MMC? Any advice please

[sarasparra]

Hi,

I'm supposed to be 8 and a half weeks pregnant. We went for a private scan on Sat (24th) and sonographer said she thinks I have a missed miscarriage. The getstational sac was the right size but baby only measuring just over 6 weeks and she couldn't find a heartbeat - so devastating

She did mention that I have a tilted uterus and it is heart shaped too which makes it more difficult I know to get accurate measurments and see baba clearly in the 1st Tri.

After a couple of days of crying I went to my GP this morning and he has referred me for a scan on Thursday to see if they can see any change. He was great about it all and did say that it is still very early and I shouldn't be too negative as it might not be a MMC. (He wasn't being trite or placating either, just factual in a kind way!)

I still have pregnancy symptoms - raging MS, sore boobs, knackered all the time and have no cramping or spotting or anything.

I guess I'm just after any advice or anyone had similar situation? I am fully prepared to go on Thusday and be told that my baby has passed away but have a bit of hope in me that my bean is still ok. If you have any experience - good or bad - I would appreciate it.

Sorry my post is so long!!
x

 

[meandu]

Can't answer, but sending hugs and hope you get positive news Thursday

 

[B&LsMom]

I think having the "second opinion scan" is reassuring. I had a mmc that was discovered at my 12 weeks scan on Sept. 16th--baby only measure 10 weeks 6 days--I would have been 11weeks 6 Days so baby passed a week prior to my scan. None of the providers I saw thought I needed another scan--my results were definite--prayers that your uterus is to blame for this scare and everything turns out OK.

 

[confusedprego]

I don't want you to read into my post too much but just want to give my story...

I went in when I should have been 7weeks 4days and the baby only measured 6weeks 4days with no heartbeat. There was also an unusually large yolk sac present - indicating potential chromosomal issues. They told me to prepare for miscarriage but come back the following week to see if there was any progression.

We went in the next week and the yolk sac shrunk to normal size and we could just barely pick up a heartbeat but it was really slow and the baby still only measured 6weeks 4days. I also have a tilted uterus BTW. They told us we might have our dates wrong and to come back in 2 weeks.

We went back in a week bc I couldn't stand waiting and the baby measured 5weeks 5days and there was no heartbeat at all..my gestational sac was still growing as it should and was the right size.

I too still had symptoms and boobs were killing me but I did have twinges of pain definitely in my abdomen and back.

I have my FX'd this isn't what is happening to you! Just wanted to share...

Best of luck and feel free to message me if you need to chat!

 

[sarasparra]

Thanks for your stories. Am sorry for your losses x

Is hard as part of me is still very optimistic (after a weekend of crying lots!) but not sure if I'm just delaying the inevitable and then Thursday will be heartbreak all over again. Is so difficult as my body is still very much telling me I am pregnant but my head can't make up it's mind. Guess it's just a waiting game now until Thursday morning and then take thing from there....

Thanks again for your responses, I appreciate it. Will update on Thursday
xx

 

[SabrinaKat]

I had an m/c two years ago at 7-8 wks and unfortunately, even afterwards, I had pregnancy symptoms for another few weeks, etc. HOWEVER, your scan on Thursday may be fine as with a tilted uterus, it may be more difficult to see everything. Wishing you the best....

 

[Sparkern]

Sorry to hear what you are going through. I found at about my mmc at 12.5 weeks, baby only measured 9 weeks and no heartbeat. Baby was also slumped in sac Midwife told me there was no room for error at all and our baby had definitely passed. I am really hoping that your story turns out well and you will be in my thoughts and prayers xx

 

[sarasparra]

Well today did not go well and after an internal and external scan it has been confirmed that I've had a MMC

Baby has not grown at all and appears to have shrunk a little and my sac is misshapen too. Was so hopeful even though my head was saying that it was over.

Am booked in tomorrow for an ERPC as just want to get it over with now and stop feeling pregnant Feel very up and down and bit nervous about the surgery too. My OH has been great though and my DD helps to put a smile back on my face so am counting my blessings.

Hugs to all who have gone through similar, it really is devastating
xx

 

[B&LsMom]

Well today did not go well and after an internal and external scan it has been confirmed that I've had a MMC

Baby has not grown at all and appears to have shrunk a little and my sac is misshapen too. Was so hopeful even though my head was saying that it was over.

Am booked in tomorrow for an ERPC as just want to get it over with now and stop feeling pregnant Feel very up and down and bit nervous about the surgery too. My OH has been great though and my DD helps to put a smile back on my face so am counting my blessings.

Hugs to all who have gone through similar, it really is devastating
xx

I am so so sorry. I was staying hopefully today would bring better news for your family : (

 

[NewbieLisette]

Awww hun I'm sooo sorry to hear this!

I'm still going through it so if you need a friend

 

[confusedprego]

So sorry to hear it didn't go well..was hoping everything would end up ok. Let us know how the procedure goes.

 

[Sparkern]

So sorry to hear such sad news Was hoping for a positive outcome for you.

I had ERPC too and was terrified but have to say it was so much easier, physically, than I ever imagined. I was really as comfortable as I could've been so I hope you can take comfort in that.

My son is 23 months and he has really helped pull me through this dark and horrible time, helped me to realise also to count my blessings, despite the awful hand we had been dealt. Sorry you are going though this too. Hugs and prayers to you.

This song really helped me through ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=koeZGaFEnHc

 

[Katiie91]

So sorry for your loss. I'm new to this. I suffered a missed miscarriage in July. Went for my 12 week scan, everything had been normal then they told me it had died. It was just the shock. I'd been so excited. Now 2 and a bit months on, still finding it very difficult! All I want to do now is try for another baby. Thoughts are with you at this difficult time x

 

[lemondrops]

I have read loads of stories about women with tilted uterus' having this problem. I was hoping it would be the case with me... but it wasn't. Then again, I ended up having a very rare issue going on. Fingers crossed for you! I've seen more misdiagnosed miscarriages with women with tilted uterus than correctly diagnosed miscarriages that early on!

 

[mdjoy]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have had a m/c at 7 wks and a mmc at 19 weeks and although my m/c at 7 weeks was awful, I just can't seem to get over my 19 wk mmc. She died at 14 weeks. It is so hard to understand how your body can just keep on tricking you for so long, even when baby is no longer living

 

[sarasparra]

Hello all, thanks for your messages.

So I had the ERPC 2 days ago and have to say it wasn't as bad as I thought. The nurses were great. I had a bit of a weepy moment just as I was going into theatre, kind of saying goodbye I guess but the nurse held my hand and felt bit better. Physically am doing really well, no pain at all really and bleeding seems to be minimal at the moment. My morning sickness, which had been awful, seems to have vanished completely which is a great blessing as it means I feel a little more normal and can have moments in the day when I forget about being pregnant, even just briefly.

Emotionally it's still very up and down. When I play with my daughter I feel ok as she is a great distraction but sometimes when it is quiet I just start to cry. I also feel guilty when I think about trying for another (which we have talked about already) as I feel like I will be replacing this baby which of course nothing could do.

I know it's still early days and will take a while to work through. My thoughts are with you all who have gone through this too as it is very hard.

Take Care ladies
xx

 

[grenouille]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Don't feel bad about wanting to try for another baby. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Nothing's going to replace this baby. It will just be another great little person in your family

 

[Sparkern]

Wishing you lots of strength on your road to recovery. I know you will never forget your angel, but the pain does ease in time. xx