Kirstyvic12
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Miscarriage is still a taboo subject,* not many people speak about it here's our story:
I can't begin to explain how angry I am.* So over the course of the last four days I have been in/out of A&E and the emergency gynae ward..* They first took my bloods on the Wednesday after waiting 6 hours;. We was told my hcg levels were fine..* I had pains so we went back again the next day,* after waiting another 4+ hours they re tested my levels done a check inside (where the put the clamp thing in)* and told us everything was fine..* I started having some bleeding on the Saturday so back to hospital,* another 3 1/2 hour wait..* they told us my levels had dropped a little bit but we should not worry and that I should be fine.* I woke up this morning (Sunday) with severe pain and bleeding...* We went to A&E where they referred me back to the emergency gynae ward...* 3* hours we was waiting for the doctor to tell us to prepare for a miscarriage,* she then proceeding to tell us that from the first set of bloods they basically knew I was going to miscarry. ..* She 'looked inside again' and said to the nurse 'pass me the fourceps'* I asked what was going on she said in a blunt tone 'wait I will explain in a minute'* she told me she could see the sac and was going to pull it out..* That was it miscarriage over...* I am so angry they knew this was happening yet gave us false hope.. At no point did anyone tell us a miscarriage was likely and to be prepared,* instead they told us I should be fine and it's early days, yet my bloods from that first Wednesday showed different..* They can't tell you that it's bad but they can give you false hope? How is that good practice?* She also left me sitting on the bed with no trousers on, bleeding,* scared, waiting for her to check inside, for ten minutes and left the room...*
I know it is their Job and it's stressful,* I couldn't do their job,* but no matter how stressful it is they need to hold some* Compassion for their patients,* I'm not saying all are like this,* but what we experienced over these days is disgusting and disrespectful..* They see more than one couple everyday who are loosing their baby but please remember we may be another number to you,* but to us this was our future,* our child and it may have only been with us for a moment but we will remember this and hold this forever in our hearts.. How you treat us in that moment has a huge impact on how we deal and process this news, as of yet I can't process what's happened because I am in shock.*
A lot is to be said for a woman pregnancy before 12 weeks; to professionals it may not be a confirmed pregnancy till that dating scan,* but let me tell you something that minute you find out your pregnant,* to you and your partner,* it's exactly that,* you are pregnant.. You can't help but allow yourself to feel some excitement as you both look towards your future,* and when you're told that it's over that pain is real and raw.
My heart goes out to every couple that has experienced this,* because until today I had no idea what this felt like,* and how you've all coped, I truly in my heart,* do not know.
I can't begin to explain how angry I am.* So over the course of the last four days I have been in/out of A&E and the emergency gynae ward..* They first took my bloods on the Wednesday after waiting 6 hours;. We was told my hcg levels were fine..* I had pains so we went back again the next day,* after waiting another 4+ hours they re tested my levels done a check inside (where the put the clamp thing in)* and told us everything was fine..* I started having some bleeding on the Saturday so back to hospital,* another 3 1/2 hour wait..* they told us my levels had dropped a little bit but we should not worry and that I should be fine.* I woke up this morning (Sunday) with severe pain and bleeding...* We went to A&E where they referred me back to the emergency gynae ward...* 3* hours we was waiting for the doctor to tell us to prepare for a miscarriage,* she then proceeding to tell us that from the first set of bloods they basically knew I was going to miscarry. ..* She 'looked inside again' and said to the nurse 'pass me the fourceps'* I asked what was going on she said in a blunt tone 'wait I will explain in a minute'* she told me she could see the sac and was going to pull it out..* That was it miscarriage over...* I am so angry they knew this was happening yet gave us false hope.. At no point did anyone tell us a miscarriage was likely and to be prepared,* instead they told us I should be fine and it's early days, yet my bloods from that first Wednesday showed different..* They can't tell you that it's bad but they can give you false hope? How is that good practice?* She also left me sitting on the bed with no trousers on, bleeding,* scared, waiting for her to check inside, for ten minutes and left the room...*
I know it is their Job and it's stressful,* I couldn't do their job,* but no matter how stressful it is they need to hold some* Compassion for their patients,* I'm not saying all are like this,* but what we experienced over these days is disgusting and disrespectful..* They see more than one couple everyday who are loosing their baby but please remember we may be another number to you,* but to us this was our future,* our child and it may have only been with us for a moment but we will remember this and hold this forever in our hearts.. How you treat us in that moment has a huge impact on how we deal and process this news, as of yet I can't process what's happened because I am in shock.*
A lot is to be said for a woman pregnancy before 12 weeks; to professionals it may not be a confirmed pregnancy till that dating scan,* but let me tell you something that minute you find out your pregnant,* to you and your partner,* it's exactly that,* you are pregnant.. You can't help but allow yourself to feel some excitement as you both look towards your future,* and when you're told that it's over that pain is real and raw.
My heart goes out to every couple that has experienced this,* because until today I had no idea what this felt like,* and how you've all coped, I truly in my heart,* do not know.
I'm currently experiencing bleeding, after having heavy bleeding and stabbing pains on Friday. I have to wait until Tuesday to confirm I have had a miscarriage with a scan, but I'm still devastated. I'm 9 weeks along but we tried for this baby for 3 years, and since the day I found out, I've been a mum of two.
