Cheshirista
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I think that my MIL sees this as her baby or something.
Every time I go for a scan or an appointment she asks me to ring her and tell her how it went. As if I have to report back to her or something. She relates everything I say or do to the baby, and to be honest, even though we've always got on well, it's stopping me going round there now because I can't have a normal conversation.
But then, the other day, I said that I'd given OH instructions that I wasn't having any visitors after the baby comes until I'm well and truly ready. I'm going to ask for an early discharge if all goes smoothly so I can come home asap, and I'm certainly not having anyone at the hospital or straight away when I get home. They can wait until I say so.
Then she said "Except us? I hope you're going to let us come straight away." In a really indignant way. I said "Nope, nobody." But I know they're going to be a problem. They only live 10 minutes away and I'm worried that I'm going to struggle to be left alone at all when LO is here. I know they're only excited, but they're doing my head in.
My mum has 'decided' it would be useful if she came to stay for a few weeks as well, to 'help'. She lives abroad, so I'm willing to let her come for a week or so to see her new grandson, but a few weeks? No way. We need our own space.
Why is everyone so hell bent on doing what they want regardless of my wishes? I think they're all being really selfish.
Every time I go for a scan or an appointment she asks me to ring her and tell her how it went. As if I have to report back to her or something. She relates everything I say or do to the baby, and to be honest, even though we've always got on well, it's stopping me going round there now because I can't have a normal conversation.
But then, the other day, I said that I'd given OH instructions that I wasn't having any visitors after the baby comes until I'm well and truly ready. I'm going to ask for an early discharge if all goes smoothly so I can come home asap, and I'm certainly not having anyone at the hospital or straight away when I get home. They can wait until I say so.
Then she said "Except us? I hope you're going to let us come straight away." In a really indignant way. I said "Nope, nobody." But I know they're going to be a problem. They only live 10 minutes away and I'm worried that I'm going to struggle to be left alone at all when LO is here. I know they're only excited, but they're doing my head in.
My mum has 'decided' it would be useful if she came to stay for a few weeks as well, to 'help'. She lives abroad, so I'm willing to let her come for a week or so to see her new grandson, but a few weeks? No way. We need our own space.
Why is everyone so hell bent on doing what they want regardless of my wishes? I think they're all being really selfish.