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My step daughter (who we have full time), has LOTS of space in our house. She has lots of drawers in your room, plus she has another room with a dresser in the closet to store more of her "stuff"... here is my thing, I'm a very organized and clean person (always have been- even as a child)- BUT she, of course, is NOT! lol. I get that's its normal to be messy as a kid- I was not the "norm"-- however, I was really frustrated to find her stuff just crammed into drawers with no regard. I found all her CDs piled on each other in a big clump in a drawer- several scratched or cases broken... papers squished into shelves, tons of the same thing (for example: lip gloss and chap stick) ALL over her room hidden in drawers and nooks- even though she just told us she had NONE?! I literally found about 30... most not even used.
We had a long talk with her last night about the value of the stuff she seems to have no regards for... how she needs to take better care of her stuff and be more organized... etc... etc...
But it feels like I'm talking to a brick wall when it comes to this type of thing- being responsible or organized. We've had this talk with her time and time again... because she loses things, or "forgets" and whenever it happens I would think she would learn a lesson, but then it just happens again?????
She is a great kid- very smart (all A's in school), very sweet and loving, very social and outgoing... she has a lot of great qualities- but this flaky behavior is just on my last nerve lately. She's always been this way since I came into the picture (when she was just 9)... and I get it, I do. She's a teenager, and she has boys and school and yadda yadda on the mind and cleaning her room or taking good care of her stuff is not at the top of her priority list.
Any suggestions? I don't know what else to say or do to get through. I finally just told her that the next time I find her room is such disarray... I would just take all her stuff out and she would have to earn it back!!!! lol.
On top of all this- she get's WAY too much stuff from her nanny (hubbies mom) and her great aunt (her nanny's sister).... they shop way too much and have taught her to want things- but not value or appreciate the things she already has. Which is just another frustration level for me. My hubby has tried over the years (back when it was just him and his kid) to get them to understand and not go sooooo overboard, but it was like talking to a brick wall with them also. They wouldn't stop- and often he would just let it be to avoid conflict. As they tend to be opinionated - whether solicited or not.
There is much more to it... and more than I can explain in a single post- LOL- but overall we are doing good. But we have our own stresses right now- and all these layers are building up and the last thing I want to do is explode on the kid... so any suggestions would be MUCH appreciated.
Thanks
We had a long talk with her last night about the value of the stuff she seems to have no regards for... how she needs to take better care of her stuff and be more organized... etc... etc...
But it feels like I'm talking to a brick wall when it comes to this type of thing- being responsible or organized. We've had this talk with her time and time again... because she loses things, or "forgets" and whenever it happens I would think she would learn a lesson, but then it just happens again?????
She is a great kid- very smart (all A's in school), very sweet and loving, very social and outgoing... she has a lot of great qualities- but this flaky behavior is just on my last nerve lately. She's always been this way since I came into the picture (when she was just 9)... and I get it, I do. She's a teenager, and she has boys and school and yadda yadda on the mind and cleaning her room or taking good care of her stuff is not at the top of her priority list.
Any suggestions? I don't know what else to say or do to get through. I finally just told her that the next time I find her room is such disarray... I would just take all her stuff out and she would have to earn it back!!!! lol.
On top of all this- she get's WAY too much stuff from her nanny (hubbies mom) and her great aunt (her nanny's sister).... they shop way too much and have taught her to want things- but not value or appreciate the things she already has. Which is just another frustration level for me. My hubby has tried over the years (back when it was just him and his kid) to get them to understand and not go sooooo overboard, but it was like talking to a brick wall with them also. They wouldn't stop- and often he would just let it be to avoid conflict. As they tend to be opinionated - whether solicited or not.
There is much more to it... and more than I can explain in a single post- LOL- but overall we are doing good. But we have our own stresses right now- and all these layers are building up and the last thing I want to do is explode on the kid... so any suggestions would be MUCH appreciated.
Thanks