LittleBoSheep
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I was chatting with my MIL and brought up the fact that if it's a boy that me and my husband[her son] will have to sit down and decide together whether or not we would get him circumcised while I was just talking about trying to get hubby more involved!
She gets all upset and tells me that if it's a boy I should get it done because it's "cleaner" and starts ticking off all of these things telling me that "it doesn't hurt the baby" this and that and I felt like she was attacking me because I even considered not circumcising.
I haven't made up my mind yet because it is something my husband and I will research together and decide on just me and him if it even is a boy.
Then she goes on to say that it will be hard for the boy to keep it clean and that it will be like telling a kid to clean behind their ears!
at this point I am trying to defend myself from her attacks on my judgment! I'm saying that it's not any cleaner since it self cleans and you don't clean anything more than what shows, and that I will teach my son how to clean it and will monitor his cleaning if I have to!
Am I wrong to feel like she was attacking me!? She was so stern about it! Now I am scared to even bring up ANYTHING else!
Just like when I brought up breastfeeding and not wanting to use bottles and wanting to feed straight from the breast! She got upset saying I must be silly to think I wont use bottles [but that is not what I said!!!!] I understand that if I have to leave baby with someone else I will need to pump and have bottles on hand as well as formula on hand just in case, but I just feel like she is trying to push me to do things the way she wants and it's just starting to upset me.
I am thinking about not even talking to her about it next time or I am just going to put my foot down and say flat out that THIS is how I am doing it.
I have already told her that all of this is for ME and BABY to figure out together, not for someone else to waltz in and try to tell me how I SHOULD do it!!!!
Should I just not talk to her about it all? I mean... I want someone to talk to, but I didn't ask for her opinion! This is going to be my baby and is going to be raised the way I want him/her to be!!! She has had her chance to raise her son! Let me have mine!
She gets all upset and tells me that if it's a boy I should get it done because it's "cleaner" and starts ticking off all of these things telling me that "it doesn't hurt the baby" this and that and I felt like she was attacking me because I even considered not circumcising.
I haven't made up my mind yet because it is something my husband and I will research together and decide on just me and him if it even is a boy.
Then she goes on to say that it will be hard for the boy to keep it clean and that it will be like telling a kid to clean behind their ears!
at this point I am trying to defend myself from her attacks on my judgment! I'm saying that it's not any cleaner since it self cleans and you don't clean anything more than what shows, and that I will teach my son how to clean it and will monitor his cleaning if I have to!
Am I wrong to feel like she was attacking me!? She was so stern about it! Now I am scared to even bring up ANYTHING else!
Just like when I brought up breastfeeding and not wanting to use bottles and wanting to feed straight from the breast! She got upset saying I must be silly to think I wont use bottles [but that is not what I said!!!!] I understand that if I have to leave baby with someone else I will need to pump and have bottles on hand as well as formula on hand just in case, but I just feel like she is trying to push me to do things the way she wants and it's just starting to upset me.
I am thinking about not even talking to her about it next time or I am just going to put my foot down and say flat out that THIS is how I am doing it.
I have already told her that all of this is for ME and BABY to figure out together, not for someone else to waltz in and try to tell me how I SHOULD do it!!!!
Should I just not talk to her about it all? I mean... I want someone to talk to, but I didn't ask for her opinion! This is going to be my baby and is going to be raised the way I want him/her to be!!! She has had her chance to raise her son! Let me have mine!