Miscarriage in 2nd Trimester

[scrubgrub]

I had a D&C done at 16 weeks 2 days, I found out at 15 weeks 4 days, and it turns out the bub's heart stopped around 13-14 weeks. As I had a bad nuchal translucency scan and blood work, we're pretty sure it was chromosonal, but can't test it as the fetus was so far gone. I'm trying to be positive about this, and I have comfort in the thought that it's chromosonal and not hormonal, or anything to do with my body. I'll get a again.

So here's my question ladies"
I still look incredibly pregnant. The boobs I expected to be super huge, but the stomach is still there. I am really praying that the body hasn't taken on some extra storage all in this area, as is it really fair to lose my baby in the 2nd trimester after I've told everyone, AND get more fat!?!

So I'm assuming this is still bloating, my cervix, misc. other pregnancy stuff and it'll go down in a bit.. can someone tell me this is true, and I don't have another 3-4 months to get rid of this fat before I begin the cycle again! By the time I finally have my baby I'll have gained 50 lbs!!

 

[Lyns]

Oh hunny, I'm so sorry to hear your bad news. I hope you are doing OK.

If you'd reached that far your uterus will have moved up and out of the pelvic area and will slowly reduce in size. I don't think it will happen overnight, but it shouldn't be months. Depending on whether you gained any actual weight or not (ie did what i did and stuffed myself with biscuits, to ward off MS) weight itself has to be shifted the usual manner!

Good lcuk sweetei....i hope it all comes good for you soon xxx

 

[colsy]

So, so sorry I'm afraid I can't answer your Qs though. xx

 

[Widger]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't answer your question with regards to the excess weight but I'm sure that it is just a lot of bloating as even at 9 weeks my stomach was bloated? You will get lots of support on here when you need it.

 

[celine]

Im so sorry sweets i remember you were gonna have that amnio 2morrow I think. Im so sorry this has happened *hugs*

 

[MrsJD]

So sorry to hear about your loss

 

[scrubgrub]

Lyns, thanks I didn't put much on in the first trimester at all, and jsut barely put on the weight, so I'm hoping it is bub and water and stuff. I haven't got on a scale since the D&C, as I'm afraid to, both to see the weight, and to not see the weight as that means the bub is gone

Celine, yes today would be the amnio. Ironically, if I had opted to do the CVS on the 7th of this month, I would have found out a whole week sooner, probably better I opted to postpone, because it would have SUCKED to do teh genetic counseling and then find out my baby had died, I would have cried so much more. . . not that I was normal in the docs office. She was nice though, she let me stop crying before she sent me out.

 

[Jkelmum]

I am so sorry for your loss i am dont have any answers though sorry again xxx

 

[moomoo]

Oh scrub, im so sorry to hear of this. if you ever need to chat, just send me a message xxx

 

[maxine1]

I'm really sorry for your loss.

Hopefully your family and partner will be able to support you thought this difficult time.

 

[Chris77]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[jacky24]

I am so sorry for your loss hun... I lost my son at 37weeks and 2days... and i am going for 2years soon and i still look 5months pregnant, due to most of my skin on my tummy has no feeling due to c-section...
But in hospital the ICU nurses always rubbed down on my belly they said it makes the uteris pull back quicker...

 

[maizenblue]

Well Scrubgrub, here is what I hope you won't do....that is what I did. After 5 miscarriages the last one at 5 1/2 months giving birth to a baby girl, it took years and years to lose the weight. Why? because I am 49 yrs old and still motherless.
I kept the same weight to remind me of her.....the loss of a child is probably one of the most horrible things we will ever have to endure in this lifetime.
You are a beautiful woman, the weight will come off when and if you are ready. Take each day as it comes, but please remember you are no more beautiful 20 or 30 pounds less.

 

[sarah_george]

Am so sorry about your loss xxx