missed misscarriage

[selina3127]

i was what i thought 10 weeks pregnant when i started bleeding after a u/s i found the baby had stopped developing at 6 weeks its now 5 days since this happened i have to go for a dnc on monday and its killing me i just want it over with now as i'm losing lots of blood and in a lot of pain
people just keep telling me we can try again i want to try again so bad, i have got 2 perfect little boys and they were perfect pregnancies so i don't understand why this has happened and as much as i want to try again i am scared stiff this will happen again as i don't think i could take it
sorry for rambling on xxx

 

[bevan88]

 

[susan_1981]

Aw hun I know what you are going through. I went for my 12 week scan, thinking all would be perfectly well. Had no bleeding, no pains, nothing. Just felt completely fine. Went for scan and then everything just changed in a second. I knew something was wrong when the woman scanning me wouldn't turn the screen to me. My baby was only measuring 7 weeks 2 days. I was absolutely devastated, as was my husband. This happened to me last year on 23 December and I had to wait until 29 December to have D&C. It was agonising knowing what's going on inside your body but there being nothing you can do about it.

But you can try again. It takes time to get over this but you will.

The fact that you already have 2 children probably means that it's very unlikely to happen again.

Sending you lots of hugs xxx

 

[Drazic<3]

I am so sorry sweetheart. I found out we had a mmc at 10weeks yesterday, but I need to wait until Tuesday for a DnC. It's heartbreaking, and I understand so much just wanting it to be over. I hope this weekend speeds by for us both

 

[selina3127]

thank you so much hope sending love to you all xxx

 

[Jody R]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. We lost our first baby to a missed miscarriage but at a later stage, I was somewhere between 20 and 22 weeks pregnant (my dates didn't match the dates that the scan came up with). I most often say our son was stillborn, because it's easier to make people understand what happened and it feels more right to me because I had to give birth to Ally.

I felt like you though, they made us wait two days after telling us he had died before they let me go into hospital to start off my labour and it was awful. I just wanted the waiting to be over.

It doesn't help when people tell you that you can try again. It doesn't take away the fear and it doesn't bring back the baby you have lost. I really hope that Monday is a gentle day for you but please go to the hospital if you are suffering now. Go with someone who can insist they help you.

And I am so very sorry about your baby, it's terrible that this has happened.

 

[Chilli]

Oh hun, try to be strong - I know it's hard as I've been there too, but take the time you need to recover before you face your fears and try again. lots of hugs

 

[Jolene]

So sorry to hear. I've just gone through it too if you need to chat - had the D&C on Wednesday.

 

[Las78]

so sorry hun, I can relate to how you feel having also had two perfect pregnancies and then a miscarriage, you keep asking why, not that any explanation would make it easier.

Give yourself some time before trying again hun, I am 9 mnths on and being preg has made everything so raw again and I am totally paranoid about this going wrong, i should imagine it is even harder to fall again so soon after but then again you need to do whats right for you when you feel ready.

Take good care x

 

[sophster]

Hi

I am so sorry; I went through a mmc six weeks ago, it is a massive, massive shock. With me I didn't find out until up to six weeks after my baby had died as they delayed my scan; probably thinking since I have kids already it will be ok anyway. And because I have kids people say 'oh it won't happen again' but I can never be so sure

 

[Mrs Doddy]

Sorry for your loss sweetie xx

I think that one of the hard things is there aren't always any answers to why we have mc and it scares us to think that it may happen again. I too am scared stiff that it will happen again. I couldn't cope with it again- but saying that we have to take that huge risk if we want a baby so all we can do is hope and pray

Ps thankyou for you message xxxx

 

[selina3127]

everyone keeps saying to me it won't happen again and it's just unlucky that its happened but this to me is making it worse as the more people say it won't happen again the more i believe it will, my partner really wants to try again and i will try again but this time i'm gonna take my time as this pregnancy happened 2 weeks after stopping the pill which i didn't expect as my 2nd boy took 10 months to concieve this time i'm gonna take my time and if its meant to be then its meant to be, thank you to you all again for your words of support, love and good luck to us all xxxx

 

[sophster]

Hi

I can totally understand how you feel; just give it time. Right now the pain is still all too raw...

Soph x

 

[selina3127]

well my prengnancy came to a end this morning as i have passed what needed to be passed, don't think they will do the dnc on me tomorrow now just hoping that my body can return to being my body now, thinking of all of you that are going through this xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Drazic<3]

Thanks sweetheart. I am so proud of you, you are so strong. I hope you can start to heal now hunny -x-

 

[amazed]

 

[selina3127]

well went into hospital monday for my dnc, what a nightmare i had was suppose to have it done monday but didn't go down to theatre till 11 o clock tuesday night so left hospital wednesday, i am relieved its all over but sad at the same time, it's now time to think positive i think, hope all of you are ok lots of love from me xxxxx

 

[Drazic<3]

I am glad to hear that the medical part is over sweetheart so you can begin to heal mentally. I know we will be taking a long break before ttc again, but you will know when you feel ready. Hear for you anytime sweetheart