men who had circumcision in adult life.

[pixeldust]

You got to learn to control yourself in bed, and thats what having stigma to last longer comes from. As for cleaness, my husband has a shower once a day, and unless he came home covered in oil from his job, i have no issues going down on him, he doesnt smell. Ive seen cut guys that stink worse. It all comes down to the guy, and what the parents think is right. thats all, and thats the only opinion that matters, what they PARENTS think is right, not anyone elses.

Agree completely. My DH can come in 2 minutes, or can last 2 hours as he has brilliant self control, and he is intact. No issues with cleanliness as he showers every day and washes himself properly.

 

[Remlap]

My husband was circumcised as an adult and has no regrets.

 

[future_numan]

I would be interested in knowing the % of men have a problem later in life, who aren't circumcized.
Both DH and I are on the fence about getting our son " done".
We even talked to our DR about it and he didn't say there was anything wrong either way but he did mention that he did not have his son " done" and his son had a problem when he was 13 yrs old and had to get circumcised. Which he found painful.
Everyone we have talked to has known someone who went through the same ordeal.
I am afraid to make the decision not to have my son " done" then he runs into trouble later in life.

 

[rwhite]

I would be interested in knowing the % of men have a problem later in life, who aren't circumcized.
Both DH and I are on the fence about getting our son " done".
We even talked to our DR about it and he didn't say there was anything wrong either way but he did mention that he did not have his son " done" and his son had a problem when he was 13 yrs old and had to get circumcised. Which he found painful.
Everyone we have talked to has known someone who went through the same ordeal.
I am afraid to make the decision not to have my son " done" then he runs into trouble later in life.

I have a theory that quite often the reason boys need their penises circumcised later in life is due to lack of education about the right way to clean an intact penis (i.e. clean it like a finger, don't retract the foreskin). I think quite often it's when the foreskin has been retracted that problems arise - retracting it before its ready (anywhere between age 4 and puberty) can create a lot of issues:

Forcing the foreskin back before the natural separation of the foreskin from the glans has occurred causes tearing of the connective tissue. This is painful and can lead to problems:
tearing the foreskin from the head of the penis leaves an open wound which can lead to infection
the raw surfaces touching each other can heal together and form adhesions (areas that stick together) between the foreskin and the head of the penis leading to permanent problems with retraction (pulling back)
small tears in the opening of the foreskin can heal to form non-elastic (non-stretchable) scar tissue, possibly causing acquired narrowing (phimosis)
the foreskin can get "stuck" behind the head of the penis (paraphimosis)

I have heard that it is really quite uncommon for a man to ever have a problem with his foreskin that requires circumcision. If phimosis occurs naturally, there is a steroid cream that can be prescribed that can thin the skin to help it retract back over the head of the penis. Hope this helps

 

[PoodleMommy]

I'm a super "natural"-leaning person in almost every way (we eat organic/sustainable food, we will cloth-diaper, do extended breast feeding, etc. etc. etc.), but circumcision is the one area where I'm still with what's considered to be the norm (at least in the U.S.).

My DH is circumcised and can't imagine it any other way; his father was not, and the few times he caught a glimpse of it, DH was traumatized and disgusted by how it looked. There is no way I could convince my DH not to circ our son.

And to be honest, I'm relieved that he feels this way... I know there's a good deal of anti-circ sentiment, especially on these boards, but I have to say I agree with my hubby and unless there is a life-or-death reason not to do it, we will have our baby circumcised. Sorry!

 

[j3ss]

My husband grew up in Tanzania and was circumcised at age 16 as a coming into age type of thing. It was excruciating and not something he would have chosen to do. Interestingly, if we were having a boy, he would choose circumcision - I would not. He thinks that it hurts less and recovery is less painful for a baby. That's probably true, but I don't think that justifies causing your baby pain for a mostly cosmetic reason.

I don't envy you and your husband having to work this out!