Misscarried first pregnancy

[Lucy_lu_84]

I started bleeding tuesday evening - went into a&E they booked me a scan for thursday and sent me home! I spent remainer of night and all days weds crying my eyes out!
Went for scan thursday morning and they told me i ony had a 6 week old feotal - i was almost 11 weeks. so i knew it was only a matter of time. Booked me in for 2 weeks time and sent me home!

I miscarried later that same day! I have never seen so much blood - or felt such bad cramping.! Hubby poor thing felt helpless! Not been back into hospital...jsut been curling up on sofa with Hubby since! Still have the scan booked for two weeks time - so I will jsut go back then and I guess they can check every thing is gone!

it hurts so bad....I was so excited about the baby! Now I don't know what to do with myself!

 

[emmie]

im so sorry hun, reli hope tht u are ok and feel better soon xx

 

[NikiJJones]

So sorry to hear of your loss. My little one was dead almost two weeks ago, and I bled all this week. I know how much pain you must be in. This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I did nothing but cry for about 3 days. I'm now still feeling really sad, but have started to feel that I have a future again. This site has been the biggest help to me. Everyone has been so kind and it has really helped to share with other that have been through this too.
I'm sending you big and thinking of you. Let us know how you get on.
xxxx

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Thanks both of you...*hugs* It does help being able to talk with people who have been through it!
I'm still so sad, but I need to try and look to the future and beleive it was natures way of telling me something was wrong!

I'm sorry for your loss to Niki....its so hard isnt it!

 

[tink]

awww lucy,sorry to hear of your loss,it does get better,and its natures way of saying something was wrong,you will have another little bean soon xxxx

 

[TashaAndBump]

I am so so sorry for your loss

All I can say is, hang in there. Just do what you need to - cry all you need, talk all you need, and take all the time alone or with your OH that you need to, to just mull things over and go through all of the thoughts and feelings that are waiting for you...

I promise it gets better. It will never feel 'right' that you lost your precious baby, because it was not right, It's so unfair, and you will never ever forget the baby that you were expecting...

I was once told, that it is so hard to 'get over' a miscarriage because it is not mourning for memories, it is grieving for the expected joys to come - that never will now - not with that baby anyway.

However, it will get better and in time the pain will lessen. Your baby will never be forgotten, and while it will never be okay to you that you lost your darling baby, you will not always feel so hurt and lost as you do now. The pain does not last forever.

What I'm trying to say (and I'm sorry I'm doing such an awful job of it ) is that you just need to go through all the pain and the days that are coming, and look forward, to a time where you do not hurt so much.

Sorry it's all I can offer and I know it is not the best comfort...

Take care xx

 

[doctordeesmrs]

So sorry for your loss hun.

 

[Ang]

So sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. We lost our little angel 3 weeks ago. This forum got me through it and now I am feeling alot better. Lots of people have proberly told your that time is a healer and I got fed up hearing it when I was going through my miscarriage but it is true and even though it has only been 3 weeks for me, I do feel much more positive. Hang in there and if you need to talk, we are here for you xx

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Thanks so much girls!!
Tashaandbump - everything you said makes perfect sense!
One minute i feel like i need to talk about it...then i want to put it from my mind and concntrate on other things!! Have only see my sister and my parents, and recieved tets from friends! Not looking forward to going back into the world and seeing everyones sympathic faces!

it's people kindness that sets off the tears again - does that make sense?

 

[Fossey]

I am very sorry for your loss

 

[NikiJJones]

It makes perfect sense. I can be almost fine until someone offers me sympathy. I got home from my parents' house today and found a huge bunch of flowers from work mates and loads of sympathy cards. I just cried and cried. Somehow though the crying has to happen. Don't bottle it up.
Take your time before you go back into the world. I was stressing about missing work, until a friend confided in me about her miscarriage and told me that she had 2 full weeks off, and everyone was fine about it. I'm thinking I will now have a second week off too.
Give yourself as much time as you need. People will understand.
xxxx

 

[wishes]

it's people kindness that sets off the tears again - does that make sense?

I know exactly what you mean... before i went back to work, saw family etc i asked them to treat me normally and ust not ask me if i was ok.
I most definately wasn't ok, but i was getting on with it.
Thats all you can do hun. Take your time and do it whichever way you need to.

 

[Barneyboo]

So sorry for you loss x x x

 

[mrscookie]

Oh honey i am so sorry I cant even begin to imagine the pain. I hope you will be ok soon.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx *hugs*

 

[owo]

I'm soo sorry hun.
I went through the same thing two and a half weeks ago. I was 10 weeks when i started bleeding and after a scan was told that my LO has stopped growing at 6 to 7 weeks. This was my first pregnancy too. It is so hard when you get this far along as you think you are home free as you are getting towards the end of first tri only to be told that you've suffered from a missed miscarriage.
You will have up days and down days. Cry when you feel the need to, don't keep it all inside. I thought i was doing ok but still i have the odd down day.
It really helps chatting with the other ladies on here who have been through the same thing.
If you want to chat i'm here.
Sending you lots of

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Thanks girls!

Owo I know what you mean...I was finally starting to relax, thinking I was nearly out of the first tri...getting excited for my first scan. Only to find out I had a missed misscarriage!

I haven't been to doctors/hospital since it happened...do I need to? Also do i need to tell me our midwife or will hospital notify them that i had an emergency sacn?

 

[polo_princess]

oh hun im sorry to hear your sad news

 

[WW1]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I too went through the same recently - I was about 10 weeks but the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks.

Hang on in there - there are lots of hugs on this forum if you need them.

Much love x

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

thanks again girls!
Only when you do thru it do you realise how common it actually is

*hugs everyone*

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

Hey lucy, I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and give you a big hug