Misscarried first pregnancy

[owo]

Thanks girls!

Owo I know what you mean...I was finally starting to relax, thinking I was nearly out of the first tri...getting excited for my first scan. Only to find out I had a missed misscarriage!

I haven't been to doctors/hospital since it happened...do I need to? Also do i need to tell me our midwife or will hospital notify them that i had an emergency sacn?

How are you doing today?
The hospital will send a letter to your GP telling them what happend. So it can be added to your medical records.
You should call you Early Pregnancy Unit at the hospital and tell them that it happend. They will want to scan you about a week after it happend to check that you have passed everything. Your midwife should be informed by your GP. Don't worry too much about letting them all know, you need to focus on yourself at the moment. It is important to get that follow up scan though just to check you are all ok now.
Take Care
xx

 

[NikiJJones]

Hi Lucy,
Wondered how you are doing today? I've been back to my doctor today and been told that I'm now anaemic from all the blood loss. Might be worth getting yours to check you out for that too if you are feeling worn out. I've not been given a follow up scan, but seems so many of the girls on here have done. I'm wondering whether I should be having one too. I just couldn't face the Early Pregnancy Unit again though. My GP has been communicating really well with the hospital, so hopefully yours will too.
I'm thinking of you though. It will start to get easier little bit by little bit. I managed to get through yesterday without crying at all. Today I'm all over the place again, but I know I'm better than I was 2 weeks ago. I know that you will be feeling now like nothing will ever be better, but keep in touch with us here, and just take every day as it comes.
Lots of love and
xxxx

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Hi girls!

Am feeling a bit better, went out for the first time today since it happen - felt I needed to get out of my house. Wandered into town seeing all the babies got to me a bit - but I think it is good that I have taken the first step!
I called the hospital up after it happened, and the midwife said come in if you want... but i couldnt face it. Curling up at home was all I wanted to do. I have a scan booked on the 18th, I will go then and they can check that everyone is gone.

Thank for the support girls, it really helps being able to talk to people who have been thru it! *hug* Hope you are both feeling okay today!

Will you both TTC again once you are having normal AF agains?

Lots of love *& hugs
xx

 

[NikiJJones]

Glad you're feeling a bit better. You will find things get you tearful: especially anything to do with babies and pregnancy, but just take things little steps at a time.
I'm TTC straight away. Doctor told me no need to wait. I'm not holding out much hope this first month, but may as well give it a go. I don't think I'll be truely over this until I've made another little one. But I know most girls wait until first AF. Do what feels right for you.
Lots of love and hugs.
xxxx

 

[owo]

Glad to hear that you are doing a bit better. it is hard because you think you're doing ok and then something will set you off again, be it an advert on TV, loads of babies in town.
I am waiting for first AF before TTC again. 1)- because then i'll know that everything is back to normal again and 2)- I am going on holiday on the 22nd of June and i want to be able to go to the spa and drink cocktails(think i deserve after this), then hopefully by then AF will have turned up and we can start TTC again.
What about you? Any thought?

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

At first I said No i didn't want to...I was to scared! But we've talked lot about it and we decided we want to TTC again. Like you I will wait till my AF arrives, and I know everything with my body is back to normal!

You completely deserve the spa and cocktails...I go to Wales end of August. Might wait till after then so I can have a drink with my hubby =D Although who knwos how long it will take our bodies to get back to normal

 

[owo]

I was told that it can take between 4 and 8 weeks for first AF to arrive.
I think it is nice to have a break, to grieve and recover physically too.
The decision is yours in regards to TTC again, but don't give up. i have heard so many stories from women who miscarried the first one and then went on to have a large family.

 

[Vickie]

I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[NikiJJones]

Both of you definitely deserve holidays and cocktails!!! I found that having a little break at my Mum and Dad's by the sea in Wales last week helped loads. I admire you both for your patience. I am sure it is better to wait. I am far too impatient, but knowing my body, I'll still be TTC when you both get round to starting again anyway.
xxxx

 

[owo]

Both of you definitely deserve holidays and cocktails!!! I found that having a little break at my Mum and Dad's by the sea in Wales last week helped loads. I admire you both for your patience. I am sure it is better to wait. I am far too impatient, but knowing my body, I'll still be TTC when you both get round to starting again anyway.
xxxx

Good Luck with your TTC journey.

 

[Happy]

Good luck TTC and have a great holiday. We decided to not wait for AF and just started straight away.

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Both of you definitely deserve holidays and cocktails!!! I found that having a little break at my Mum and Dad's by the sea in Wales last week helped loads. I admire you both for your patience. I am sure it is better to wait. I am far too impatient, but knowing my body, I'll still be TTC when you both get round to starting again anyway.
xxxx

Good luck with TTC!

A break definately sounds good....sea air can work wonders

 

[Omi]

Hi sweetheart! just wanted to say first, so sorry for your loss and secondly, i have been through much the same. Went exitedly for the first scan at 10 weeks and was told baby died 2 weeks earlier. at 6 weeks gestation... so i can very much relate...

However, im here to tell you, you will get through this ( it happened feb 22 for me) and taking time off, slowly but surely getting back to normal- yeah, i rememeber going out after too . But, the thing is.. after some tlc, taking time out and giving your head and your heart some space and time.. you will feel more like yourself again- i promise!

We decided to ttc right again as was given the all clear at hospital. But the most important thing is listen to yourself..you know best and follow wahetever feels right. Even if it means having a big pizza, wine and ice cream followed by a self-indulgent cry- thats right, you should do what you wanna do

Enjoy the break and all that entails, a few cocktails and time off is just what the doc ordered!!!

, Omi xxx

 

[poppy]

I am so sorry for your loss.

xxx

 

[shmoo75]

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a complete miscarriage nearly 2wks ago. I can't beleive that 2wks have passed by that quickly. I am waiting until my 1st AF arrives then, like you said I will know all is back to normal and, then I can start all over again. Wishing you lots of love and happiness in the future.

 

[shimmyshimmy]

So very sorry.

Shim,
xxx

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

to everyone!

Went to a deptment store with my sister today and I thought I was going okay till i saw the baby clothes! I just had to walk away quickly - couldn't bring myself to even look at them!

good luck to everyone TTC again!

 

[NikiJJones]

to everyone!

Went to a deptment store with my sister today and I thought I was going okay till i saw the baby clothes! I just had to walk away quickly - couldn't bring myself to even look at them!

good luck to everyone TTC again!

Sorry to hear that you had a bad one with the dept store. I cried in Tescos last week on the nappy isle. But you are doing the right thing getting out and about. Just do little things step at a time, and don't feel disappointed when something upsets you. It is bound to keep happening. I'm still signed off work (my very kind doctor thought it wasn't best that I went back to teaching little kiddies for another couple of weeks: relief (!!) as I know I would just not cope) but am trying to get out of the house and do stuff each day, as I know hiding from everything will do me no good. Keep on trying, and feel proud at the end of each day to know you've got one step further away from the painful event.

xxxx

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Sorry to hear that you had a bad one with the dept store. I cried in Tescos last week on the nappy isle. But you are doing the right thing getting out and about. Just do little things step at a time, and don't feel disappointed when something upsets you. It is bound to keep happening. I'm still signed off work (my very kind doctor thought it wasn't best that I went back to teaching little kiddies for another couple of weeks: relief (!!) as I know I would just not cope) but am trying to get out of the house and do stuff each day, as I know hiding from everything will do me no good. Keep on trying, and feel proud at the end of each day to know you've got one step further away from the painful event.

xxxx

I do feel better for making these little steps though - it would be so easy to just hide at home! Aww you're doctor is nice - would be very hard going back to work with kiddies! You will get there though hun - one step at a time.
I've not actually been signed off - cos I haven't seen anyone since it happened! Work told me to take as long as I need though. Thinking I will go back Monday - see how it goes! Only work 4 hours and with 3 other people so It's not going to be to bad!


xxx

 

[NikiJJones]

That doesn't sound too bad. I've been warned that whenever I go back to work, the first day will be a tearful one, but as you say, your hours are not too bad, and at least you only have 3 people to face. See how you go, and go back when you are feeling ready. I just didn't feel ready to handle lots of primary aged children and lots of pregnant Mums or ones with babies in buggies in the playground. I'll have to manage it sooner or later, but may as well take the time the doctor has prescribed.
xxxx