xxMrsMcKxx
Trying for #1 after loss
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We got our first ever BFP a week before Christmas after trying for a couple of years with no luck. We couldn't have been happier. We was so excited we decided to pay to get a private early scan at 8 weeks. We went into the clinic expecting to see a little miracle, but what we got was total heartbreak - there was no heartbeat and the baby has stopped growing at just over 6 weeks - i'd had a missed miscarriage. Contacted the midwife and they put me in touch with the hospital who informed me that because i was early in the pregnancy, they wanted to wait a week and do another scan to make 100% sure.
So there we was, facing a week long wait. But to be honest, we knew in our hearts that that was it. And it was confirmed just a few days after the first scan as i started to cramp, bleed and pass clots. We've now had the second scan and it confirmed that there was no longer any baby in there.
I have cried and have shut myself away at home with DH and our 2 dogs for the last week. Yet i feel like i could just slot back into everyday life i am that numb. I'm not sure if its fully hit me yet, or if the week we've had waiting has helped in coming to terms with it. I am a level headed person and i know "these things happen", but i feel wrong in feeling this way. I want to be angry, i want to scream and shout, i want to cry until i'm sick, but i just feel 'vacant'. I feel like i'm not doing my angel baby justice.
Would like to know how you are coping/coped and if i'm on my own in feeling this way?
So there we was, facing a week long wait. But to be honest, we knew in our hearts that that was it. And it was confirmed just a few days after the first scan as i started to cramp, bleed and pass clots. We've now had the second scan and it confirmed that there was no longer any baby in there.
I have cried and have shut myself away at home with DH and our 2 dogs for the last week. Yet i feel like i could just slot back into everyday life i am that numb. I'm not sure if its fully hit me yet, or if the week we've had waiting has helped in coming to terms with it. I am a level headed person and i know "these things happen", but i feel wrong in feeling this way. I want to be angry, i want to scream and shout, i want to cry until i'm sick, but i just feel 'vacant'. I feel like i'm not doing my angel baby justice.
Would like to know how you are coping/coped and if i'm on my own in feeling this way?