miscarriage?!?!

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thats really bad news, thinking of her x
 
i did try to write this earlier but pc crashed!
and ive been unable to get online due to the fact that OHs phone can no longer pick up a connection (ive been trying for three days straight)
i went in for blood sunday and then was told id get a call regarding a scan in the morning so i went home, still hopeful! i got a call about 9 00 monday morning saying it was a nurse from gynae and they needed more blood from me as the blood the dr had taken had clotted!
i went back and had more blood taken the dr told me to ring in 4 hours to see what was going on, so i did. when i rang i was told that all tracable hormones had gone which bascically meant id miscarried, i put the phone down and burst in to tears.
my dad came home and we had a huge a row with me at one point calling him a heartless dickhead ( out of order i know but hed called me dopy for not asking about the scan)
my mum had to ring back and was told they had disscharged me and felt there was no need for a scan!

now im unsure as to what i should do! i havent got a clue as to whether iv passed bubs and sac or not as ive not seen any trace of either i havent got a clue whether my dating scan on 10th has been cancelled and im worried that if bubs is still there i may get an infection!
but i dont want to go back there as quite frankly the staff are crap!!! and dont seem to give a shit about me or bubs!!
 
That is terrible, so sorry that they have been thoughtless and that you had an argument with your father, he should have been more supportive. I am so sorry for your loss. *hugs*
 
So sorry to hear that, and i know you don't need to hear it at a time like this but i think your hospital is a pile of pish and if you were my daugther i'd be screaming at them for how unprofessional they've been.
 
:hug: hun Like I said earlier phone your maternity unit tomorrow and ask to speak to a midwife and explain it all. They should give you a scan to actually confirm that you have miscarried, if they don't then go to your appointment as normal next week as long as they dont cancel it. Good luck and if you need a chat again just give me a buzz xx
 
kayley_baby said:
i did try to write this earlier but pc crashed!
and ive been unable to get online due to the fact that OHs phone can no longer pick up a connection (ive been trying for three days straight)
i went in for blood sunday and then was told id get a call regarding a scan in the morning so i went home, still hopeful! i got a call about 9 00 monday morning saying it was a nurse from gynae and they needed more blood from me as the blood the dr had taken had clotted!
i went back and had more blood taken the dr told me to ring in 4 hours to see what was going on, so i did. when i rang i was told that all tracable hormones had gone which bascically meant id miscarried, i put the phone down and burst in to tears.
my dad came home and we had a huge a row with me at one point calling him a heartless dickhead ( out of order i know but hed called me dopy for not asking about the scan)
my mum had to ring back and was told they had disscharged me and felt there was no need for a scan!

now im unsure as to what i should do! i havent got a clue as to whether iv passed bubs and sac or not as ive not seen any trace of either i havent got a clue whether my dating scan on 10th has been cancelled and im worried that if bubs is still there i may get an infection!
but i dont want to go back there as quite frankly the staff are crap!!! and dont seem to give a shit about me or bubs!!
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It's disgraceful the way they're messing you around. One set of hormone levels (considering they completely failed with your first bloods) and then sending you away isn't good enough. I'd call nhs direct and say that you're pregnant, have had bleeding and one blood test but you don't know what to do or what's going on. Sorry they're putting you through all this :hugs: x
 
They have treated you terribly, I am so sorry for you and hope the pain gets easier for you soon. In the meantime try to relax and much as possible and have your time to grieve. My thoughts are with you hunny.
 
I'm extremely sorry for your loss. :( :hugs::hugs: My thoughts are with you x
 
I'm so sorry for your loss Kayley. :hug:

I can't imagine how you must be feeling...
 
Im really annoyed with the way you've been treated, it all goes down to young mums and people dont treat you the same, my doc was the same which is why i went to a different one. You have the right to be treated the same as any other mum-to-be. I'd do what was said before, speak to nhs or something, and check your scan hasnt been cancelled and go as normal. If you really have miscarried (and i cant blam you for doubting it with the way they've been messing around) then they need to check its all gone through properly so you dont suffer even more, and if not (im hoping for you) then you will at least know for sure. Let me know how things go for you? xxx
 
So sorry this is happening to you:cry:..it is disgusting how you are being treated. Alot of them think they can just fob young mums off..but i hope you do get some answers..Let us know, thinking of you..be strong:hug::hugs:
 
I'm so sorry for your loss, and really angry over the way you've been treated.

I'm 21 but look a LOT younger and often get treated as if I am. I always take my mum or a friend of my mum's (someone a lot older) with me to appointments and usually find that I'm not treated with such a bad attitude, could this be an option for you if you go back to see your doctor and ask what the hell your supposed to do now?

From what I've heard and experienced it does seem as though a lot of doctors e.t.c. speak as if something is true without really checking it out first. I had a suspected ectopic and the doctor at the hospital spent a good 20 minutes talking as if it was ectopic! So I said "well is it an ectopic" and her reply was "we won't know until we've done a scan!!
What you had to go through was truly awful though and when your feeling a bit stronger you should definetly make a complaint.

Try your best to take it easy for a while and remember it's not your fault that this happened. (I'm not going to say don't blame yourself because thats not helpful.) You did the right thing, you noticed something wasn't right and you got it checked.

We are all here for you if you need support or just someone to chat to.

Take care hun xxx
 
ive just read the last part of yr thread and am absolty ivid with your treatment

you need to go back maybe to another a and e department with out a scan there is no way they can be certain you have had a complete misscarriage

remaining products of conception tht are not removed can cause infection!

having had 4 m/c previous 3 which required d and cs to remove the remaing bits i know how important it is

after ,y first m/c wen i was bleeding realy really heavy i didnt want a scan as the thought of any more interference was painful but consultnant insisted and glad he did because despite huge loss of blood and clots the sac had not completely passed

i dont mean to scare you and forgive me if i have but your health is important and i think its terrible they are denying you such a basic procedure!
 
Oh Gosh, I've been away for a couple of days and just came back and read your update. I'm so so sorry for your loss :hug:

The hospital are being completely unprofessional by the sounds of it, did you tell them you don't think you've passed anything? That should've been ringing alarm bells straight away... Go back with your mum or someone and demand a scan and for them to tell you what you're meant to do.

xxxxxxxxx
 
Hey hun,
I am so so so sorry for your loss. This is awful news :(
The way the hospital have been treating you is awful! I would go back, demand a scan because you may not have even m/c! And if you have I'm sure you're meant to take some antibiotics to prevent any infections. AND they should find the reason as to why you lost your baby! This hospital sounds bloody fucking shit!!!! xxx
 
princess_x0 said:
Hey hun,
I am so so so sorry for your loss. This is awful news :(
The way the hospital have been treating you is awful! I would go back, demand a scan because you may not have even m/c! And if you have I'm sure you're meant to take some antibiotics to prevent any infections. AND they should find the reason as to why you lost your baby! This hospital sounds bloody fucking shit!!!! xxx
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just a note if its yr first m/c or even yr 2nd they may not look into the reason behund it as u are not usualy refered unti 3 consec m/c :cry:
 
Quick update!!
i went for my dating scan today
and the sonographer said my womb was very clear and theres no baby in there so i have miscarried after all :cry:
 
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