Miscarriage imminent. Blighted ovum, apparently.

[amaryllis]

Bled today, went to the women's hospital, they did a blood test and my hcg levels have dropped. Clear sign of miscarriage and non-viable pregnancy.

Have been crying on-and-off all night. Am in some shock. Worried about how I'll be tomorrow when I wake up. I'm strangely relieved that it's a blighted ovum and not a little someone in there. In a way it's like a super-extended period. I just have a lot of hopes and dreams that are not going to be realised yet that I have to work through. And missing that content glow from the hormones and the thought of sharing your body with someone.

Don't know how I'm going to get to sleep tonight, as tired as I am. Woke up feeling so ill from morning sickness. Now I'm accursedly bright and unbothered by the illness. Just a slight loss of appetite.

Now the long wait to pass everything. It feels oddly like the moments after my old cat got put down a month ago. He was a baby to me, and I held him in my arms after he was gone, just sat there with him for ages cause it would be the last time I'd be able to hold him.

Feel the same with the empty sac in there, sort of - imagining what could have been. And enjoying the dying flush of hormones and waiting for nature to do its thing. A final bittersweet embrace before being alone again.

I can only pray that this is not my only experience of pregnancy.

 

[Petzy]

So sorry for what you're going through. This is likely not your only experience of pregnancy. Hope that we can have success with pregnancy sooner than we think. Take it one day at a time for now the emotions will go up and down. I didn't expect to wake up crying today because I felt pretty strong yesterday. I'm only three days into it myself though. Xx

 

[CastawayBride]

I am so sorry you are going through this, I just did two weeks ago this Friday. I found out and was shocked, I found out Jan 6th of this year that we were pregnant with our son, lost him at 31 weeks. Trying to have a baby has been brutal for us but I totally agree on the blighted ovum. I was calmer knowing I would not be passing a baby. it was a tough process, I took pills to have it come on faster and they worked within 3 hours. Now I am just spotting brown and hope to be done with the spotting by the end of this week, at 14 days post miscarriage.

You will get pregnant again, take care and before you know it you will be TTC again.

 

[traylee01]

me to, i had my 3rd sacn today and still nothing seen sac about 17mm,

what is best thing to do
im not bleeding or cramping, do i go see dr and ask for the pills or d@c or wait it out
i kinda just want it over and done with so i can move on
i have never suffered a loss before so dont no what im up for
any advice

i would be about 7 weeks from ovulation now

also my dr hasnt done bloods once so i dont no what im looking for there either

 

[CastawayBride]

me to, i had my 3rd sacn today and still nothing seen sac about 17mm,

what is best thing to do
im not bleeding or cramping, do i go see dr and ask for the pills or d@c or wait it out
i kinda just want it over and done with so i can move on
i have never suffered a loss before so dont no what im up for
any advice

i would be about 7 weeks from ovulation now

also my dr hasnt done bloods once so i dont no what im looking for there either

I can just say what we did, at 7 weeks we waited another 2 weeks to see if a baby would grow. When a baby didn't we agreed to the pills to bring on the miscarriage. I am now one week and 3 days later and just spotting brown, have no idea when I will ovulate again but glad I did not need a D&C as it thins your lining ALOT. I wanted to be able to try ASAP. Best of luck and take care....

 

[traylee01]

how quicly with the piills did you bleed and which ones did you get as im not sure my dr will even give me any

me to, i had my 3rd sacn today and still nothing seen sac about 17mm,

what is best thing to do
im not bleeding or cramping, do i go see dr and ask for the pills or d@c or wait it out
i kinda just want it over and done with so i can move on
i have never suffered a loss before so dont no what im up for
any advice

i would be about 7 weeks from ovulation now

also my dr hasnt done bloods once so i dont no what im looking for there either

I can just say what we did, at 7 weeks we waited another 2 weeks to see if a baby would grow. When a baby didn't we agreed to the pills to bring on the miscarriage. I am now one week and 3 days later and just spotting brown, have no idea when I will ovulate again but glad I did not need a D&C as it thins your lining ALOT. I wanted to be able to try ASAP. Best of luck and take care....

 

[phaedypants]

I have been TTC since a miscarriage at 11weeks in October of last year.

It was one of the hardest things I have ever experienced, and I feel so much for you.

There are some hard roads, but just have faith that there is a little one at the end of that road, wherever it may be!

 

[CastawayBride]

how quicly with the piills did you bleed and which ones did you get as im not sure my dr will even give me any

me to, i had my 3rd sacn today and still nothing seen sac about 17mm,

what is best thing to do
im not bleeding or cramping, do i go see dr and ask for the pills or d@c or wait it out
i kinda just want it over and done with so i can move on
i have never suffered a loss before so dont no what im up for
any advice

i would be about 7 weeks from ovulation now

also my dr hasnt done bloods once so i dont no what im looking for there either

I can just say what we did, at 7 weeks we waited another 2 weeks to see if a baby would grow. When a baby didn't we agreed to the pills to bring on the miscarriage. I am now one week and 3 days later and just spotting brown, have no idea when I will ovulate again but glad I did not need a D&C as it thins your lining ALOT. I wanted to be able to try ASAP. Best of luck and take care....

The pills I took were cytotec, generic mistroprol. I took advil one hour prior to taking them, then inserted 4 of them way into my vagina (as far back as you can get). I was then instructed to lay down or 3 hours. At first I layer there crying, they did nothing. An hour an half into it I got gassy. Then I noticed cramping in the front, like AF. It then turned into back cramping (the same cramping in my back I got with my son when I gave birth just no where near as bad). To be honest I believe taking the advil helped as I was in minimal pain.

At about 3 1/2 to 4 hours I bled, heavily. This happened for two hours. Changing an overnight pad every two hours. The first to pass was the sac itself. Again, no pain from this, it just fell out of me. To be honest it took a good 4 days after that to get my energy back so take care of yourself, set two days aside for the actual miscarriage and then another week of feeling eh....best of luck...

I am now one week and 4 days past and just having that brown nasty stuff when wiping. My positive is slowly going away on a pregnancy test, I am hoping to O next week....It is amazing all that we go through to have a child.

 

[traylee01]

my dr wont give tablets so i either gotta wait or go get d @C i have my papework to take to hospital now so i said id book in and wait a week see if anything happens

 

[CastawayBride]

my dr wont give tablets so i either gotta wait or go get d @C i have my papework to take to hospital now so i said id book in and wait a week see if anything happens

I'm so sorry hun...hang in there!

 

[traylee01]

i think i am gonna misscarry on my own, i dont no whether to be happy or sad, i feel kinda of relieved, like im sad about the loss but ill be happy if i can complete it on my own, i have a bit of mild tummy aching atm and i went and did a cervix check and im sure i saw some brown
does anyone know if they happen to have a bleed when your beta is at a certain point

 

[CastawayBride]

i think i am gonna misscarry on my own, i dont no whether to be happy or sad, i feel kinda of relieved, like im sad about the loss but ill be happy if i can complete it on my own, i have a bit of mild tummy aching atm and i went and did a cervix check and im sure i saw some brown
does anyone know if they happen to have a bleed when your beta is at a certain point

I am so sorry your doctor should know that if you don't progress within a certain time to see you. You have more of a chance of infection. They should also check to make sure everything comes out or you will have problems. I am glad I went the natural route and feel blessed everything came out. I did not want a D&C after going through that!

 

[traylee01]

i have a clinic check with gyno on tues and they will sort out a d@c if nothing has passed me then, as so far nothing today i had spotting last night but nothing since
my beta was 9700 2 days ago

 

[CastawayBride]

i have a clinic check with gyno on tues and they will sort out a d@c if nothing has passed me then, as so far nothing today i had spotting last night but nothing since
my beta was 9700 2 days ago

How you doing today?