in 2 days.
Am I being unreasonable? Sure I'm feeling really upset because this is not how I wanted it, but the all the stress I've had so far has gone. Sorry if this I'd long.

 

[teenmommy15]

Well yeah he may be sleep all day and work all night but on his off days he should visit you and if hes gone to all the appointments maybe you should cut him a little slack i know its difficult not seeing you OH but maybe you should talk to him more about where the money hes making is going and if hes preparing for this baby? make sure you let him know that after you LO is born he should take some time off work and sleepover or visit consider all your options and take it from his point of view as well and tell him to take it from your point of view. if you guys arent seeing eye to eye you guys need to sit down and have an adult conversation about it tell him you need to talk to him face to face. and see where things go from their but weather hes their for you or isnt, your LO is the most important right now and you cant stress thats bad for your baby it may be hard but to keep these stress levels down but just think of your LO and it will make it easier.