LynAnne
Mum to 2 Boys
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In the 13 months between January 2015 and February 2016 I suffered from five first trimester losses. I had three early losses between 4-6 weeks (Feb '15, Dec '15 & Feb '16), an ectopic pregnancy at 8 weeks (Apr '15) and a missed miscarriage discovered at 9w5d (Aug '15). It's obviously something that profoundly changed me and even now, two years on (and fortunately two successful pregnancies later) I still feel impacted by those losses. I still want to talk about what I went through. I do however feel like that there are less and less people I can talk to about it as there tends to be a belief that, with the time that has passed coupled with the fact I'm lucky to have two healthy boys, I should be over it. I should have moved on. In many ways I have but it's something that has shaped me into who I am now and I don't think they should be forgotten about.
It's made me think about the support that is out there for those currently experiencing a pregnancy loss or, like myself, still dealing with its aftermath. With it being such a taboo subject even now it isn't always the easiest thing to talk about for many of us. I know that many people can turn to family, there's medical professionals, forums like these and charities dedicated to loss. Sometimes I feel as though I simply want to talk to someone who has had a similar experience, someone I don't necessarily know. As horrible as it sounds, I took some comfort in knowing I wasn't the only person to experience loss or have those feelings. I have decided I want to be that person for other people. I just don't know how to go about it.
I used to write a blog (before all this happened) and wonder if doing something similar would be a good starting point? Create a community where people could share their experiences, I could continue to share mine and there could even be success stories. The only thing with a blog is I'm not sure how I become that "person" that people feel they can talk to, confidentially etc.
Is there anything that you wish you had (now or in the past) to help you through the grieving process?
It's made me think about the support that is out there for those currently experiencing a pregnancy loss or, like myself, still dealing with its aftermath. With it being such a taboo subject even now it isn't always the easiest thing to talk about for many of us. I know that many people can turn to family, there's medical professionals, forums like these and charities dedicated to loss. Sometimes I feel as though I simply want to talk to someone who has had a similar experience, someone I don't necessarily know. As horrible as it sounds, I took some comfort in knowing I wasn't the only person to experience loss or have those feelings. I have decided I want to be that person for other people. I just don't know how to go about it.
I used to write a blog (before all this happened) and wonder if doing something similar would be a good starting point? Create a community where people could share their experiences, I could continue to share mine and there could even be success stories. The only thing with a blog is I'm not sure how I become that "person" that people feel they can talk to, confidentially etc.
Is there anything that you wish you had (now or in the past) to help you through the grieving process?